I Asked 15 People When They Knew They Loved Their S.O.—They Told Me The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly

After feeling on top of the world about my own relationship since it started, I decided to ask other people when they just knew they loved their significant other. I knew when I realized I was so comfortable with him that I was 100% unapologetically myself, with no qualms. I could lounge around in pajamas while stuffing my face with Chinese food and he loved me all the same. That's when I knew. (After all, your comfort level is so important in a relationship.)

Out of curiosity, I asked 15 other people when that moment was for them, and their answers were both like mine and nothing like it, all at once.

1. When I was comfortable

"When I finally realized I had the feeling of true comfort in all aspects, and safety no matter what. When I felt like he was "home" to me was when I really realized I loved him, the person he was, and the person he made me." - Emily

2. He was different

"At first I was in a very lost place and I told him I never planned on dating again. He kept trying. Eventually, we hung out a few times and, being in the place I was [in life], he let me move in with his family. One day we were talking about relationships and he said, "You know, it's all about finding the right one." From that moment I knew he was different." - Kaitlin

3. She was my "home" 

"I knew I loved [her] a few weeks after I met her. Being with her was my new home. I felt a kind of comfort I had never felt before." - Baley

4. Cuddle sesh 

"When we would cuddle. I realized how much he made me feel safe." - Gabby

5. Our conversation 

"I was addicted to talking to him. We were long distance for a while, and it was so hard to forget him. I fell in love with the way we conversed." - Kayla

6. Trust 

"When I knew I could trust him with my life." - Emily

7. He said it first 

"He felt like home. I felt safe with him and trusted him with my whole heart. I wasn't sure if it was love or lust but as soon as he told me he loved me, it solidified that I loved him." - Marissa

8. Right away 

"Pretty quickly. We didn't "say it" until three months in, but I wouldn't have dealt with anybody for three months had I not been in love." - Alyssa

9. I always missed him 

"I knew when I missed him when he had only gone to the bathroom. When I couldn't wait to wake up after we had gone to bed because I'd see him all sleepy, cute, and soft. I knew because one day I choked up at how perfect he made his toast. Love is weird and stupid and the best thing I've ever known." - Keena

10.  High school 

"In high school, the first time I saw him I knew I loved him." - Taylor

11.  I couldn't get enough of him

"After a couple of dates, I literally missed him so much. I couldn't get enough of him and couldn't go more than a few days without him. Now that we've been living together for a while I literally miss him at work." - Lilli

12.  Best friends 

"He was my friend before we dated. I fell in love with my best friend." - Liv

13.  We lived together 

"I knew it when we started living together. I didn't truly start loving him until I got to see his daily habits and little quirks that no one would know about unless you lived, day in and day out, with him." - Sara

14.  He made me feel like a kid again 

"To everyone else, he was not ordinary, or odd. He'd walk in a room and be unnoticeable. I laughed at him more than I did at him. The moment I knew was when he made me smile. He was my best friend, and every moment with him felt like I was a kid again." - Alexis

15.  The first time I saw her 

"I knew I loved her the moment I saw her. [She] was the one." - Megan

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11 Things The Man You Love Should Do For You, No Questions Asked

Sometimes it's just the simple things in life that mean a lot.


Every girl feels special when the guy she's dating does simple things for her that not everyone thinks about. Here's a list of 10 things that every girl genuinely appreciates.

1. Open/Hold the door

I feel like this one is really simple because everyone has to walk through doors. Chivalry isn't dead, let him open the door for you. He's not trying to prove that you can't do it for yourself, but he's trying to be polite and show you that he cares for you.

2. Give you really big hugs

Everyone has bad days, and sometimes you just need a really big hug. Whether it be a bear hug or the hug where he picks you up and spins you around, it will make you feel better in the long run.

3. Buy you really small gifts

One of the best things my boyfriend has ever done for me is simply bringing me a Dr. Pepper when he knows I'm tired from a long hard day full of exams or work. Sonic slushes will also make my day in a heartbeat.

4. Text/Call you just to tell you he loves you

This is pretty simple. It takes less than 10 seconds to text, and only a few minutes to call. Sometimes you get these texts right at the perfect moment, and it makes you feel so much better.

5. Come see you when you're sick

Everyone hates being sick. But seeing your friends and family while you're sick can make you feel so much better. Having your boyfriend come to see you and possibly even take care of you just makes being sick that much easier.

6. Respect your decisions

You're not married yet, so your decisions are up to you! He should respect the decisions you make and support you, even if it's not what he thinks is the best decision. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else!

7. Give you a shoulder to cry on

We all have bad days, and sometimes you just can't stop the tears from coming. Even if he's not good with crying, he should give you hugs and love to help you get through it.

8. Compliment you

Even if you look horrible and know so, hopefully, he'll still tell you that you look good. Even if the clothes you're wearing aren't his style, he should still tell you that they look good on you and that you are beautiful each and every day.

9. Call you when you're away or he's away

If you're like me, I miss my boyfriend after being away for about three hours, so when we're apart for more than a couple days, I love getting random calls from him when he knows I'm not busy. It's definitely better than a text.

10. Deal with all your annoying quirks

So if you're anything like me, you enjoy screaming music as loudly and horribly as you can in the car and making a complete fool of yourself, but he should love you for that anyway. I also love to take really stupid pictures, and he should put up with that too. He shouldn't be annoyed by your quirks, he should love them and laugh along with you.

11. Love you no matter what

I honestly feel like this goes without saying, but I put it on here so that the girls who don't feel like they're being loved no matter what can realize. He should want to work out problems with you instead of calling it quits and holding a grudge. He should want you to be happy and support you in every decision you make in life. When he loves you unconditionally, he will do all of the above things and more.

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If You View Being In A Relationship As 'Losing Your Freedom,' You’re In The Wrong Relationship

Someone had to say it.


Relationships are about being the best possible version of yourself separate and together. They're about growing with and doing life alongside your partner. They're fun, loving, and granted, they can sometimes be challenging.

Some challenges that frequently come up in relationships are disagreements (which are for sure gonna happen, because you're two individual people!), dealing with stress, and depending on where you're at in life, it could also be financial struggles. Of course, all relationships are going to have problems and everything won't always be “rainbows and butterflies" as Maroon 5 like to put it.

That being said though, one challenge that shouldn't ever be an issue in a relationship is the loss of freedom. Where did this idea come from?

I see it all the time, people talking about not wanting to get into a relationship because they don't want to "lose their freedom".

If you are in a relationship which causes you to lose your freedom, you are 100% in the wrong relationship.

Being in a relationship is not synonymous with not being able to be yourself or be able to do what you want. In a good relationship, you will be able to still have your alone time, be your own person, hang out with your friends, the list goes on and on. All of these things are so important. Relationships should never consume your life, they should complement it.

Why is this even a conversation we need to be having? Seriously.

Now obviously if you're referring to losing the option of getting with other people or dating around, then yes, you're right, you absolutely shouldn't get into a relationship... but that doesn't mean relationships mean losing your freedom.

If you are in a relationship with someone you love and respect, getting with other people isn't even going to be on your radar. It truly is that simple.

The trend of hating on relationships, for this reason, has gotten so out of hand in recent years, especially on social media. It's so frustrating, though, because it could not be any more inaccurate.

You should absolutely still have freedom in relationships. You can have it. I for one absolutely have it and do not view my relationship as the loss of freedom, at all. If you don't, maybe evaluate that relationship and realize it's not the best one to be in.

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