7 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Strong, Even After You've Been Together For Years

7 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Strong, Even After You've Been Together For Years

You don't have to let the fire die just because you're long-term.


A common theme regarding relationships in movies and television shows is that after so long, the fire dies. In these productions, the couple usually ends up unfaithful and miserable, but over time, each of them "rediscovers" their love for the other.

That doesn't have to be the case for real-life relationships, though.

You don't have to fall out of love to have the strong relationship you did at the beginning. You don't have to be miserable because you're with the same person for a long time. You can keep a strong relationship for longer than just a few years.

1. Continue getting to know each other

You may think you already know everything about your partner, but the truth is, people have way more layers than we realize. It's important to your relationship and your partner that you keep continuing to get to know them, to learn more about them on a deeper level. This is probably the easiest way to continually put effort into your relationship, but it can honestly be the most meaningful. There's nothing quite like someone wanting to know your deepest thoughts and what makes you tick. You never completely know someone, so keep putting forth the effort.

2. Make time for a date night

You may not be in the beginning stages of your relationship anymore, but that doesn't mean you have to stop going on dates. That doesn't mean it's okay to stop going out of your way and make an effort to express your love. Whether it's a five-star restaurant or it's just a half-priced appetizers night at Applebee's, whether it's a movie premiere or a cozy night in, any time spent alone with the person you love is the best time you could have. Date nights show your partner that you want to make time with them, that you want to switch up the normal routine of just hanging out to have a romantic evening with them. It shows them that you still want to put in an effort to express your love.

3. Communicate clearly and understand your love languages

Healthy communication means a healthy relationship. When you're able to understand each other's feelings and express your love in the ways that matter the most to them, neither of you will ever wonder how the other feels about you. You'll already know. You don't have to spend tons of money to prove your love. Communication can make or break a relationship, so make sure that you openly discuss what expressions of love resonate most with you. Doing this will ensure that you'll feel the spark for years to come.

4. Have separate interests

This may sound like something that would decrease the spark, but it actually does the opposite. You are two independent people that continually make the choice to love each other, which means before you met, you had separate interests. You lived your own lives, loving things that made you, you. While it's important to take a interest in the things your partner finds joy in, it's also crucial to your individuality to still be your own person. It's not healthy to completely merge yourself into another person, abandoning who you used to be. That will just lead to regret and internalized spite. You are two people in love, so it's important to celebrate that.

5. Continue to make memories together

Nothing is better than going somewhere or seeing something that reminds you of your partner and a good time you had. Go on road trips together, explore parts of your city you've never been to before. Making memories together creates fond times for you to look back on when the going gets tough. These experiences together are a great way to bond and grow closer together as a couple. By sharing these moments, even every day moments, you're engaging your partner in things that matter to you.

6. Touch each other

This can be intimately, but it doesn't always have to be. Physical closeness and touch are important expressions of love. Whether it's holding hands or giving them a kiss goodbye, you're letting your partner know that you're there, both physically and mentally. Physical acts of love like these are an important expression that keeps the spark alive. You don't have to stop being two crazy kids in love after your relationship goes long-term. Continue to choose each other, continue to love each other, and continue to keep things a little spicy.

7. Focus on your future as a couple

Yes, you're long-term, but you've still got a lot of years ahead of you. You have an entire future together, and that's too exciting to ignore. Think of all of the fun experiences and memories you'll have together. When you feel secure and trusting in a relationship, you know you can truly settle in and work for the future you've always dreamed about. When you know that your partner is committed to you and only you, you know you both have that shared goal of staying long-term. The future is an exciting thing for a couple because it holds the rest of your life together. Work together to get to where you want to go.

Your love doesn't have to become dry and dead just because the honeymoon stage has ended. Honestly, the honeymoon stage doesn't have to end at all, no matter how comfortable you get with each other. Comfort isn't something to dread. If you continually work at your relationship, you'll never have to worry about letting that spark die.

You don't have to fall out of love to find what made you fall in love in the first place. You don't have to view life with one person as a curse. You can keep your relationship strong, despite being together for years. Celebrate the fact that you've found someone to love and be loved by for so long. Continue to choose love, make an effort, and keep that fire going.

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12 Things To Know Before Dating A Girl Who Loves Country Singers More Than She Loves You

They’re just as important as you, babe.


If you're about to fall for a girl who falls for country singers, prepare yourself by knowing the following:

1. The playlist 

My playlist will go from Luke Combs to Blake Shelton and you'll have to deal with it. Your playlists are not an option. I will go on and on about how beautiful their voice is, but don't get jealous.

2. Releases

I will set alarms for new releases like Luke Combs "The Prequel" and you HAVE to be as excited as I am. I will be more excited about these releases than I am about anything else in life, but suck it up buttercup.

3. Concerts

I will give up time with you to go see my favorite singers and you’ll just have to understand. You can either join or not, but the plans aren’t changing.

4. Lyrics

You will hear me quote their lyrics more than I’ll say I love you, but just know I still love you.

5. Car rides

Every car ride will include country music, while it will most likely be Luke Combs or Adam Doleac blaring on the radio, you better enjoy every bit of it.

6. I will talk about how beautiful they are.

You’ll hear about their looks often, wether it be Luke Combs eyes or Luke Bryan’s voice, the looks will be brought up. Don’t get jealous, you’re just as handsome.

7. Their voices

Their voices are BEAUTIFUL. While I personally favor Luke Combs, just know I love yours too.

