All my life I have seen, in movies and books and real life, that relationships mean nights out and fancy dates and getting dressed up. In all honesty, it looked like A LOT of work. Work I was not willing to give nor did I feel was necessary to give.
Anywho, once life brought along a wonderful human I get to call my boyfriend my thought process on relationships completely changed.
THANK THE LORD IT DID.
I am very low key, laid back, kinda tomboyish and my least favorite thing is dressing up and going out. My version of a perfect night is staying in with a good book, movie, or sports game and just relaxing. I could do that every single night.
So, when I realized I was falling in love with this boy I panicked. A million thoughts went through my head thinking about all the things I will have to do. Will I have to go out every weekend? Do I have to dress up? I was actually seriously worried about this.
Turns out I definitley did not need to be.
Brandon (this is the boyfriend in case you were lost), is just as low key and lazy as I am and that is absolutely perfect. The number of times we stay in compared to the number of times we have a night out is significantly different. And I love it.
Yes, we go out for food and do little dates occasionally. I do enjoy having a nice night out every once in a while, but our go-to "date night" is definitley on a couch at one of our houses.
Despite the occasional Chipotle date or a trip to somewhere amazing like the zoo, we are spending our money on two pints of Ben & Jerry's and heading home to cuddle up under a blanket and put on a movie. A movie that is never watched because we get distracted by talking and laughing, but it is absolutely perfect.
The point is, no relationship is the same. Everyone is different. Don't wish you could be like someone else's relationship or think your relationship has to be a certain way. You have to be your own person. You can't wish for things that just aren't you.
I know many people in my life who like the life of going out with their boyfriends whenever they can. They like to dress up, put on makeup and feel pretty. And that is perfectly fine!
For me, I am totally an completely in love with what I have.
I have my ice cream dates and cuddles on the couch with someone who is as in love with me as I am with him and I couldn't be happier.