18 Phrases People In Interracial Relationships Are Sick Of Hearing

18 Phrases People In Interracial Relationships Are Sick Of Hearing

After talking to others and pulling from my own experiences, I've compiled a list.

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After a friend finished telling me her experiences in an interracial and intercultural relationship, I decided to compile a list of things people have heard while in these relationships that we don't want to hear. They are over said and often said without people realizing their impact, but some people do realize their impact and do intend the impact.

Here's what you shouldn't say to someone in an interracial relationship:

1. "Why weren't *insert your race* guys/girls good enough for you?"

We didn't find a race that was good enough for us. We found a person that was good enough for us. Finding a person of a different race does not disregard other people from our own race.

2. "You should find guys/girls who are *insert your race*."

You should find someone else to talk to.

3. "Your babies are going to be so beautiful."

Of course they will, I'm their mother!

4. "I'll babysit anytime for you."

No, you won't if you're associating the beauty of my kids with mixed race. What is this comment even really supposed to mean?

5. "Do you have jungle fever?"

Black people are not animals.

6. "You must have yellow fever."

Can we not date Asians without it being a fever? What's up with this fever thing anyways?

7. Any food related jokes about skin color.

Don't say "of course" when I tell you that chocolate is my favorite candy.

8. "What do you see in him/her?"

Obviously, a lot if we are together. Is our partner's race supposed to make them less worthy of having a partner? Why is it questionable that we see something in them?

9. "Other people won't want to date you if they find out you've dated that race."

Good, I wouldn't want to date that person either if they are so prejudiced against a group that they'd deem me to not be dating material based off the race of a past partner. It's mutual! We wouldn't get along anyways.

10. "People might not like that you're dating him/her."

Do we look like we care? Once again, we wouldn't want to be friends with those people anyways. Why are you expecting us to seek approval of prejudiced people? We don't need it.

11. "Is it big/small?"

Why are you asking this? That's weird?

12. "Are his/her lips even the right size to kiss?"

Wouldn't all lips be kissable? This is also very weird.

13. "Is he/she crazy behind closed doors?"

STOP SEXUALIZING RACES.

None. Of. Them. Should. Be. Sexualized.

14. "It's just a joke!"

Clearly, if we feel offended we did not take that as a joke. If you actually cared about us, you would listen to us and care more about our feelings than your desire to continue making a joke.

15. "You couldn't find a *insert name associated with your race* so you found yourself a *insert name from partner's race*."

Tyrone, Ling Ling, Muhammad, whatever name you're about to say, don't because our partner has their own name.

16. Any ISIS jokes.

Absolutely not. That is completely inappropriate.

17. "White girls will do anything."

If you are not her, you don't know her values and desires better than she does.

18. "Get yourself a real woman, a black woman."

Aren't all women real women? I thought we were fighting for the equality of races, not digressing back to viewing certain races as not real.

If it's in this list, chances are you should most likely cut yourself off before the phrase leaves your mouth. These could be offensive, weird, and repetitive. Remember to think before you speak, consider any history behind the "joke" you're about to make, and if you're unsure, just don't say it.

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PSA: Don't Text And Date, Do It Like Our Grandparents

Waiting for a text from a boy is like waiting for water to boil. Sometimes I think if I take a lap around my kitchen then the text will magically light up my phone.

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Texting in our relationships has become so prevalent that it has snuck its way into TV. shows and movies, as well as songs. This makes sense because it is such a large part of our lives. Texting boys can be great in some cases, especially in long distance relationships.

And don't get me wrong, it certainly can be exciting!

But I've realized is that it has the potential to be incredibly inefficient and waste a whole lot of everyone's time. The time that is wasted is a combination of the time spent texting in a conversation that leads absolutely nowhere, along with the time you spend thinking about when that next text is going to roll in. Not to mention all the time you spend screenshotting these texts and sending them to your friends and asking advice on how to craft a perfect reply and agonizing over the right wording, re-typing over and over again, having everyone from your best friend to your Mom weigh in on the perfect syntax.

For a generation that is obsessed with getting everything as fast as possible, why are we contacting each other so inefficiently? We think we will just send a quick text, but more often than not, it turns into a whole production.

Snapchat can be even worse. Taking time out of your day to take a well-lit selfie and send it to a boy just so he can send you a snap of his actual chin is just ridiculous.

