I Asked 15 People When They Knew They Loved Their S.O.—They Told Me The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly
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After feeling on top of the world about my own relationship since it started, I decided to ask other people when they just knew they loved their significant other. I knew when I realized I was so comfortable with him that I was 100% unapologetically myself, with no qualms. I could lounge around in pajamas while stuffing my face with Chinese food and he loved me all the same. That's when I knew. (After all, your comfort level is so important in a relationship.)

Out of curiosity, I asked 15 other people when that moment was for them, and their answers were both like mine and nothing like it, all at once.

1. When I was comfortable

"When I finally realized I had the feeling of true comfort in all aspects, and safety no matter what. When I felt like he was "home" to me was when I really realized I loved him, the person he was, and the person he made me." - Emily

2. He was different

"At first I was in a very lost place and I told him I never planned on dating again. He kept trying. Eventually, we hung out a few times and, being in the place I was [in life], he let me move in with his family. One day we were talking about relationships and he said, "You know, it's all about finding the right one." From that moment I knew he was different." - Kaitlin

3. She was my "home" 

"I knew I loved [her] a few weeks after I met her. Being with her was my new home. I felt a kind of comfort I had never felt before." - Baley

4. Cuddle sesh 

"When we would cuddle. I realized how much he made me feel safe." - Gabby

5. Our conversation 

"I was addicted to talking to him. We were long distance for a while, and it was so hard to forget him. I fell in love with the way we conversed." - Kayla

6. Trust 

"When I knew I could trust him with my life." - Emily

7. He said it first 

"He felt like home. I felt safe with him and trusted him with my whole heart. I wasn't sure if it was love or lust but as soon as he told me he loved me, it solidified that I loved him." - Marissa

8. Right away 

"Pretty quickly. We didn't "say it" until three months in, but I wouldn't have dealt with anybody for three months had I not been in love." - Alyssa

9. I always missed him 

"I knew when I missed him when he had only gone to the bathroom. When I couldn't wait to wake up after we had gone to bed because I'd see him all sleepy, cute, and soft. I knew because one day I choked up at how perfect he made his toast. Love is weird and stupid and the best thing I've ever known." - Keena

10.  High school 

"In high school, the first time I saw him I knew I loved him." - Taylor

11.  I couldn't get enough of him

"After a couple of dates, I literally missed him so much. I couldn't get enough of him and couldn't go more than a few days without him. Now that we've been living together for a while I literally miss him at work." - Lilli

12.  Best friends 

"He was my friend before we dated. I fell in love with my best friend." - Liv

13.  We lived together 

"I knew it when we started living together. I didn't truly start loving him until I got to see his daily habits and little quirks that no one would know about unless you lived, day in and day out, with him." - Sara

14.  He made me feel like a kid again 

"To everyone else, he was not ordinary, or odd. He'd walk in a room and be unnoticeable. I laughed at him more than I did at him. The moment I knew was when he made me smile. He was my best friend, and every moment with him felt like I was a kid again." - Alexis

15.  The first time I saw her 

"I knew I loved her the moment I saw her. [She] was the one." - Megan

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PSA: Don't Text And Date, Do It Like Our Grandparents

Waiting for a text from a boy is like waiting for water to boil. Sometimes I think if I take a lap around my kitchen then the text will magically light up my phone.

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Texting in our relationships has become so prevalent that it has snuck its way into TV. shows and movies, as well as songs. This makes sense because it is such a large part of our lives. Texting boys can be great in some cases, especially in long distance relationships.

And don't get me wrong, it certainly can be exciting!

But I've realized is that it has the potential to be incredibly inefficient and waste a whole lot of everyone's time. The time that is wasted is a combination of the time spent texting in a conversation that leads absolutely nowhere, along with the time you spend thinking about when that next text is going to roll in. Not to mention all the time you spend screenshotting these texts and sending them to your friends and asking advice on how to craft a perfect reply and agonizing over the right wording, re-typing over and over again, having everyone from your best friend to your Mom weigh in on the perfect syntax.

For a generation that is obsessed with getting everything as fast as possible, why are we contacting each other so inefficiently? We think we will just send a quick text, but more often than not, it turns into a whole production.

Snapchat can be even worse. Taking time out of your day to take a well-lit selfie and send it to a boy just so he can send you a snap of his actual chin is just ridiculous.

