Why You Have To Let Him Go

Why You Have To Let Him Go

Sometimes we need a push, maybe a shove, to really see what is in front of us. We hold on to relationships that ended a long time ago in hopes of rekindling what was once there, or simply hold onto memories you know may never happen again, and its time to let it go.
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For the boys who are so great for a solid two weeks then ignore you at the next party you are at together, for the recent ex who said he didn’t want a girlfriend for the summer, or the boy that seems to go in and out of your life. If you are not getting the love and respect you deserve, then it's time to let him go.

I know it is difficult and I know it sucks, but you have to realize your worth. If you do not realize your worth, how will anyone else?

While you continue to make yourself someone’s option, someone else could be making you their priority. You need to realize that waiting up late at night with your phone on loud hoping he will text you is not okay. I think we should all make a promise to never do that to ourselves again. If someone wants to talk to you, they will.

Point. Blank. Period.

You do not owe someone that much of your time, especially when you could be sleeping.

The time spent letting go is the hardest. But you can do it! Everyone does it, and everyone gets through it. And each time you come out even better than before. Focus on something new, and make that your priority. Whether it's training for a five kilometer run, saving for a big trip, or spending more time with your family -- invest your heart in something new or challenging.

This kid, whoever he was, taught you something.

He taught you that you can stay awake pretty late waiting for a single text and that you put others above yourself maybe a little too much. Most importantly, though, he taught you that when something isn’t giving back in the same way, it's time to let it go.

The sad truth in realizing it is time to let someone go is that it usually happens way later than it should.

Life is far too short to spend your time hung up on a single person. The moment you realize someone is not caring for you the way they should be, it's time to cut the cord.

This goes for all friendships and relationships. After letting go, you will see how you should be treated, your friends should be treated, and how you want to live your life. It is hard when you know someone cares about you, but if they do not care about you as much as you care about them, then it will never work.

If you have a pair of heels and you break one, you have to throw both of them away. The same goes for a relationship. If one side isn’t working as well as the other, the entire thing cannot work. You may try to fix the heel because you love it.

You’ve gone through good nights and bad nights together, but every step you take will feel more and more unstable –– and it is only weeks before that heel breaks off again. In your relationship, you may try to fix what is wrong, but it will never be perfectly fixed if the same amount of care and love is not there.

Throwing away a pair of heels is not easy, but the good news is there are many more out there that are even cuter and stronger.

So to the boy that texts you just when you have started to get over him, the one that lingers on your mind whenever you are out, and whose text messages you scroll way too far back late at night. You don’t have to hate him, forget him, or swear you will never see him again. You just have to choose you.

Who knows what the next pair of heels will bring?

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To The Guy Who Ghosted Me, You Broke Me Into Nothing By Saying Nothing, But Now I'm Bouncing Back

You betrayed me in a way I expected from any other guy but you

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I thought I hit the jackpot. I thought it would take me quite some time to find someone to replace the guy I lost, who I didn't want to lose. I thought no one would come close to him, but that's when I met you. You made me forget about the pain of the past with your comforting words. You were so real, you have gone through your own sets of trials, been through hell and back in many aspects of life, and you were there to talk to me and feed me warm, happy maple syrup feelings I didn't think I'd feel again so soon.

You drip honey, so sticky on the inside but so innocent on the outside, upon first glance.

I gave in to you in every sense. I opened up, I told you things I don't like telling people, especially a random guy I'd just met. You're the kind of guy a girl can look at and say, "Wow, this is going to suck when you leave." You weren't supposed to leave.

I was the girl who wasn't a psycho like your exes, but you couldn't handle something too real, too tame. Your thrill for psychotic bitches is your downfall. I was going to ask you about where we stood and prove doubters wrong. You were the boy I wanted to bring home in a few months time, to meet my family, to meet all of my friends, but you never gave me the chance. You left me to plans that you knew would never happen. You betrayed me in a way I expected from any other guy but you and ripped out a part of me I don't think I'll ever get back.

I trusted you to a fault because I'm someone who always looks for the benefit of the doubt in a situation. I cut you slack, I gave you chances to tell me the truth. You owed me the truth and all I got was you watching my stories on Snapchat, an answer without words. You bought me flowers and candy for Valentine's Day and made me pasta twice because you knew I loved it. You let me meet your dog. How dare you do things for me to treat me like something so disposable? Did I ever even matter? I felt something so real, a cosmic connection, and you broke it with ease. You broke me into nothing by saying nothing, but now I'm bouncing back.

I may not be making any leaps or bounds at the moment, but I'm going to get back out there. It's unfortunate that you defiled the trust I had, but I'm not going to let that stop me from opening up to anyone else. It's just going to be a rougher road to walk on since you've taken the smooth exterior away. It took me days before I could really cry over you. I cried hot tears of true pain, that burned my face when they fell. That being said, those tears have stopped now. I prayed over getting you back, asking those watching over me to reverse what's written for me, to give me you again, to have you give me an answer.

You're not supposed to be with me. I'm not supposed to be with you. You're another step closer to who I'm supposed to be with. Maybe it's you, just down the line when you get it together, but I certainly am not holding my breath for you or anyone else who hurts me ever again.

You ghosted me, and now you're a part of the list of boys who have done the same thing. Your ghosting stung a lot and left me more vulnerable than usual. But I'm not letting you and your lack of respect for me prevent me from moving on. I won't see you around, except on Snapchat, watching my stories while I watch yours. I'm writing this for me as I heal and look forward to the day ambulance sirens and the sound of saying your name in conversations stops hurting me.

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Hey Little Sis, Heartbreaks Are Rough, But I Promise You That It's Going To Be OK

I've been there — we've all been there — and it sucks, but it's not the end of the world, I promise.

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Dear Little Sister,

I know this sucks. Heartbreak is hard. Your first relationship lasted much longer than mine did, so I can only imagine how much more it hurts right now. I get it. But, you aren't alone in what you're feeling. So, here is my best advice for you.

Your feelings are completely valid

It does not matter if you broke up with him, or if you're still young, or anything anyone else wants to say. Your feelings are valid because they are what you are feeling. No one has the right to tell you what to feel—you have a right to feel your feelings fully.

Keep your chin up

You are a complete person all on your own—you don't need no man! You are great the way you are, and strong enough to get through it all.

Stay positive

This relationship didn't work out? That's OK! You're that much closer to finding the one that will. Mom's right—this just teaches you more of what you do or don't want in a relationship.

Don't jump into another relationship right away

I know you're used to having someone there, and the company and support are great. But don't let someone you care about become a rebound. If they really care about you, they'll wait until you're sure of yourself again. You deserve time to yourself.

You're going to learn who your real friends are—lean on them.

If your friends feel the need to pick sides over your relationship ending, they probably weren't really your friends to start with. Your friend circle is going to shrink a little, but that's OK. It's best to know who is there for you now. And while you're leaning on your friends, don't forget you can lean on your family. I know when you're 15 it can be hard to relate to your parents, but I promise you they care about you.

If you want to chill with Ben & Jerry for a while, that's cool

Puns completely intended. But, go ahead and eat the ice cream (there's no reason not to). You deserve it.

Do not forget your worth

You are beautiful and smart and kind. You deserve the best. Live your best life, my dear.

I know I don't have all the answers, but I hope this helps. I am always here for you.

I love you,

Your big sister

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