5 Irresistably Romantic Gift Ideas Based On Your Valentine's Love Language
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It takes skill to love someone the way they need to be loved and put your love language aside. By learning your partner's love language you can conquer Valentine's day and guarantee a stronger relationship. Some people like you to show them how you feel and couldn't care less about words. They want to see action as proof of affection. But some would rather have blunt and to the point words to feel their most loved.

Discovering your partner's love language and what sort of gift or service they prefer doesn't have to be a riddle with no answer. Observing their reactions can usually help solve the puzzle based on how they respond to various shows of affection. (Or you can casually take the free online assessment here!)

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1. Acts of Service: Breakfast in bed

Do you know anyone who values a hot-and-ready dinner made for their arrival from work or swoons when all the chores are done in advance? Chances are these individuals speak in acts of service as their main love language. To impress them, try making them a surprise breakfast in bed or a surprise homemade dinner for when they get home. Do something for them that they would otherwise have to do if you weren't there. Go the extra mile and include some candles for a spark. Nothing speaks to an act of service person's heart like getting spoiled with thoughtful gestures.

2. Words of Affirmation - Letter

For those who are privy to words of affirmation, will be tending to melted hearts when they receive a handwritten letter, notating all your inner dialogue on why exactly you love them. Showing a vulnerable side of yourself in a tangible message will reassure the receiver that you have a strong affection for them, answering any unanswered questions they might have about your feelings. People with this love language preference find written or spoken praise to be their bread and butter, making a letter the perfect gift for them to reread over and over again!

3. Physical Touch - Massage 

A giant hug or a back rub can trigger the warmest emotional bond for people who are fond of physical touch above all the other love languages. In this case, a long massage after a busy week would unlock massive kudos. There are loads of tutorials from masters of this skill on YouTube that can assist in learning a few helpful techniques to impress your mate and leave them feeling rejuvenated at the end of the session. For additional flair, add in some chocolate covered strawberries and wine, or a favorite treat to snuggle and enjoy together afterward!

4. Quality time - Movie in a fort

Quality time is all about devoting undivided attention to another person, so mute those phones and commit to a few hours of movies or board games or any other activity they cherish. As a fellow quality time lover, I can attest to the grand ol' adult fort complete with cocktails, fuzzy blankets, and a variety of activities. Even if they don't love movies or games, you can always find creative ways to incorporate this idea in a slightly different way. Depending on what your significant other values, have the fort all stocked with games, movies, drinks, and snacks or art supplies to paint with before they arrive!

5. Gifts - Small present 

Everyone loves presents, but some people are even more obsessed than the rest of us. They find unmatched magic in giving and receiving gifts, which works in your favor because then you get to spoil them without having to decode their love language. Homemade gifts are usually more exciting. Plus it gives you the opportunity to make them an exceptionally personal gift, like a mixed CD or a date night in a box! But if you don't feel like going through all that jazz, just buy them something you've heard them mention before. Either way, they will be delighted to unwrap a surprise.

This season is really all about showing your loved ones how much you care, regardless of romantic relationship status. The gesture isn't limited to significant others! Doing nice things for the people you love can be any day of the week or time of the year. Discovering love languages doesn't have to be tricky, but can be exhilarating discovering new things about each other.

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Quit Settling For The Boy Who Is Just 'Good Enough'

And start to realize your self-worth

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Quit telling yourself that you are not good enough because that is not true. I have told myself countless times that I am not good enough. Sure, I make mistakes daily and I am not always an easy person to deal with.

However, when you are looking for a boy you should NEVER settle.

If we are being completely honest I am the girl who has always played games, and I am not talking about board games. I am talking about the games where I lead boys on just to turn them down when they ask me out.

I know this might not be the best quality to have, but the truth is commitment scares me and this is the only way I know how to avoid it.

Most men do not stay around long when they find out that you are just playing games, and that you do not actually want to settle down with them.

However, there is this boy who is not like the others because he stuck with me through all of the "games". It does not matter how far I try to push him away he is always right there with me.

Since we are being honest, there never has been a man that has kept my attention for very long. Except for this one that I met four years ago in high school. When I say he is like no other he truly is and he actually understands me sometimes more than I understand myself.

I have stood him up on dates, led him on and I have left him on read countless times. Despite all the games I have played with him he is so persistent. I do not know any other man who would keep trying even after all the games I play. In fact, he is the only one who did not give up on me almost immediately.

