I Asked 4 Guys To Describe The Lover They'll Never Forget, And I'm Still Sobbing

I Asked 4 Guys To Describe The Lover They'll Never Forget, And I'm Still Sobbing

"I know we're not meant to be together, but I just don't think we're meant to be kept apart either."


Ever since I fell in love with Joseph Gordon Levitt's character from "500 Days of Summer," combined with my ever growing obsession in the intensity and infidelity of Johnny Cash's love life, I have decided that guys are the ones who tell the hea stories better. They don't pull any punches. Their statements are raw, genuine and honest. They're typically awful with their words, but I swear, ask them about their own recollection on someone from their past who made an impact on them, and you'll be moved to tears. I was. Especially that one of the responses were from an ex of mine, who I now see has a completely different outlook on the situation that we both went through. Together.

Isn't that crazy?

If this article does anything for you, I hope it is to give yourself permission to be happy about people in your past. Things aren't always remembered the same way as time passes. However you and another person felt in the exact moment things went bad, may not necessarily be true anymore. Actually, I can almost promise you that it isn't.

Let the guys talk. They really have something to say.

Here are four guys on their biggest heartbreak:

A stormy affair

"Well, she and I met through my current girlfriend. It was a short-lived affair I guess you could say. Had great sex and deep conversations. She still touches a part of my being that I can't seem to even name. For that, I could definitely admit a slight addiction to her. I'll probably marry my current girlfriend, and I'll do that happily. But I can tell you every time there's bad weather, I think about her because of how much she loved storms. Both in the weather and our relationship. I miss getting caught in them. I think I always will. Make sense?" - anonymous

The screenshots to prove it

"I have so many screenshots of a song on Spotify that I take right when I hear something that reminds me of her. Usually, a random text like that between us was actually not all that random at all. But, it's been three years since we've seen or spoken to each other. I shouldn't still think of her. I know that. But I am so careful that I don't accidentally delete the screenshots. Why?" - anonymous

What's meant to be will be

"The one thing I learned from that relationship was that time is no factor in emotions. I swear we spent four solid months together but I still tear up when I see a video of us and I check the license plates that pass me when I see her car. I know we're not meant to be together, but I just don't think we're meant to be kept apart either. She still touches parts of me that I don't even have a name for. What does that mean, Chey?!" - anonymous

F*cked up, but ours

"She was an absolute maniac but I lived for it. She kept me on my toes. I always felt high on the way she could make me feel so damn secure and loved... and then the next day her 'good morning' text reading the simplest of sentences that could somehow destroy your insides and you feel like you've lost her. It was awful, some of the time. But I loved the continued uncertainty of the relationship. It was frightening, it was passionate, it was so f*cked up, but it was ours, and I'm truly jealous of whoever is in that position with her right now." - anonymous

It is so important to give the people their credit for the way they affected you. There are not two people in this world who meet by accident. Find your reason for meeting. Acknowledge it. Explore it. Remember it.

And let's give these guys credit!

"Please, remember this: There was a love and it was ours. It was ours." - Sue Zhao

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

10 Soulful Luke Combs Lyrics To Get You Through That Bad Breakup

Breakups are tough, but Luke Combs is here to help.


Breakups are very hard to deal with, whether you ended the relationship or your significant other did. The clock on the wall will cure it all and so will Luke Combs, so here's 10 lyrics to do exactly that:

1. "But the clock on the wall will cure it all, even though that ain't how it seems"

2. "You wrecked my world when you came and hit me like a hurricane"

3. "Whoever said it ain't the end of the world and you'll find somebody new, must've never met you"

4. "I picked myself up off the floor and found something new worth living for"

5. "Don't know what you got 'till it's gone, and you're out on your own. All you want is what you can't get back"

6. "And I ain't gotta see my ex future mother-in-law anymore. Oh lord, when it rains it pours"

7. "I'm one number away from calling you. I said I was through, but I'm dying inside"

8. "The second I left, I was kicking myself cause I knew I should've stayed."

9. "I didn't know then, but I sure know now that long neck iced cold beer never broke my heart"

10. "There's a lot of things in this 'ole world I can stand, but when it comes to losing you I just can't"

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4 Reasons I Will NEVER Get Back Together With Any Of My Ex-Boyfriends

It's your loss babe, not mine.


For being so young I have gone through so much unfair and unnecessary pain because I tried to find love too quick. I have not had one relationship end on good terms and I wish I could say it was all their fault, but I cannot help but to believe there must be something I am doing wrong.

In this generation, people say "I love you" too fast and goodbye too soon. We millennials put all our passion in the beginning of things, forgetting there are greater ends to be discovered. My soul has beaten down, broken, and lost to multiple men that I believed had true intentions. Even though I have never had a good relationship, to be extremely honest, if I knew when I was younger who would break my heart I would never try to change it.

Somedays, like the day I am writing this on, I feel empty and lost because of the suffering that I have experienced and I feel as though I will never be good enough and never find complete happiness. On other days I rejoice because the men that have broken my heart have humbled me. I am loathsome and grateful for them and my experiences with them all at the same time.

Although there are saddening times and certain things that I miss about my exes I will never get back together with any of them for four reasons.

1. Immaturity.

I started dating when I was 13. My first real boyfriend, and what I thought at the time to be first my first real love, broke up with me through text on New Year's Eve. My 13-year-old self was devastated and thought my entire world was ending. Clearly, that is an experience I remember and tell because the kids in middle school and junior high really believe that they are with their forever person, but they have a huge awakening because immaturity does not go well with relationships.

2. Cheating.

Getting cheated on broke my entire image of myself and I couldn't find one good quality about myself because I truly believed that if there was one that he would not have done it. I was wrong, and I wish the day that I found out he had cheated on me that I would not have begged for him to stay with me. After choosing another girl over me I should have realized he is and never will be the truly good man I need and he does not deserve the woman I am.

3. We changed.

I'm not completely the same person I was three months again, let alone 2 years again, and honestly, neither is he. Growing apart is not a bad thing, it is something that just happens naturally. Years later, when we speak, I may not laugh at the same jokes anymore and I may not smile at the same things that I did when I was 16. We both have been with other people and have seen and done new things, there is nothing wrong with that. It is just simply moving on. As Sam Waterson said, "If you're not moving forward, you're falling back." I chose to move forward with my life over falling back into my toxic relationships and for that, I have changed into someone I love and someone they will never have again.

4. You let me down.

I have two expectations of men when it comes to dating, to be loyal and to be loving. A relationship is nothing without trust and giving the same energy back that you put in. That is completely what all my past relationships have lacked. My exes have let me down because they could not fill my expectations that should be what is in any normal, healthy relationship. In today's world, everyone has commitment issues and not many people know how to let themselves just fall. That is devastating for the people that do because they, like myself, get hurt and are made to feel it's their fault.

To everyone I've dated or talked to, thank you for breaking my heart and showing me that you are exactly what I do not need in my life.

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