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8 Questions To Ask Yourself If You’re Debating Whether You REALLY Like Him, Or Just His Attention

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May 16, 2019

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8 Questions To Ask Yourself If You’re Debating Whether You REALLY Like Him, Or Just His Attention

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Sometimes, we find ourselves head over heels for a person. They seem to be perfect and you want more than anything to be with them. Other times, we find ourselves head over heels for attention — just longing for someone, anyone to give us good morning and good night texts, to listen to our rants, and to hold a Snapchat streak with.

I know I'm not alone when I say that sometimes I started to have feelings for people just because I enjoyed the attention they gave me. It's not the greatest feeling, but when you're so used to being alone, it's hard not to fall for someone giving you the attention you deserve.

However, at some point you have to ask yourself the question — do you really like him, or do you just like the attention? If you find yourself debating this, before you give it an answer, ask yourself these eight questions as well.

Do you care about him as a person?

If you find yourself having to fake interest in what he's telling you, you may not really like him and may just enjoy the attention he's giving you instead. If you truly like someone, you will care about them as a person and you will care about everything they tell you. You won't have to fake any of it.

Do you feel guilty when you flirt with other people?

If you don't, you probably don't like him as much as you think. You're probably more attracted to the attention he gives you.

Do you find yourself clung to your phone, wondering when he'll Snap or text you back?

This means you're probably more attracted to the attention. Unless you are talking about something ~super serious~, you can wait a few minutes for a reply and it's no biggie. Constantly holding your phone in your hand wondering when you'll get a reply isn't the most authentic kind of connection.

Did you start developing feelings quickly?

Most of the time, when you catch feelings very quickly, it's because you're attracted to the idea of having someone in your life. It doesn't really matter who it is, you're just thankful there's someone there to give you attention.

How well do you know this person?

Do you know a lot about him, or just the basics?

What are your conversations like?

Similar to #5, do your conversations run deeper than small talk? Are you really getting to know each other, or just talking to fill time?

Can you see the two of you getting into a relationship?

If you really like him, you're going to see potential for a relationship developing. If not, you're probably just thankful for the attention.

Is this a rebound?

Are you using this guy just to feel better as you get over the last person you dated? If so, I hate to break it to you, but you probably don't actually like him. You're just using him to fill a void.

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8 Questions To Ask Yourself If You’re Debating Whether You REALLY Like Him, Or Just His Attention

Do you feel guilty when you flirt with other people?

Do you care about him as a person?

Do you feel guilty when you flirt with other people?

Do you find yourself clung to your phone, wondering when he'll Snap or text you back?

Did you start developing feelings quickly?

How well do you know this person?

What are your conversations like?

Can you see the two of you getting into a relationship?

Is this a rebound?

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The Best Lines from the Fab Four

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

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There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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