If You Don't Love My Fat Body Like I Do, I'll Lose YOU—Not Pounds

I am a fat woman.

There. I said it. Fat is a word many people are uncomfortable hearing. I don't think I've heard the word "fat" spoken in front of me for years. People are too terrified to hurt my feelings.

Why does fat have to be a bad thing? Well—it's tied to negative connotations—fat people are seen as lazy, ugly, disgusting, undisciplined and incapable.

I'm here to say that I'm sexy, beautiful and fucking capable.

The fat acceptance movement has reclaimed the word fat. Therefore, I try to use it in positive ways as often as possible. P.S. That doesn't mean its OK to use fat as an insult.

As my queen, RuPaul once said, "If you can't love yourself how the hell you gonna love someone else." I'm lucky to have a positive body image. It's never easy to find love for yourself.

It may surprise you to know that I don't have a hard time finding partners. You can read more about my sex life here. However, I'm here to say that I'm sick of potential partners' comments about my body.

If you're not attracted to me, don't pursue me.

Wow, a monumental idea. I don't flirt with folks that I'm not attracted to. If they aren't my type, I don't lead them on. Just to be clear, fat women are not "easy" or "for practice." We are people. Treat us like it.

The average woman is fat.

In case you haven't heard, the average woman is a size 16 to 18. She is a plus-sized goddess that probably struggles to find trendy clothes because brands still refuse to make clothing in our sizes. It's fine. I'm fine.

You deserve a partner that will respect your body.

This goes for everyone. You should have a partner that makes you feel like your body is perfect. To be clear perfection is not the absence of flaws. I don't want a photoshopped body. Impossibly beautiful is not my move. Perfection is being perfectly me. I can be that every day.

Lastly and most importantly—

Don't project your own insecurities on to your partner.

If you're insecure about dating a fat person, don't that project that on to them. If they love themselves, you should too.

If you're insecure about your own body image, then have some self-reflection time. It's not OK to not be OK. But remember not to project that onto other folks.

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

Look, I Don't Want Your Boy, But 'break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored' Makes Me Feel Incredible

It makes me feel empowered. It makes me feel my best.


I have seen so many thoughts and complaints that Ariana Grande's new song, "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored" is shallow.

Some are even saying, "this song just perpetuates everything that is wrong with dating and relationships in society today."

But, girl, I have to disagree.

You see, just because I sing this song at the top of my lungs in both my dorm's shower and alone in my car, I am not going to steal anyone's boyfriend.

I am simply pretending like I am some kind of bad chick that no one should mess with but in reality, I apologize for walking in someone's direction.

And, let's say, if I were to say something lighthearted or friendly to him and he responds with actions that propose cheating, he wasn't a good boyfriend in the first place.

Listen, girls: stop being so insecure.

You have a boyfriend. He loves you. He chose you. If another girl comes by and his eyes dart her way, his heart wasn't in it all the way.

Not everything is deeper than the skin.

Now, let me be clear, I am not saying that it's OK for girls to go around and try to steal boyfriends. Actually, that's a pretty trashy move that no one should attempt. I know it happens, though. I know it is everyone's worst fear.

However, there is no life living within fear of rejection and being left. If those are the things that linger in the back of your mind, you will never taste the freedom of living.

Truly living.

So am I a bad person, considering that 'break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored' is my anthem?

It makes me feel empowered. It makes me feel my best.

So no, just listening to Ari's new bop doesn't make me a bad person or a boyfriend stealer.

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7 Tiny Things College Dudes Do That Give Off Major Small Dick Energy

If you exhibit any of these signs, re-evaluate yourself and your choices.


If you don't know what "small dick energy" means, let me give you the Urban Dictionary definition: "someone who shows off masculinity by being cocky, showing off, overly confident to overcompensate their 4.2 inch fully erect dick."

If you're afraid you might have this tragic disease: let me explain some of the key symptoms:

1. Adding girls you don't know on any social media platform just because you think they're hot.

I never thought friend requests could be so annoying.

2. Messaging said girls with some stupid pick-up-line to start a conversation.

What is this? Tinder?

3. Getting mad and aggressive when said girls don't message you back.

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Bonus points for calling them mean names!

4. Getting even angrier when they do message back saying they're not interested.

Your insecurity isn't sexy.

5. Putting others down or not treating others with respect.

If you can't be polite to your servers or other customer service employees, you are the epitome of small dick energy.

6. Cornering girls at bars or parties and making them obviously uncomfortable.

If she doesn't seem interested in the conversation, she's not interested in you. Take a hint and walk away.

7. Any sort of forcefulness, pressure, or prejudice coming from a guy as he's talking to a girl.

BIG indicators of small dick energy and also toxic masculinity!

Now look, I know it sounds like I'm being a bitch, but let me tell you that I, and every other female on this planet regardless of race, sexuality, or anything that differentiates us, has been a victim of men with small dick energy. And it's not fucking cute anymore. In fact, it never was. If anything, it's uncomfortable, it's annoying, and it's concerning.

A girl is not a bitch, a slut, a loser, or any other name you want to throw at her if she doesn't like your advances. Calling her that is probably going to make her want to suck your (small) dick even less than before, if possible. We don't know you, and even if we did, we don't owe you anything. And if your first reaction to rejection is name-calling and blatant aggression, then you are likely a toxic person as it is who's got some deep-seated anger issues that you should probably take care of. And if you think that treating someone like that is okay and don't see anything wrong with that, then you might just be a psychopath, honestly.

Have some class and self-respect, guys, and leave the #smalldickenergy back in 2018.

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