An Open Letter To The Wife Of The Man That Cheated On Me
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To My Cheating Ex’s New Wife, From The Ex He Probably Didn’t Tell You About

Know that whatever you do, I will support you and your decisions.

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To My Cheating Ex’s New Wife, From The Ex He Probably Didn’t Tell You About

To his new wife,

First of all, I will not tell you to run, to fight your way out, or to leave in the dead of night. I will not try to convince you to do anything you do not want to do. Ever. End of discussion.

I do not know you and, as far as I know, you do not know me. All I know of you is the life you have created on social media. All I know is what you and the man you love post.

But, as far as I can tell, you both are happy. You both love each other dearly and continue to care for one another each and every day. And I hope it continues this way.

I hope the two of you last. I hope he has grown since last we spoke. I hope he treats you so much better than he treated me. I hope he has grown into the man I always wanted him to be.

Whether he told you about me or not, whether he chose to work on himself internally or you worked on his past with him, you are someone that I knew needed to walk into his life. You are the kind of person I knew he needed from the moment I walked away.

The kind to stick by a man's side when he has royally messed up. The kind to call him out when he's messed up. The kind to accept his failures and love his faults.

And for this I thank you, I applaud you, and I cheer for you.

I thank you for accepting the man that I could not. I thank you for allowing him to grow into the man you deserve. I thank you for being his "one." And most importantly, I thank you for making sure I wasn't "the one."

I applaud you for loving the man that I could not. I applaud you for waiting on him to become a man worth waiting for. I applaud you for entering into his family and allowing him to enter yours.

I cheer for you and only you. I cheer for you to be happy, whether that is with him or not. I cheer for other women to have the life they want. If yours is with him, then I cheer for both of you. But I will also cheer for only you if he does something to make you want to leave him. I will also cheer for your safety and for your sanity. Always.

At the end of the day, I do not know what kind of man he is now. I do not know what kind of husband he is. I do not know what kind of wife you are. If he is a kind and loving man, one that does not mentally, emotionally, or physically tear you down each day; if he is a trustworthy and trusting husband, one that is secure in his life with you; if he is the kind of man that your parents dreamed of for you, then I will continue to be content with the joy that he brings you.

However, if he is a mean and rude man, one that continues to slowly tear you down day by day; if he is an untrustworthy man and a man that does not trust, one that is constantly insecure in himself and live with you; if he is the kind of man your parents dreaded coming near their daughter, then I will be here ready and willing to take on your cry for help. I will be here with advice, shelter, and comfort.

If he becomes the man that cheated on me if he becomes the man that I wished would take responsibility for his actions, if he becomes the man that I left, know that you have a sister and friend in me. Know that whatever your choice may be, I will support you and your life decisions.

Sincerely,

A Woman That Continues To Support Women

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