I’m The Girl Who Never Dreams Of Her Wedding, Because Getting Married Is Not A Career
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Ever since we were little girls, the idea of a dream wedding has always been built up around us.

Everyone has one, everyone knows what season they want to get married in, what their dress looks like, what flowers they want, and so on.

But I've never had that. I've never had a time in my life where I knew what kind of wedding I wanted or what kind of dress I'm going to walk down the aisle in or what kind of flowers I want. I've never been the kind of person to dream of a prince charming sweeping me off my feet and taking me away to my happily ever after.

Growing up, my idea of a "perfect life" was being a working, single mom with one child that I'll adopt, and living in a decent, upper-middle-class apartment. I have never thought of myself with a significant other. I've never thought of myself as someone that would get married, much less someone that would dream of a wedding.

And the fact is: that's okay. It's perfectly acceptable for a woman to want to focus on her career.

It's perfectly acceptable for a woman, or person for that matter, to not want to get married. It is perfectly acceptable, in this day and age, for me to be a single woman and not want or dream of a wedding.

No, there's nothing wrong with that.

No, it doesn't mean I won't ever get married (don't stress, mom). No, it doesn't mean I'll be a bad parent because I want to do it on my own. No, it doesn't mean I'm "crazy."

Yes, it is terrible for people to look down on others because they do not want the "norm."

Yes, it is rude to assume that I'll become an old cat lady. Yes, it is rude to assume that being a cat lady is a "bad thing." And yes, your opinion of my future does not matter to me.

Part of the good thing about this day and age is the fact that we have a chance to choose. We can choose a career, family, or both. And if someone chooses differently than you or the "norm," that's OK, too.

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Stop Referring To Your Boyfriend As Your Future Husband

Why it's dangerous to get ahead of yourself in a relationship.

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I am by no means a relationship expert.

I am three months into my first relationship ever, which is going quite well, but still, I do not know much about relationships in general.

All couples are different. They move at different paces, have different issues, and different quirks. However, one thing that I believe should apply to all couples, is how you should speak about marriage.

Couples that are just dating should not talk about their future marriage as if it is a given.

Don't get me wrong, I absolutely believe in dating to marry. When looking at potential dating partners, I always think way far ahead into the future. I can not hang out with a guy without analyzing how his traits would translate into our future together. Every one of his quirks, opinions, and actions are compared with what I want in a future husband, father to my kids, and my forever BFF. Kind of weird and intense, but I can't help it.

Anyways, it can be hard to find the right person for you to date.

So, once you do find that one you can see yourself ending up with, it's pretty exciting! You want to spend all of your time with that person! And talk about them all the time! And dream about your future with them.

But, just because you do find the chosen one that you could see yourself marrying, does not mean you need to tell them that.

Saying things like "when we get married" and "once we're married" only sets you guys up for hurt.

Every time you talk about your marriage as if it's already set in stone, you are making a promise to your person. A promise that you will be getting married, and have this hypothetical life together.

But until there is a ring on someone's finger, a formal promise in the form of engagement, your hypothetical life together is just that, hypothetical.

Making plans about when that person is your husband is dangerous because you do not know whether he will actually be your husband or not. If you guys break up, you are not only losing your boyfriend but the husband that he was in your head.

So, if you are confident that the person you are dating is going to be your spouse, go ahead and get engaged. And if you are not ready for an engagement, you are not ready to talk about that person as if you are already a married couple.

So, hold off and keep those wedding bells in your head.

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I'm The Millennial Girl Who Can't Wait To Have Kids Because I’m Not Sure I Want A Job

Motherhood, in itself, should be listed in the Yellow Pages.
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I can't wait to have kids because to me, THAT is my career path.

I don't have an idea as to what I want to do when it comes to the classic working world because nothing appeals to me more than raising a family and being a good wife.

My idea of hard work consists of raising children and being the best wife and mother that I can possibly be. Sure, that doesn't compare to working in a factory, making concoctions in a lab, or crunching numbers all day, but in some ways, I think raising a family is more challenging.

For a long time, I thought I knew what I wanted to do as a career path. I toyed around with at least two different ideas at all times — sometimes more. It wasn't until I had a taste of each career that I realized I have no clue what I want to do with my life — except have children and raise a family. Honestly, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

This decision of mine does not mean that I am not capable of holding a "standard" job. I'm sure that if I wanted to, I could become an accountant. If I worked hard enough, I could be a nurse. I could do anything I put my mind to, but what I want that to be is a mother and a wife.

The challenge of raising children in the "right" way is enough of a challenge for me. When becoming a mother, you sign an invisible contract that instructs you to raise a child in the best, most moral, and most loving way that is humanly possible. That, in itself, should be listed in the Yellow Pages.

I can't wait to be a mother because I'm not sure I want a job. The idea of working a 9-5 is not my cup of tea. There's a saying that goes, "Do what you love and love what you do." To me, that means chasing babies around while my floor is scattered in Candy Land pieces while PB&Js; wait in the kitchen.

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