We are talking to people constantly about absolutely nothing. And quite frankly, we all deserve more. Technology is great, but just because it is advanced doesn't mean it's advancing our communication skills. Boys, I think it might be time to pick up the phone again. Imagine if instead of spending countless hours in a Snapchat conversation grasping at straws to make a plan with the girl you like, you actually just picked up the phone. The call would take maybe two minutes to set up a plan instead of whittling away a whole day. It seems like just because we have the option to text or message someone, we forget that we have the alternative of a trusty phone call.

If our grandparents had dated the way that we did, would they have ever worked out? Would our parents ever have been born? Would we even exist?

As I am re-watching "Sex and The City," "Gilmore Girls" and "Friends" yet again, I am overcome with nostalgia about what dating was like during these times. I'd love to come home to a message on my machine.

Maybe you're reading this and you think I'm lame and old fashioned and you're absolutely right, but I think I have a point. In order to have better success in our romantic relationships, we need to work on actually saying something. Why are we claiming we are "talking" to someone when we have never talked to them in person? How did we end up in this reality of sulking when we have been left on read, or obsessively checking to see if someone has viewed our Snapchat story?

We've been given all these ways of pseudo-communicating and endless time to do it and absolutely no rule book of what is acceptable. When you really think about it, it's a recipe for disaster that could be destroying our relationships before they even start. We need an Emily Post of technology to teach us how to behave. We need to stop abusing the convenience of technology and start challenging ourselves to communicate better.

I challenge you if you're a single lady that the next time a boy asks for your Snapchat, tell them you'd prefer it if they called you to make plans.

Guys, just call a girl! It might really impress her! Everyone who tries this has full permission to call me and yell at me if the person who calls you/you call says you're a huge freak. But do me a favor and start leaving your ringer on when you're not in class. Let's talk.

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13 Reasons To Date An Aries Girl ASAP

Once she's in, she is in with her entire heart.

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It's my absolute favorite season: Aries season! As an Aries, I tend to flourish as my best self once Aries season rolls around. I'm here to lead the way into the new astrological year, and as a single Aries, I'm here to convince single guys why they should date an Aries girl like me ASAP.

1. She's adventurous

She's not content with humdrum dates, she needs action or she'll leave you out of boredom. She'll be down for something to get her adrenaline pumping and will keep you on your toes.

2. She's driven

She's a girl with goals. She's independent and doesn't need anyone holding her back from what she wants. Support her or get out of her way.

3. She's all in whole-heartedly

When she falls, she falls all at once with her entire being. This is a girl who is willing to put her heart on the line for love once she knows it's real. You'll never have to worry about her heart being anywhere else but with you.

4. She's very direct with her likes and dislikes

She isn't a sugar coater since she hates liars, so she'll be honest about everything. Whether you like it or not, you'll always get the truth from an Aries girl.

5. She's super passionate

Whatever it may be, an Aries will be passionate for what she loves. I am passionate about writing, and I never let anything get in the way of it. In a relationship, an Aries girl will bring the heat that comes with her passion for you.

6. She's not a clinger

She hates clingers SO MUCH. Over the top PDA or romantic things generally make an Aries cringe (maybe not all of us, but I know that's how it is for me). She loves getting attention, but being clingy is a major turnoff, and she isn't one herself. She's not going to beg to see you 24/7, she likes to lead her own life.

7. She's a great listener

She loves to talk, but something she's just as great at is listening. She'll ask you so many questions to get to know you and really listen to what you have to say when you answer them.

8. She's big on friends and family, they come first

She's a big proponent of valuing her friends and family above all else. She will likely go to them for advice about everything. Meeting them is more important to an Aries than many people realize. If you're big on family, she's the girl for you.

9. She's open to anything in the bedroom

Got a fantasy? She's game to indulge. She's adventurous and that extends to bedroom activities as well. The same old routine bores her, so don't be afraid to experiment and try new things.

10. She only uses the past as a means to learn

She's probably got a rough past she doesn't necessarily want to talk about. The past is the past and she tries to use this as a lesson. It takes a lot for her to open up about it. She tries to be optimistic and keep herself in the present, and this optimism may rub off on you eventually.

11. Her cuddle game is epic

You'll never want to leave bed once your Aries girl gets her hands on you. You'll be too comfortable to leave.

12. She loves fashion and wears trends well

She loves wearing what's in fashion and looking her very best. Her outfits may put yours to shame. She's the kind of woman you want on your arm while you're out on the town.

13. She'll be the woman you'll never forget

You may break up or drift apart, but she's the girl that will leave a permanent mark on your heart. She's unforgettable.

Get your Aries while you can, because if you don't scoop her up, someone else will.

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