10 Tiny Signs You're Just A Tad TOO Comfortable With Your Significant Other
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If you do any of these 10 things, you might just be a tad TOO comfy with your significant other:

1. You tell each other EVERYTHING.

Nothing is off limits. You talk about how your day went, the gossip between your friend group, and the annoying kid in your math class.

2. You hangout "unready" all the time.

No time for a shower or to do your makeup? No worries! You are so comfortable with each other that there's no need to always be presentable.

3. Eat whatever you want.

At the beginning of your relationship, you probably ate less on dates because you were nervous they'd think you're a pig..... but not anymore! When you're comfortable with each other, you large amounts of food, all the time!

4. They know your bad habits.

A bad habit of mine is eating a snack at night after I brush my teeth. At first, I would never let him know I did this... but after a while he knows and he doesn't care!

5. Going out to eat with family is completely normal.

Every time I see my family, the first thing they ask me is where my boyfriend is and if he's coming with us to dinner. They probably like him more than me anyways ;)

6. You are NOT texting each other 24/7.

At the beginning of our relationship, we were constantly texting each other, but now that we've been dating a while, we don't feel the need to text all of the time. We prefer to catch up in person and it's just as exciting! Not texting each other for a couples hours is no longer worrisome. I know we're both busy and I'm confident enough in our relationship to not need to know what he's doing 24/7!

7. Texting my S.O's family isn't awkward.

I'll send his parents a picture of us because I know he won't... and they love it! Texting his family is no longer weird because we are so comfortable with each other.

8. Time apart is refreshing.

When you go to school together, you want to be with your S.O. all of the time, because you live under the same roof, so why wouldn't you? But, when you become comfortable in your relationship, you no longer need to spend every waking second with them. It's refreshing to do things on my own!

9. You sleep like babies.

When we sleep next to each other, we sleep like babies. It's so comforting knowing he's there when I wake up in the middle of the night.

10. You don't give AF that you guys are so comfortable.

You actually kind of love it.

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4 Disgusting Ways Guys Sexually Harass Women At Bars Just Because They Bought Them A $10 Drink

There's just no reason for you to touch us at all.

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I'm tired. I'm tired of feeling like I can't go out on the town and have a fun night with friends without being on edge. I'm tired of having to keep my hand over my drink everywhere I go to prevent it from being spiked. I'm tired of having to deal with this every single night I decide to go out.

It's not something that happens only in the movies, and it's not something that happens once in a blue moon. It happens no matter what we wear, no matter who we're with, no matter what club or bar we go to. Women can't seem to escape being assaulted, sexually and physically.

Guys, we know what you're doing. We're aware of where you are in relation to our bodies, whether you're creeping up behind us to try to dance or just trying to "slide past us" on the crowded dance floor. We know what your intentions are, and we know your tricks.

1. Smacking and grabbing our asses from behind

It's a bold move that I honestly can't believe you thought would work in your favor. Like, you actually seem to think, "Surely, if I smack this girl I don't know's ass while she's dancing with her friends and has no idea who I am, this will end well for me." It never will. It's disgusting, and it shows that you are, too.

I have no idea who you are. Unless I choose to dance with you and actually seem interested in you so much as touching me, you have absolutely no right. Sexually assaulting me in the club does't show your interest in me to me, but it damn well will result in me smacking the shit out of you and having security throw you out. You never have any right to put your hands on a woman's body, for any reason, unless she explicitly and coherently tells you you can.

2. Trying to grind, even after we move away

It must either be pretty hard to take the hint or you just don't seem to care, and I'm opting for the latter answer. It doesn't matter how crowded the dance floor is, you can tell when a girl actually wants to dance with you and when she wants you to go away. Too many times, guys completely disregard our body language and how we vocalize that we'd rather be left alone with our friends on the dance floor.

I didn't ask for you to thrust your crotch at me, I didn't ask for you to put your hands on my waist from behind. Learn to take the hint and respect women. Learn that you don't have permission to touch me in any way unless I give it to you. If we move away from you after your first advance, learn to ask first and to respect our answer.

3. Physically trying to get something in return after buying us a drink

Your decision to spend your money on us isn't any of our business. We don't owe anything to you if you choose to make the first move, and especially if we don't reciprocate interest. Don't try to kiss me, don't try to grab me, don't try to put your hands on my waist. Don't try to follow me around after I tell you "Thanks, but no thanks." There's an obvious distinction between being polite and being creepy.

4. Catcalling us as we walk by

There's a reason I'm walking away. I don't know you, and you yelling profanities and unwanted comments on my body when I'm more than likely just trying to walk past you to get somewhere else is completely unwanted. It's not flattering, it doesn't pique my interest, and it doesn't make me stop and think, "Hey, he seems like a real polite guy. I should go home with him."

It shows me that you're an animal, that you're comfortable with making me uncomfortable, especially if I disregard your advances. Then, you get angry that I would dare not be interested in you and instead hurl insults at me to save your pride. Learn when a girl isn't interested and when your behavior is incredibly predatory.

It's become normalized that the price of going out is the likelihood of being grabbed or groped. With a crowded dance floor and booze flowing, it's become evident that guys think they can use these things as an excuse to get away with assaulting women. Whether it's putting your hand on my lower back as you walk past me or whether it's blatantly smacking my ass from behind, it's all assault and it's all unwanted.

More often than not, women don't even bother reporting or saying anything about the assault and harassment they experience when they go out. They assume that they will receive the blame for the violation of their bodies because of where they were, what they were wearing, and how much they had to drink.

None of that matters and none of that discredits the fact that you've been assaulted.

Being grabbed in the club and having your drinks spiked at the bar aren't just "part of going out," and they're not acts that anyone should be comfortable with just disregarding. Bartenders and security need to be trained to intervene when they can tell advances are unwanted, and a woman shouldn't be threatened to be kicked out for smacking someone who just sexually assaulted her.

It happens way too often, but it shouldn't. Guys, you need to learn that these behaviors are unwanted assaults on women.

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5 Questions To Ask Yourself When You're On The Fence With A Guy

Is he worth it?

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Whether you're contemplating if you want to continue your fling with a guy or contemplating breaking up with your boyfriend, there are always questions we're asking ourselves. Ranging from "is this right of me?" to "is this what will make me happy?" But if you are really sitting on the fence and don't know what to do next, check out these five questions you need to ask yourself if you're torn on what to do.

1. Do I want long term or short term?

This is a huge question to ask. If you're looking to settle down for a while, your guy may not want that. And it could always be the other way around as well. Make sure to decipher this with him so you both know what you want and no one gets a broken heart.

2. Can I see myself marrying this person?

I know this is a bold question to ask, especially if you're not dating. But really thinking about if you can see yourself with them for a long time can make it or break it. But say you're dating and you're on the fence of deciding you want to break up with them or not, think about if you can see yourself saying "I do" to them, and if you can't, let him go.

3. Can I see myself living with them/how do they live?

I've seen many people get engaged and move in together and later call it quits due to the way their partner lived. If you've been getting to know your guy for a while now and notices he lives like a pig, you may have to wonder if you'd be cleaning up those messes in the future.

4. How do they make me feel?

This question in a no brainer. If they make you feel bad, why even question continuing into the relationship.

5. Are they worth it?

Is he worth it? I know I have had some experiences when I was on the fence with a couple of guys and I've had to ask myself the same question. And when I'd question if he was worth it or not, my gut feeling always came out right. If you're looking to keep him around, always ask yourself if he's worth it.

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