I'm 4 Years Married At 23, And Still Every Moment, Every Day, Is An Adventure

I'm 4 Years Married At 23, And Still Every Moment, Every Day, Is An Adventure

Four years ago we followed our hearts, despite what everyone said and got married in Vegas, and I wouldn't trade it for anything.

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Four years ago, November 11, 2014, I walked down the aisle of a small wedding chapel in Las Vegas. I was 19 and wearing a short lacy off-white dress we bought five days before at Forever 21.

The white linen-covered seats were empty, but my husband and I joke that they were filled with angels.

I approached the candelabras draped in white beads and the large silk flower bouquets. The man I had fallen in love with and met a year before stood there in his silver dress pants, brown boat shoes, and a purple T-shirt. He was smiling and handsome as ever.

We were both happy to be there after dashing across the city, trying to find a way to get cash for the marriage license without a debit card and make it to our chapel on time. The only way we made it was from the kindness of a stranger, a taxi driver for another chapel that so graciously paid for our marriage license and drove us to our chapel, don't worry we paid him back extra a few days later. We were almost an hour late, but everyone was gracious anyway.

It wasn't just that night that had been wild, for the past year he had been back and forth in our relationship.

It wasn't because we weren't crazy about each other, it was because we were. Sometimes when you're so in love with someone, it's scary. It's hard to trust it and believe you are allowed to follow your heart that seems to be defying all logic and everything you were taught. Most people doubted it would work out between us. Many told him to break up with me, while others told me I needed to move on and let him go, but I never could.

We looked into one another's eyes as we stood at the altar, our nervous smiles became more relaxed as reality set in, our dreams were finally coming true. Finally, we were here, just us, and no one to tell us it was wrong. The words of our song, "A Whole New World" from Disney's "Aladdin," fit perfectly, "No one to tell us no, or where to go, or say we're only dreaming."

No one knew we were there.

The week before, I had run out of options waiting for him to make up his mind. I had no money, no job, and no car to get a job; I had given it all up for him. I was planning to fly back home at the end of the week, and for the first time, I was okay with it, but then he called me and said he wanted to see me.

He picked me up and took me to our favorite park. It was dark, and a little chilly and no one was around. We sat by the creek watching the water trickle through the rocks. The sweet scent of fallen leaves was comforting. I listened as he said, through tears, how he couldn't live without me. We didn't know what it would look like, but we had to be together. I told him I was done with the roller coaster and he agreed. He invited me to come along with him to Vegas for the conference he had been planning to attend there for months, and we could get married there. What did I have to lose? If he backed out, I still got a free trip to Vegas, and if he followed through? well, I got to be with him for the rest of my life. So, I said yes.

We didn't tell anyone what we were doing.

We told our families I was going with him but didn't say we were getting married, we would tell them after. For now, it was just us, saying our vows, and not letting anything stop us from following our hearts.

It has been four crazy, adventurous, wonderful years since then and we wouldn't have it any other way. Together we have lived in Pennsylvania, Hawaii, Alabama, Thailand, and Florida, because this life is too short not to enjoy and try as many new things as you can and follow your heart no matter what crazy places it may take you.

I married him because I knew that no matter what we were doing together whether it was gaming for eight hours straight, or motorbiking across Phuket, Thailand, or snorkeling in the Bahamas, or eating unhealthy amounts of junk food, or grocery shopping, or packing for the tenth time, no matter what it was, it was never boring.

He is my best friend, and I couldn't think for one second how terrible life would be without him, and neither could he.

That's why I married him, why four years ago I ran off to Vegas with him, having no clue what the heck I was doing, and not wanting it any other way. I'm glad we didn't have a big traditional wedding that was meticulously planned; planning was never really our style, and neither was tradition.

People often don't know how to react when we say we eloped in Vegas as they all tell their traditional wedding stories.

Sometimes they think it's really cool, other times they don't say much, as if they are ashamed. But we are proud we eloped. I am happy that we stopped listening to all the naysayers and we followed our hearts and never looked back. Here's to four exciting years of marriage with my best friend in the whole world, who I have yet to be bored of for even a moment. And here's to the many, many more adventures we will have together.

