I Asked 13 People In Different Stages Of Life What Love Is

I Asked 13 People In Different Stages Of Life What Love Is

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What is love? We all have a different understanding of what it is. My definition than yours and that does not mean that yours is more valid than mine.In these trying times, it is very difficult to keep positivity in the world. There is so much hate, so much frustration that sometimes we need to take a step back and enjoy each other and all the good things that are happening around us.

It is 2018 and yet I still feel like we are not where we want to be. There is still insane violence in the world, we are not truly accepting one another and we are turning on each other. America is considered to be a huge leader in the world but we struggle in some of the basics of making our country strive and it starts with our people and us feeling heard.

I wanted to find out about others’ positive thoughts and vibes; So, I spent the past couple of days trying to collect answers of what people would define love being. They are all different ages, in different times in their lives, both in a relationship and single. Here is what we came up with:

1. “What is love? Its give and take and a little heartbreak. Also not being able to imagine yourself with anyone else the same way.”

2. “Fargle” When asked what that even means, the answer was, “it's a word my boyfriend and I came up with one night. We came to the conclusion that ‘love’ was not a strong enough word so we came up with our own word for love and that word is ‘fargle’. It is own little thing."

3. Love in general- “Love is understanding, patience, and honesty.” Romantic Love- “Letting your partner be exactly who they are, and accepting that they are not you. Loving them for everything, every imperfect, quirky thing they might do. Love is the memories you create and the experiences you have together.”

4. “When my elder son was 5-6 years old, I read him some of Shakespeare's sonnets. About an hour after we finished, he came up to me and said, ‘I know what love is. Love is kinda like a shooting star that helps everybody get back to normal.’ I’ve always liked that, not just the idea that love is a shooting star, but that the state of loving / being loved is our normal state...so when we do not have love, life gets problematic.”

5. “Love is when your friend knows that you don’t have time to get food between classes and so they bring you some. It’s the little things like that that remind me I’m loved.”

6. “What is love?: I think love is being able to tell someone how much you truly care about them and how much you love them. Also, being able to trust them with your whole heart. Love is also being able to share how your day was and how it could be better. Love is also being able to be open and honest with your significant other about how you feel.”

7. “Divorce is pathetic. Love takes time, not 1 night, not at 1st sight (or bite!). What is love? It’s when you’d be nothing without him/her”

8. “Love is choice. To be in love with someone you have to keep choosing them, and decide to be in love with them everyday you can. This sounds really easy but its not. The day you wake up and realize you don’t choose them over the hardships and distance and over potential partners, that’s when you know its convenience, not love.”

9. "Love is a feeling, an emotion that I think everyone should experience whether it's through friends, family or a person. It’s a passion. Something that gives you the will and motivation to keep going. Love is an inspiration."

10. "True love is the willingness to put another life in front of your own. For you to adapt and change yourself to better the life of someone else, regardless of these sentiments are returned or not."

11. "Love is biting your significant other when he wants attention."

12. "Love is a deep and understanding friendship between people, it involves laughter and pain, no matter what the case may be."

13. “Love is having their problems become yours and vice versa. It is late night calls when you feel scared. Sending funny messages to each other when the other is feeling down. Going to each other's concerts or sporting events even if you do not like orchestra concerts or basketball. You are there for them. Love is that they are not ashamed to speak up for you or they are not afraid to get into a fight with you. You are strong alone, but you are stronger together. It’s blissful nights of complete silence in their presence, but it is also passionate emotions that gets your gears grinding.”

I am not saying that love is the solo solution for everything going wrong in the world. It takes, fighting, grit, some tears and a lot of patience. Our country is losing patience though and I am afraid that we are staring in the eye of a tremendous storm that will go down in history and the textbooks for a while. But with all the stress, heartbreak, challenges and crowd cries, I want to keep hope and keep my faith close. I am not the most political person, ask anyone, but I do know when to acknowledge that people are hurting and hopeful they will fond some light as well.

Cover Image Credit: Deb Greengold

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To The Boyfriend Who Makes It Feel Like Valentine's Day Every Single Day Of The Year

I couldn't ask for better.


If love is in the air and it's all over your Instagram feed, that can only mean one thing: Valentine's Day is approaching.

