I've Got The Ice-Cream-On-The-Couch-Movie-Night Kind Of Love And I Couldn't Be Happier

I've Got The Ice-Cream-On-The-Couch-Movie-Night Kind Of Love And I Couldn't Be Happier

I don't need a fancy night out on the town to have a good time.

All my life I have seen, in movies and books and real life, that relationships mean nights out and fancy dates and getting dressed up. In all honesty, it looked like A LOT of work. Work I was not willing to give nor did I feel was necessary to give.

Anywho, once life brought along a wonderful human I get to call my boyfriend my thought process on relationships completely changed.


I am very low key, laid back, kinda tomboyish and my least favorite thing is dressing up and going out. My version of a perfect night is staying in with a good book, movie, or sports game and just relaxing. I could do that every single night.

So, when I realized I was falling in love with this boy I panicked. A million thoughts went through my head thinking about all the things I will have to do. Will I have to go out every weekend? Do I have to dress up? I was actually seriously worried about this.

Turns out I definitley did not need to be.

Brandon (this is the boyfriend in case you were lost), is just as low key and lazy as I am and that is absolutely perfect. The number of times we stay in compared to the number of times we have a night out is significantly different. And I love it.

Yes, we go out for food and do little dates occasionally. I do enjoy having a nice night out every once in a while, but our go-to "date night" is definitley on a couch at one of our houses.

Despite the occasional Chipotle date or a trip to somewhere amazing like the zoo, we are spending our money on two pints of Ben & Jerry's and heading home to cuddle up under a blanket and put on a movie. A movie that is never watched because we get distracted by talking and laughing, but it is absolutely perfect.

The point is, no relationship is the same. Everyone is different. Don't wish you could be like someone else's relationship or think your relationship has to be a certain way. You have to be your own person. You can't wish for things that just aren't you.

I know many people in my life who like the life of going out with their boyfriends whenever they can. They like to dress up, put on makeup and feel pretty. And that is perfectly fine!

For me, I am totally an completely in love with what I have.

I have my ice cream dates and cuddles on the couch with someone who is as in love with me as I am with him and I couldn't be happier.

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.


Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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It’s Harder FINDING Someone Who Wants To Be In A Relationship Than Actually Being In One

Oh millennials, we have made a mess of the dating scene...


I got super lucky once.

I wasn't looking for a guy, but I happened to find the exact one who wanted a long relationship. It's always when you least suspect it, isn't it? I'm newly single, but not quite ready to mingle.

Sure, there are plenty of new fish in the sea, but even they aren't sure if they are ready to sink or swim yet.

No, it doesn't have to be hard to have a relationship. I did long-distance on-and-off for four years, but we pushed through it because we cared about the relationship.

People can make it really tough on themselves to find that perfect person. It makes sense, we all want the right person that fits all of our needs and checks all of our boxes. But I think we as a society are a little more flawed than that. We also have needs of our own and those needs can really get in the way of our time together.

Say you find a person you could see yourself really being with. They will be there for your crying sessions, when you fail a test, when a loved one dies. But will they be there to also lift you up in your darkest moments and laugh together at every free moment? It seems a lot to ask of somebody, but in reality, it's just living.

Avril Lavigne was right, "why do you have to go and makes things so complicated?" In the long run, you'll always be upset if you keep up a checklist that no one can master. I'm finding out myself that not everyone is able to fulfill the basic requirements of a fun loving and easygoing boyfriend, but there is hope that one day, someone will.

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