8. Phone backgrounds 

My phone background is most likely some country singer and not a picture of us, but you’re important, I promise.

9. Home Decor 

I will have pictures of Faren Rachels and I up before I have some of us, but realize I have plenty of pictures of us and one with her.

10. Awards

Whenever any awards are on, they’re number one priority compared to your Braves games. You can always watch recaps.

11. Singing 

I will randomly start singing any song by them and probably interrupt any story you're telling, sorry they're on my mind.

12. Dates

I will make sure any release dates for new songs, albums, or concerts are on my calendar; however, I will probably forget our anniversaries.

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I Asked 10 Brides What They Wish They Had Done Differently While Wedding Planning And Their Responses Ring True

When the engagement celebration sets in and the wedding planning begins, 10 brides give their advice on how to plan a kick-ass wedding.


Maybe it's just me, but I was almost in a state of denial after our engagement. I was on this cloud and I didn't want to start thinking about what's next. But a week later we started thinking about possible dates, venues, and budgets and that when the stress began— which wasn't fun.

It's hard not comparing one's wedding and planning processes to those of the movies and other friends. But every wedding is as different as the couple themselves are; that's what makes a wedding spectacular and amazing! So with wedding planning, I have found some of the best advice I have received has been from first-hand experience. These 10 Brides have something to say when asked the question, "What is one thing you wish you hadn't stressed so much when planning your wedding?"

1. Too much pressure on the event.

"Putting too much emphasis on the event, rather than the reason for being there. Make a commitment to God and each other to make it through the good and the bad times. That's what really matters!" Denise, married December 24th, 1994

2. Take in the moment and live it!

"About the wedding day being perfect, it's gonna go how it's gonna go. Don't stress about it, just take in the moment and live it. Oh and don't be a bridezilla. Ruins the day and the mood." Kayla, married December 9th, 2016

3. Do only what you want to do!

"Worrying about everyone else! It's YOUR DAY! Do only what you want to do!" Ashleigh, June 7th, 2017

4. Don't stress the small stuff!

" Planning wasn't that stressful for me! But when it came to the actual day, there were so many things that I was like, 'this literally doesn't matter.' Such as the flowers or decorations or the little details. Of course they were all great and everything looked amazing. But little details you don't even notice on your wedding day. For me, the day went by SOOO fast! Everything was so fast paced and so I didn't even have time to glance at the decorations table or card table. Don't stress the small stuff! Because on your actual day, it'll be the last thing on your mind! Because you'll just wanna see your groom so bad that nothing else matters!" Kelsie, married August 19th, 2018

5. Too many little details that nobody else cared about.

"Too many little details that nobody else cared about that I cared about too much! So much time went into it which I loved, but it's more about spending time with all the people that you love in your life! They don't care how much money you spend on the day or if everything goes perfectly. They just want you to have a good day and they want to celebrate you and your love and marriage!" Savannah, married October 1st, 2017

6. It's about you and your spouse.

"How much other people thought things are important to them. Dang this is my day and what's important to me and my spouse is what matters. It's about us." Denise, married July 28th, 2007.

7. Having the "perfect picture" like everyone else in my mind had.

"Definitely all the details that you don't really notice, like the seating chart at the reception. Don't stress about getting things done the week of the wedding, if it doesn't get done then it doesn't get done. You're going to get married regardless and no one will even notice it. I also had to keep reminding myself, it's about the marriage, not the wedding. Pictures/video were a big thing I stressed about because I wanted it all to be "perfect" pictures like everyone else in my mind had...I spent so much time finding pictures and trying to match those pictures that I didn't enjoy the picture finding process. I would also say that the night before the wedding don't stress too much about all the details that you hadn't gotten to because it's going to be beautiful and you need sleep, especially if you are going on your honeymoon right away because then you wind up sick...
One big one I stressed about a lot was how well all the pinks in my wedding matched (I'm OCD) Cloth napkins, table runners, the bridesmaid dresses, to the decorations." Presley, married August 18th, 2018

8. The guest list

"Honestly I stressed about the guest list the most and still do even now. Since my fiance and I are both from a small town and both have big families, it took us quite a while to get the guest list figured out. Our wedding budget was also a factor in determining how many people we wanted to have as well. At the wedding you want people there that are an influence on your life and it's hard looking back thinking of all the people that have been a part of it over the last many years. Once that was figured out it was a big relief, but it has also been fun planning everything. Even the guest list." -Morgan, getting married in June of 2019.

9. Thinking too much about making it different or comparable to other weddings.

"I'm a people-pleaser by nature. And because we are young I worried about people looking at our wedding and judging based on what we didn't have. I compared it too much to my other friends' weddings, YouTuber's weddings, and the stuff you see in the movies. And finances were a big stress in the early stages as well. But once we took a step back to just process what our wedding meant to us as a couple and what we want our marriage to be, we were able to lighten up a lot and have more fun! Yes, we had to refocus our finances and savings, but really we just kept reminding one another that this was one day to the rest of our lives together as husband and wife. The best is yet to come. - Megan (Me) Getting married in September of 2019!

It's easy to get into the mindset that your wedding has to be "perfect" and it has to look like weddings in the movies or in the pictures of other people. But that's what's amazing about weddings. They are uniquely yours. If you have a hard time getting out of this mindset like I do a lot of the time, just think about your fiance. Remember that you are committing forever to the one you love. Marriage is more than just one day.

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