We are talking to people constantly about absolutely nothing. And quite frankly, we all deserve more. Technology is great, but just because it is advanced doesn't mean it's advancing our communication skills. Boys, I think it might be time to pick up the phone again. Imagine if instead of spending countless hours in a Snapchat conversation grasping at straws to make a plan with the girl you like, you actually just picked up the phone. The call would take maybe two minutes to set up a plan instead of whittling away a whole day. It seems like just because we have the option to text or message someone, we forget that we have the alternative of a trusty phone call.

If our grandparents had dated the way that we did, would they have ever worked out? Would our parents ever have been born? Would we even exist?

As I am re-watching "Sex and The City," "Gilmore Girls" and "Friends" yet again, I am overcome with nostalgia about what dating was like during these times. I'd love to come home to a message on my machine.

Maybe you're reading this and you think I'm lame and old fashioned and you're absolutely right, but I think I have a point. In order to have better success in our romantic relationships, we need to work on actually saying something. Why are we claiming we are "talking" to someone when we have never talked to them in person? How did we end up in this reality of sulking when we have been left on read, or obsessively checking to see if someone has viewed our Snapchat story?

We've been given all these ways of pseudo-communicating and endless time to do it and absolutely no rule book of what is acceptable. When you really think about it, it's a recipe for disaster that could be destroying our relationships before they even start. We need an Emily Post of technology to teach us how to behave. We need to stop abusing the convenience of technology and start challenging ourselves to communicate better.

I challenge you if you're a single lady that the next time a boy asks for your Snapchat, tell them you'd prefer it if they called you to make plans.

Guys, just call a girl! It might really impress her! Everyone who tries this has full permission to call me and yell at me if the person who calls you/you call says you're a huge freak. But do me a favor and start leaving your ringer on when you're not in class. Let's talk.

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13 Reasons To Date An Aries Girl ASAP

Once she's in, she is in with her entire heart.

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It's my absolute favorite season: Aries season! As an Aries, I tend to flourish as my best self once Aries season rolls around. I'm here to lead the way into the new astrological year, and as a single Aries, I'm here to convince single guys why they should date an Aries girl like me ASAP.

1. She's adventurous

She's not content with humdrum dates, she needs action or she'll leave you out of boredom. She'll be down for something to get her adrenaline pumping and will keep you on your toes.

2. She's driven

She's a girl with goals. She's independent and doesn't need anyone holding her back from what she wants. Support her or get out of her way.

3. She's all in whole-heartedly

When she falls, she falls all at once with her entire being. This is a girl who is willing to put her heart on the line for love once she knows it's real. You'll never have to worry about her heart being anywhere else but with you.

4. She's very direct with her likes and dislikes

She isn't a sugar coater since she hates liars, so she'll be honest about everything. Whether you like it or not, you'll always get the truth from an Aries girl.

5. She's super passionate

Whatever it may be, an Aries will be passionate for what she loves. I am passionate about writing, and I never let anything get in the way of it. In a relationship, an Aries girl will bring the heat that comes with her passion for you.

6. She's not a clinger

She hates clingers SO MUCH. Over the top PDA or romantic things generally make an Aries cringe (maybe not all of us, but I know that's how it is for me). She loves getting attention, but being clingy is a major turnoff, and she isn't one herself. She's not going to beg to see you 24/7, she likes to lead her own life.

7. She's a great listener

She loves to talk, but something she's just as great at is listening. She'll ask you so many questions to get to know you and really listen to what you have to say when you answer them.

8. She's big on friends and family, they come first

She's a big proponent of valuing her friends and family above all else. She will likely go to them for advice about everything. Meeting them is more important to an Aries than many people realize. If you're big on family, she's the girl for you.

9. She's open to anything in the bedroom

Got a fantasy? She's game to indulge. She's adventurous and that extends to bedroom activities as well. The same old routine bores her, so don't be afraid to experiment and try new things.

10. She only uses the past as a means to learn

She's probably got a rough past she doesn't necessarily want to talk about. The past is the past and she tries to use this as a lesson. It takes a lot for her to open up about it. She tries to be optimistic and keep herself in the present, and this optimism may rub off on you eventually.

11. Her cuddle game is epic

You'll never want to leave bed once your Aries girl gets her hands on you. You'll be too comfortable to leave.

12. She loves fashion and wears trends well

She loves wearing what's in fashion and looking her very best. Her outfits may put yours to shame. She's the kind of woman you want on your arm while you're out on the town.

13. She'll be the woman you'll never forget

You may break up or drift apart, but she's the girl that will leave a permanent mark on your heart. She's unforgettable.

Get your Aries while you can, because if you don't scoop her up, someone else will.

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