Love Me For My Brain, Not Just My Body

Love Me For My Brain, Not Just My Body

I'm so tired of guys only being interested in physical-only relationships.


It has started to become a routine. I meet someone, they seem super great for a while, and then I realize what they actually want. It's sad.

That moment when you're sitting next to a guy you have feelings for and he decides to try and take things a little too far for your liking. They think it's fine. They think you love it and can't get enough of it. Sure, all this could be great, but it's not everything.

What I am beginning to notice is that a lot of the guys I have met, especially in college, want strictly physical relationships. From hookups to friends with benefits, this sex-crazed culture is the biggest trend right now. Now, I have nothing against those who choose to take part in this. All I'm saying is, sex is most definitely not everything.

I'm at this unfortunate point in my life where I would love to settle down with someone and fall in love with every detail of them. This is quite unpopular for my age group, and believe me, it shows. Every time I go out with my friends, I never fail to have a boy approach me and ask if I'm "down." This, in my opinion, is so unattractive. What happened to the days where a guy would ask a girl out on a date before even kissing her?

It's kind of incredible to think about how careless our culture has become with intercourse and related activities. I know so many people who don't use condoms at all, and this is so scary to think about. Ladies, birth control does not protect from STDs. Protect yourself. Also, I'm tired of seeing "babies having babies."

So, call me old-fashioned, but all I want is my movie moment. An "Endless Love" story dancing-in-the-rain moment, kissing-at-stop-lights type of connection. A type of love where I can grow old with someone, know everything about them, and cherish every bit of our relationship. At this point, however, I'm afraid it's just not in the cards.

As more and more reality TV shows and related media pieces are released, I am worried about the future of love and relationships altogether. The way I was raised, a man is supposed to take care of a woman. Whether it be holding doors, paying for dinners, or walking her home. Today, stuff like this is hardly promoted. In some cases, it's even shot down.

I may be a hopeless romantic, and I may sound just a little bit dramatic, but I'm looking for the person to love me for my brain and not just my body. To love me for my humor, my love, and my compassion, and not just for what I look like without clothes on. I encourage others to look for the same as well.

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If You Go Into Summer 2019 Only Wanting A Summer Fling, You're Only Going To Be Disappointed

They may be fun but sometimes come with consequences.


We've all been through the summer flings. Summer is THE season where you have no commitment and are as free as can be with no care in the world. I've been on both ends of summer flings, from having one and cutting things off when summer ended and having one and gaining feelings for the other person... I've actually been dating my summer fling from 2017 for almost a year and a half now which was totally unexpected.

Back in Summer 2017, I was newly single and wasn't intentionally looking for a relationship since I just got out of one. I had a couple of small flings in the beginning, nothing serious at all. Until I met a boy in July from social media. We started talking and hit it off. We had a lot in common and enjoyed a lot of the same things. After a few weeks of talking, some flirting and a couple of dates... we had a fling going on. We weren't committed or anything, but we were both interested in each other. Long story short, I ended up really liking this guy and I could feel our fling diminishing, so I guess you could say I played some hard to get and "won" him over for good. It took a lot and I could definitely say it wasn't a care-free summer since I was trying to get him to make it official with me but now, here we are as boyfriend and girlfriend still to this day.

From my experiences and from friends experiences, summer flings almost always end with someone falling for you or you falling for them. And if you're really not looking for a relationship after summer, it can be quite hassle ending things for good due to feelings. Summer flings can also take time away from your family and friends. Everyone knows spending summer with someone you're interested in is fun, although it most likely won't be permanent, so why waste your time on them when you could be making those summer memories with your friends who will be there always?

A lot of the times, summer flings just involve hooking up and casual dates... nothing too serious. They don't involve "relationship" type feelings. But when you start to gain attachment to that person, sometimes they won't care like you do since summer flings are meant to be temporary. Of course, the person you have a fling with is someone you're into or at least think is good looking and when you find out you're not their only summer fling, jealousy can hit. Like stated above, summer is the season of no worries, and you shouldn't let jealousy take over your care-free attitude.

Summer flings, almost all the time, end in some sort of heartbreak when that isn't the intention in the beginning at all. But other times, they do work out and you guys call it quits and both move on or both end up in a relationship with each other (which was my case and I couldn't be happier to this day!). So, if your plan is to have a fling this upcoming summer, make sure you plan ahead for any type of scenarios that could potentially happen as well as know what you both want in the end.

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