I Asked 13 People In Different Stages Of Life What Love Is

I Asked 13 People In Different Stages Of Life What Love Is

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What is love? We all have a different understanding of what it is. My definition than yours and that does not mean that yours is more valid than mine.In these trying times, it is very difficult to keep positivity in the world. There is so much hate, so much frustration that sometimes we need to take a step back and enjoy each other and all the good things that are happening around us.

It is 2018 and yet I still feel like we are not where we want to be. There is still insane violence in the world, we are not truly accepting one another and we are turning on each other. America is considered to be a huge leader in the world but we struggle in some of the basics of making our country strive and it starts with our people and us feeling heard.

I wanted to find out about others’ positive thoughts and vibes; So, I spent the past couple of days trying to collect answers of what people would define love being. They are all different ages, in different times in their lives, both in a relationship and single. Here is what we came up with:

1. “What is love? Its give and take and a little heartbreak. Also not being able to imagine yourself with anyone else the same way.”

2. “Fargle” When asked what that even means, the answer was, “it's a word my boyfriend and I came up with one night. We came to the conclusion that ‘love’ was not a strong enough word so we came up with our own word for love and that word is ‘fargle’. It is own little thing."

3. Love in general- “Love is understanding, patience, and honesty.” Romantic Love- “Letting your partner be exactly who they are, and accepting that they are not you. Loving them for everything, every imperfect, quirky thing they might do. Love is the memories you create and the experiences you have together.”

4. “When my elder son was 5-6 years old, I read him some of Shakespeare's sonnets. About an hour after we finished, he came up to me and said, ‘I know what love is. Love is kinda like a shooting star that helps everybody get back to normal.’ I’ve always liked that, not just the idea that love is a shooting star, but that the state of loving / being loved is our normal state...so when we do not have love, life gets problematic.”

5. “Love is when your friend knows that you don’t have time to get food between classes and so they bring you some. It’s the little things like that that remind me I’m loved.”

6. “What is love?: I think love is being able to tell someone how much you truly care about them and how much you love them. Also, being able to trust them with your whole heart. Love is also being able to share how your day was and how it could be better. Love is also being able to be open and honest with your significant other about how you feel.”

7. “Divorce is pathetic. Love takes time, not 1 night, not at 1st sight (or bite!). What is love? It’s when you’d be nothing without him/her”

8. “Love is choice. To be in love with someone you have to keep choosing them, and decide to be in love with them everyday you can. This sounds really easy but its not. The day you wake up and realize you don’t choose them over the hardships and distance and over potential partners, that’s when you know its convenience, not love.”

9. "Love is a feeling, an emotion that I think everyone should experience whether it's through friends, family or a person. It’s a passion. Something that gives you the will and motivation to keep going. Love is an inspiration."

10. "True love is the willingness to put another life in front of your own. For you to adapt and change yourself to better the life of someone else, regardless of these sentiments are returned or not."

11. "Love is biting your significant other when he wants attention."

12. "Love is a deep and understanding friendship between people, it involves laughter and pain, no matter what the case may be."

13. “Love is having their problems become yours and vice versa. It is late night calls when you feel scared. Sending funny messages to each other when the other is feeling down. Going to each other's concerts or sporting events even if you do not like orchestra concerts or basketball. You are there for them. Love is that they are not ashamed to speak up for you or they are not afraid to get into a fight with you. You are strong alone, but you are stronger together. It’s blissful nights of complete silence in their presence, but it is also passionate emotions that gets your gears grinding.”

I am not saying that love is the solo solution for everything going wrong in the world. It takes, fighting, grit, some tears and a lot of patience. Our country is losing patience though and I am afraid that we are staring in the eye of a tremendous storm that will go down in history and the textbooks for a while. But with all the stress, heartbreak, challenges and crowd cries, I want to keep hope and keep my faith close. I am not the most political person, ask anyone, but I do know when to acknowledge that people are hurting and hopeful they will fond some light as well.

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.


Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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It’s Harder FINDING Someone Who Wants To Be In A Relationship Than Actually Being In One

Oh millennials, we have made a mess of the dating scene...


I got super lucky once.

I wasn't looking for a guy, but I happened to find the exact one who wanted a long relationship. It's always when you least suspect it, isn't it? I'm newly single, but not quite ready to mingle.

Sure, there are plenty of new fish in the sea, but even they aren't sure if they are ready to sink or swim yet.

No, it doesn't have to be hard to have a relationship. I did long-distance on-and-off for four years, but we pushed through it because we cared about the relationship.

People can make it really tough on themselves to find that perfect person. It makes sense, we all want the right person that fits all of our needs and checks all of our boxes. But I think we as a society are a little more flawed than that. We also have needs of our own and those needs can really get in the way of our time together.

Say you find a person you could see yourself really being with. They will be there for your crying sessions, when you fail a test, when a loved one dies. But will they be there to also lift you up in your darkest moments and laugh together at every free moment? It seems a lot to ask of somebody, but in reality, it's just living.

Avril Lavigne was right, "why do you have to go and makes things so complicated?" In the long run, you'll always be upset if you keep up a checklist that no one can master. I'm finding out myself that not everyone is able to fulfill the basic requirements of a fun loving and easygoing boyfriend, but there is hope that one day, someone will.

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