It does not matter what time it is or what he is doing he would drop anything just to see me.

Like the time he was on his way to the baseball game and he turned around and went home just so he could see me. There have been countless nights that I have called him, and he has always been there with open arms.

One Sunday morning I was on the way to church and I did not want to go alone, so I called him up and even though he worked all night he still agreed to come with no hesitation. Even when he was hours away for his internship he was always a call away.

More than anything this is the boy who would do anything to see me happy. When I was in a toxic relationship he gave me the best advice. He did not tell me to break up with my ex because he wanted to date me, but it was all for selfless reasons like the most important being my happiness. Even though he wants nothing more than to date me he would give all that up if it meant that I was happy.

Since I am being completely transparent here if you could not already tell I am not the easiest to deal with. I know that I can be a handful, and maybe the same is true for you. However, just because I can be a little much does not mean that I should find someone who just tolerates me or just puts up with me.

Regardless of the kind of girl you are you deserve more and quit telling yourself that he is good enough when you know deep down it is not really enough.

I have always been a free spirit and it is hard for most boys to understand that. I have tried changing for boys and settling down so that I could have a relationship with them.

However, this boy understands who I am and he still loves me for me.

At the end of the day, you cannot change who you truly are because the truth always has a way of coming out. Sure, you could try settling for good enough, but your boy is out there somewhere and when you find him no one else will ever compare. I promise that boy will always be better than just good enough.

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7 Ways My Boyfriend and I Make The Whole ‘Long Distance Thing' Work

Yes, it does suck but there are ways to make it work.

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Long distance.

That has been a phrase dreaded by many and feared by most.

Whether your in the situation because of one person moving, someone studying abroad, or whatever it is, you are faced with the options to either end the relationship or try to make things work long distance.

If you ask people who have tried doing the whole long distance thing and they are honest, they may tell you that it sucks or that it is hard.

And that is true.

But, you should still try it anyways because there are ways to make it work and in the end you will get to be back with them so it will all be worth the emotional pain.

Though it is not super far, my boyfriend and I are about 2 and a half of an hour away from each other now, since we went home for the summer. It has been a big adjustment and a challenge but it can be done. Here is what we do to make it work:

1. Prepare something

I had some time before summer when we were still in school, so I prepared something for him because I knew we would be apart. I made a box of envelopes and each one said to open it on a certain occasion, such as if he missed me or if he had a bad day. I included a letter and a surprise of some sort in each one.

A box like that could be a good idea, which you can find out more details on how to make it here or you could do something such as pre-ordering flowers to be sent to them every month. Anything to help them know that you are thinking of them works!

2. Be honest

Transparency is the best policy here. I trust my boyfriend 100% and I believe he feels the same way so that was never really an issue for us, but the communication that comes with honesty is still very important.

Just be honest about what you are doing and who you are hanging out with. Chances are that if you feel the need to lie about something, then you shouldn't be doing it at all. Especially since you are apart it is important to be candid so that your significant other doesn't have to worry about anything going on that they aren't aware of that could hurt them.

3. FaceTime/Skype

Yes, I know that it is not the same as talking in person, but it is important to try and do this because it is the closest thing you guys will have to being with each other when you are apart.

It also is a good way to end the day so that you can talk to them about your day and catch each other up on things that they may be missing. Remember, at the end of it all, communication is the key. If you don't tell them how you feel things could get messy.

4. Send each other surprises

My boyfriend sends me handwritten surprise letters in the mail, which always make my day when I am missing him a bit more than usual.

This can include things such as letters, a playlist you made for them, or little presents. You don't need to break your bank account for this because anything that lets the other person know that they are misses and cared for will mean a lot to them.

A bonus surprise could also be going down to see them! Imagine how happy they would be!

This also shows that they want this relationship to work and seeing that effort makes it easier to do this whole long distance relationship thing, despite the obstacles.

5. Make time to see each other

Try your best to schedule when you guys can see each other, so you can plan things in advance so you can work around things, such as work.

Make the effort to drive down to see them. I know that realistically going the distance to see them can be expensive and time consuming, but if you really want something to work then you need to be willing to put in the effort.

6. Cry

It is ok to cry. You miss them and you are used to seeing them so crying is only natural.

It can be healthy to just have a good cry and get some of your emotions out. Just try to not cry too much and let this long distance get you depressed. Yes, it is hard, but just remember that if it is meant to be then it will be meant to be.

7. Have faith that things will work out

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