Don't Feel Bad For Me When I Say I'm In A Long-Distance Relationship

Don't Feel Bad For Me When I Say I'm In A Long-Distance Relationship

There's no need for anyone to say, "oh, that sucks" or "that's annoying" or "I don't know how you do it" because I really do love my relationship.


When I first went out with my boyfriend, I wasn't expecting anything to come from it. He was in the Marines, stationed in South Carolina, and it was just a stupid Tinder date because I was bored and I thought he was funny and cute over Snapchat. Not only did he live an eight-hour drive away, but he was also heading out of the country for Christmas. I never thought I would ever hear from him again after I got into my car and drove back home.

But, I did, and a year and a half later, going on that coffee date was one of the best decisions I've ever made.

Right from the start, I knew if he and I were going to date, we would have to face a long-distance relationship for roughly two to three years- whether I finished school first or he got out of the military was up to fate. For us, being apart is normal. We're so used to talking through FaceTime rather than face to face and not seeing each other for weeks on end is more familiar than hugging. We've probably blown more kisses through the phone than having had real kisses.

Would I love to be just a minutes drive away from him?


Would I trade my relationship for anything else?


There's no reason for you to feel bad for me when I tell you I'm in a long distance relationship.

There's no need for anyone to say, "oh, that sucks' or "that's annoying" or "I don't know how you do it" because I really do love my relationship.

Being away from each other is just something we do. It lets us be independent, focus on work and school, but still allows us to support each other. Sure, long-distance relationships aren't for everyone, but couples make them work. No relationship is normal and like every other relationship, it takes patience, learning, and commitment. The only difference between a 'normal' relationship and a long-distance relationship is is that our 'date nights' consist of eating dinner together over FaceTime instead.

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To The Girl Before Me, Thank You For Shaping Him Into Who I Need Him To Be

You helped shape him into who he is today


I do not know who my future husband is and I do not know who you are, but I do know that you have an impact on his life. I do not know the details of your relationship nor do I want to. I'm not here to attack you but to simply say thank you.

No matter how it ended, I know that he will come out better and stronger once the healing is done. It is inevitable to heal the scar that you left behind, but I am more than willing to accept him for who he is and be the woman he needs in his life. I will love him in the ways that you could not.

I know that relationships are a struggle and nobody is easy to love. I know that we will have our struggles. We will fight over stupid things and disagree at times, but we will talk it out and work through it together. It is us against the problem, not us against each other.

Thank you for teaching him what he needs in a relationship, how to love and to accept the love given to him. Without you, he would not know the kind of love that he needs and deserves. Your relationship with him taught him what he truly needs. You taught him what kind of love is acceptable and what is not.

We are continually growing as humans to become better in every situation, and we will do that together. I will support him in every situation, for the things that you could not love and accept about him, I will love and accept with my whole heart.

For our relationship to work, it will take a lot of trust and communication. Will it be easy? Absolutely not, but it will be so worth it. Trusting someone with your heart is very difficult; you are giving them the power to break you, but I know that when the time is right, I can trust him with mine.

I'm sorry you were not the one for him, but thank you for help shaping him into the man he is and will continue to become. Whatever role you played in his life had some sort of impact and I thank you for that.

I know that my future husband will be my best friend and I cannot wait to live my life with him. Whether I have met him yet or not, I do not know. But once we are together, I know we will be unstoppable. I need a man to compliment my life, a man to have fun with, to laugh with, and to support me in my dreams in life.

I do not know why things didn't work out for you guys, but thank you for bringing him to me. Whatever you did, good or bad, thank you.

Thank you for bringing him to me and giving me my lifelong best friend, and to my future husband, I cannot wait to spend my life with you.

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It’s Harder FINDING Someone Who Wants To Be In A Relationship Than Actually Being In One

Oh millennials, we have made a mess of the dating scene...


I got super lucky once.

I wasn't looking for a guy, but I happened to find the exact one who wanted a long relationship. It's always when you least suspect it, isn't it? I'm newly single, but not quite ready to mingle.

Sure, there are plenty of new fish in the sea, but even they aren't sure if they are ready to sink or swim yet.

No, it doesn't have to be hard to have a relationship. I did long-distance on-and-off for four years, but we pushed through it because we cared about the relationship.

People can make it really tough on themselves to find that perfect person. It makes sense, we all want the right person that fits all of our needs and checks all of our boxes. But I think we as a society are a little more flawed than that. We also have needs of our own and those needs can really get in the way of our time together.

Say you find a person you could see yourself really being with. They will be there for your crying sessions, when you fail a test, when a loved one dies. But will they be there to also lift you up in your darkest moments and laugh together at every free moment? It seems a lot to ask of somebody, but in reality, it's just living.

Avril Lavigne was right, "why do you have to go and makes things so complicated?" In the long run, you'll always be upset if you keep up a checklist that no one can master. I'm finding out myself that not everyone is able to fulfill the basic requirements of a fun loving and easygoing boyfriend, but there is hope that one day, someone will.

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