I Met My Boyfriend Online Before We Started College And He Lived 2,000 Miles Away

I met my boyfriend on an app that my college sent me a link to so that I could make friends before coming to college. He posted a photo of himself on the app and I thought, "okay, he's cute" and did what any other girl would do, I followed him on Instagram. And no joke, 30 seconds later I had this message:

After getting that message, I was on cloud nine. This attractive boy that was going to school with me that I followed on Instagram direct messaged me. That was definitely a good sign. Unfortunately, though after a few messages back and forth, I came to find out that the cute boy that sent me the message lived 2,000 miles away and we were nowhere close to going to school considering it was only April. But, we talked anyway. In fact, the night that he sent me that message, I laid on my bedroom floor talking to him until 3 a.m.

I knew that night that I stayed up until the morning that he was something special, that I was going to fall hard and fast for him. And let me tell you, life gave me exactly what I expected, a hard and fast fall. We talked for days upon days and every conversation, I got to know him a little more and a little bit better. I got to slowly begin to fall in love with the boy I had never met.

While this all sounds crazy, it is absolutely what happened. Nearly everyone has this powerful tool with them constantly called a cell phone. It allows us to constantly be able to communicate with anyone, anywhere, any time. It allowed me to find my person. The person that I can't imagine going through college without. Doing long distance with him wasn't perfect. We had fought like a normal couple would, we disagreed, we got upset. We also laughed and joked, smiled, and made memories that I would never trade.

At this point, you may be wondering, well did they ever meet? Let me go ahead and answer that for you, yes we did. I made a joke one day about how crazy it would be if he took me to prom and well, see for yourself.

We also thought it would be fun if I went to Texas and visited him for a while.

Being in a long distance relationship with someone you have never met is a lot more difficult than being in a long distance relationship with someone that you have already established a connection with. In my relationship, there was not a foundation already set, nor did we have a strong trust established which is key in a long distance relationship. Embarking on a long distance relationship with someone you have never met is a struggle, but the moment that we met for the first time in person was one the best moments I have ever experienced, just being in his arms for the first time and getting to finally hold his hand.

These relationships are never easy. It's that simple. They are hard and emotionally draining. There are days when you just want to give up because it doesn't feel like it is worth it anymore, but I want to tell you that it is. At the end of the day, you will have made it. Every time that I picked up my boyfriend from the airport or he picked me up, those are the moments that I cherish. The moments that made all of the hard days worth it. Long distance relationships will always be what you make of them, but I am here to tell you that they are completely worth it.

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To The Woman Who Needs To Be Wanted, Don’t Let Men Be Your Vice

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.
Cai Parks
Cai Parks

By definition, a vice is a habitual or trivial defect... a shortcoming. Everyone has a vice.

Mine was men.

I always felt abandoned by the men in my life. I always clung to the opinions and attention of the boys around me...fighting for it in any way I could.

When I was younger, it was easy to get the attention of the boys my age by just dressing cute and having a bubbly personality.

As I got older though, I noticed that I was having to work harder and harder for their attention. Eventually, it turned into me feeling like I had to give myself to them in any way they asked to get their attention.

So that’s what I did.

I used my body as a way to fill some kind of void that I thought could be filled with the love of a man.

As the years went on, I felt myself clinging to not their love, but their lust.

I no longer cared about their love.

I just wanted to hear them call me hot, sexy, or beautiful. I knew they were using me.

I didn’t care.

I needed them to want me.

I needed them to beg.

I needed to feel needed.

For any woman who might feel as though a man’s lust for you can fill that deep void in your heart, take a step back. Trivial, temporary things like that will only make your heart heavier.

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with living life the way you want or with who you want, but don’t use that lifestyle simply as a way to make you feel wanted.

Because my Prince Charming came into my life and I no longer needed any other man.

I finally felt truly loved and he helped me to learn that even without him, I would be more than a body.

He helped me see that I was a body, face, brain, smile, laugh, personality, and everything in between.

I am a strong woman now that I know my worth.

You are a strong woman.

Show your strength.

Know your worth.

Cover Image Credit: @thersagrant/Instagram
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Everything You Should Know Before Dating A Fitness Instructor

Sex, weights, cheat meal dates.


As a fitness trainer, I know how much we love our job. How much we love the people we help and encourage. How much we never want to stop doing what we do. Yet, it's not all sunshine and rainbows. My boyfriend has to put up with some things that probably, kinda sorta are unconventional. But, he's living his dream (his words).

No matter what they teach, personal training, yoga, pilates, barre, HIIT, I could go on and on, but either way, they are passionate about the people they work with. This fire follows them throughout their life and will most definitely influence you.

1. Constant practicing

Don't be alarmed if you wake up to find her up and about practicing her routines for a class/client.

2. Gushing about a client who has been killing it 

No matter how much of a tough cookie we are, clients touch our hearts.

3. She's flexible

You. Are. Welcome. My best friends always introduce me to guys with, "She's really flexible ;)"

4. There's a routine, stick to it

We may be flexible, but don't come between her and her schedule. She is supported by her routine.

5. You are now a fitness class guinea pig

She needs you to help her rehearse. Approach her practice tests with enthusiasm and just have fun.

6. She'll never judge you

Don't ever feel pressured or intimidated. We love you for you. And, news flash, we are not perfect.

7. Always learning

Learning never ends. Learning new routines, learning new people, learning new emotions, learning new approaches to life.

8. And always eating

Teaching a few classes a day is tough on the body. We need our snacks. All. The. Time.

9. Stretches before bed... every night

No matter how tiring and long the day was, she will make sure to fit it a quick bend and no break.

10. The funny things that happened during class

Story time: One time I taught and my pants ripped. Only made the class more fun!

11. Shaker bottle vases

There's no need for vases, when shaker bottles do you justice. The first time my boyfriend brought home roses, I didn't have a vase so we improvised and used a shaker bottle. Now, that's the only vase we will ever need.

12. Free personal training

It's your dream come true. Fitness is at your right hand at all times. Plus, we will be pumped to start talking to you about our passion.

13. She talks endlessly about how well/not well your class went

Sometimes we kill it and sometimes... we fall a little short.

14.  Chugging water

We need to stay hydrated! Plus, she'll be your water tracker as she bugs you to drink with her. Shots! Shots! Shots (of water)!

15. Team work makes the dream work

There is no "I" in team and fitness instructors know the strength of collaboration and support. No one can go through journey a journey alone.

16. She wakes you up early to go on a run

Let's take a jog to the beach and watch the sunrise!

17. Protein, protein, and more protein

She doesn't have to be a weight lifter to assure that she nourishes her body with enough protein (from any source you prefer). My cupboard is always stocked with lentils and chickpeas.

18. Watching her watch fitness videos to get ideas

While you're reading the news, scrolling through Instagram, or just chilling out, she'll be watching workout videos or saving posts from fitness accounts.

19. Goes to bed super early

We need at least eight hours of beauty sleep and, let's be real, we are grandpas.

20.  She lives off of Spotify playlists

Wait, do you hear that song? What's it called, I need to add it to my workout playlist. Plus, she loves to sing (even if she isn't that good).

21.  Pulse 2, 3, 4

While she does chores, she'll start reciting her catchphrases and mantras.

22.  She's your forever cheerleader

Getting out of bed? If you don't squeeze it, no one else will! Washing the dishes? Let's go, you've got this! Running to the bathroom? One more minute! 30 more seconds! Mowing the lawn? You better feel it tomorrow!

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