When it comes to Valentine's Day, people typically try to go over the top and demonstrate how much love they have for someone else through giving gifts. Whether that's flowers, chocolates, or going out to dinner, the gifts are meant to show that it's a special day that's all about the person they love.

That's not the case for me.

Valentine's Day is just another day to me. The love I receive from my boyfriend on a daily basis makes me feel like a queen every day, so nothing will really change once February 14th rolls around.

To him, I just want to say two things: thank you, and I love you.

Growing up, I never thought I would know a love as wholesome as yours. I sure as hell never thought I would deserve it, either, but you've shown me my worth and what real love feels like.

I used to not know my worth. I used to only know love as something that turned toxic and controlling. You changed all of that once you came into my life. You have shown me a healthy love that was trusting and unconditional, and I'll love you forever because of that.

I don't need Valentine's Day to know how much you love me. I don't need flowers, chocolates, or anything material to know that you see the rest of your life by my side. I know all of these things because you consistently show me that they're true on a daily basis.

You show me love in everything you do, whether that's holding the door open for me when we go out to eat, asking me how my day was, or making sure that my mental health is okay. You always greet me with a hug and a kiss, and you make me feel like I'm the most important person in the entire world.

You don't need to demonstrate a grand gesture to prove to me that you love me because I've never once doubted your feelings for me. You always tell me how beautiful I am and all of the things you love about me. I'm so thankful to be so head over heels for someone who cares about me with all of their heart.

I could never ask for someone better than you to be my partner in crime. You know me better than I know myself and I love every fiber of who you are. I know that in everything you do, you have me in your mind and your heart. You've shown me what it means to truly love someone, and for that, I'm so grateful.

Thank you for showing me what I deserve, and thank you for making every day feel like the most romantic holiday on the calendar. I love you.

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If You're Grossed Out By PDA, Then Don't Look At Me And My Boyfriend Kissing, Easy As That

Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.


Whenever I see two people kiss, I always smile to myself briefly before looking away. That may sound weird, but honestly, there's something really heartwarming about knowing that other people are happy and in love. In a world that all too often seems full of hatred, heartbreak, and suffering, I try to value little moments of love. I've always felt this way, regardless of whether I was moody or happy, single or cuffed, and having a good or bad day. But apparently, other people, as I've recently found out, don't feel the same way.

"Do you two ever brush your teeth?"

"Are you picking bugs off of each other?"

*Other various glares and audibly annoyed sounds*

Talk about a mood killer, right?

I'll never get what possesses people to say stuff like that when there's a simple solution to this problem.

Don't like it? Don't look.

No one is forcing you to watch us be affectionate with each other. You can easily turn around, check the notifications on your phone, or talk to whoever you're with instead.

I've kissed my boyfriend in LOADS of places: restaurants, bus stops, school buildings, carnivals, parks, beaches, cars, apartments, social gatherings, and so on... And I can promise you that even when you act disgusted by what we're doing or make a nasty comment about us, we're not going to stop. So there's really no point in wasting your breath or expending energy on overdramatic facial expressions.

Even if just for a brief moment, try to think about why a couple might be showing affection for each other in public. (News flash: They're not doing it to deliberately make you comfortable.) It's more than likely that these two people are making the most of a moment.

They're happy and in love. There's nothing wrong with that.

On the flip side, why are you making such a big deal out of something that doesn't involve you whatsoever? My guess is that you're either unbearably lonely, jealous because your own relationship isn't suiting your needs, or just generally coldhearted. If any of those scenarios are true, I wouldn't be surprised. You chose to be hateful and rude over being civil and staying out of matters that don't personally involve you.

Regardless of the circumstance, it's a you problem that you need to work out on your own time.

Just like communication and effort, affection is an important part of a relationship. I want my boyfriend to know that regardless of where we are or who is around us, I will never be embarrassed or reluctant to kiss him or touch him. His feelings guide my behavior. He's my #1 priority. Building my relationship and showing my boyfriend how much I love him will always be more important than catering to someone's bitterness.

You can't avoid being around happy couples in public (really, we're everywhere), but you can change your reaction to them. And that's that.

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