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I Respect Hailey And Justin Bieber For Waiting To Have Sex, Considering How Messed Up Dating Culture Is In 2019

In a world where we swipe right for the next best thing and move along from hookup to hookup, I have a huge amount of respect for Hailey and Justin.

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Unless you live under a rock, you've probably seen Vogue's March issue featuring newlyweds Hailey Baldwin and Justin Bieber. The pictures are as stunning as you'd imagine considering the team of people involved beautifying an already beautiful couple.

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Perhaps the biggest takeaway from the couple's interview was their sex life, or lack thereof. Justin Bieber opened up about how he was celibate for a year—which has taken the world by surprise—and that Hailey and Justin saved themselves for their wedding day after rekindling their romance back in June. Bieber told Vogue that he struggled with sex addiction and he attributes this decision to his desire to become closer to God.

"He [God] doesn't ask us not to have sex for him because he wants rules and stuff," said Bieber. "He's like 'I'm trying to protect you from hurt and pain.' I think sex can cause a lot of pain. Sometimes people have sex because they don't feel good enough. Because they lack self-worth. Women do that, and guys do that."

In a world where we swipe right for the next best thing and move along from hookup to hookup, I have a huge amount of respect for Hailey and Justin.

I think people forget that love isn't just a feeling. It's not lust, the honeymoon phase or chemistry. Love is a decision. It's a commitment. It's a promise.

People and fans all over the nation had something to say about the fact that Justin and Hailey sped to the courthouse to be married, and most comments were negative.

Since when is making a lifetime commitment a bad thing?

I'm sorry but if Justin Bieber can abstain from sex from a SUPERMODEL, I am pretty positive he has what it takes to stay married.

This generation is so obsessed with everything shallow. We are COMMITTED to being shallow. That's our commitment. How sad is that? We run from commitment, we run from emotions and we run from anything with any type of substance. Yet Hailey and Justin Bieber have committed themselves to God and each other, and people still find something negative to say.

It's not like Hailey and Justin thought it would be easy. They knew exactly what they were getting themselves into. Hailey said it herself, "it [marriage] is really effing hard."

"I'm not going to sit here and lie and say it's all a magical fantasy," Hailey said. "It's always going to be hard. It's a choice. You don't feel it every single day. You don't wake up every day saying, 'I'm absolutely so in love and you are perfect.' That's not what being married is. But there's something beautiful about it anyway—about wanting to fight for something, commit to building with someone."

So instead of being negative, we should applaud them, root for them, cheer them on because instead of going on the never-ending search for something better, they've committed to a never-ending journey of bettering each other with God as their No. 1.

Call me crazy, but I think that's beautiful.

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To The Engaged Girls Prepping For A Wedding, Just Breathe

And just let God take the reigns.

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I've been engaged for a little over two weeks and I'm ALREADY overwhelmed with all of the "when's the date?" "where's it going to be?" questions. Am I supposed to have everything planned already? This was literally the last thing I wanted to stress about before my last semester of college.

So instead of stressing, I chose to give it to God. The planning, the deciding, the scheduling, everything. I set it all down for the next week and chose prayer instead. I refuse to go into depth talking about it with friends and family. I let them know very nonchalantly, that my fiancé and I chose to trade all the wedding planning for a week of prayer instead. As of the past two days of prayer, I'm currently wondering why I never did this with anything else that was big and stressful in my life. Anytime I have the urge to look up dresses, get in contact with vendors, etc, I breathe and let it go. I drop it and seek out prayer and only then do I find complete peace and happiness.

It's allowed me to focus on getting back into the swing of things with the school as well as focus on my college friendships which will soon in just a couple months never be the same as they are right now. Prayer and surrender are giving me an appreciation for the college life I've created over the years and reminding me to not take a single ounce of it for granted.

Lastly, making prayer our go to before any wedding planning sets my fiancé and me on the right path. Instead of tackling unknowns and big financial decisions on our own, we're dropping the reigns and going to our Lord first; together. So if you're an anxious ball of stress because of wedding planning, maybe try putting it on pause for a week or so and spend that time elsewhere, in prayer, with our Lord. Put your marriage in the hands of the Creator before you're even married.

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