Yes, Men Want To Have A Lot Of Sex, But We Still Want To Get To Know You
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Yes, Men Want To Have A Lot Of Sex, But We Still Want To Get To Know You

Men want sex multiple times, while getting to know you.

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Yes, Men Want To Have A Lot Of Sex, But We Still Want To Get To Know You
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"Men are pigs."

"Men only want one thing"

"Men only see us as a piece of meat."

"Men are not considerate of our feelings."

"All he wants is sex."

These are things that women constantly say every day of their lives. Women will generalize men into one category, but they would never live for men generalizing them into one group.


It's like as soon as you mention sex to a girl that you are actually attracted to physically and mentally, they cut off the chance of you ever getting to know them deeper. It's like they see you as a cheetah that is only trying to catch the rabbit. It's like women put up the firewall for no reason.

I know some women have gone through grueling experiences, (i.e. sexual harassment, sexual assault), but you cannot live your life in fear.

You cannot think every guy out there is coming to hurt you. But I am respectful of their experiences and should be treated as very important. But when us guys say we are not like all guys, they would not even give us a chance to prove them wrong.

Well, they would not give me a chance to prove them wrong, because they do not want to give me what I want. I assume, and I am right. They lump me into the same category as these other guys.

I am not like these other guys. I am different. I am better than those other guys, but they will never believe me.

Most guys nowadays are looking for a one-night stand, as well as girls. There is a hook-up culture that exists amongst most college students and even adults who have everyday jobs. There is nothing wrong with it. It has its benefits and consequences.

But for me, I view things differently. I am not ashamed to say that I like the hookup culture. I have been a product of it. It has been beneficial and also consequential. It has caused me to lose friends and respect for certain individuals.

But I am not going to have regrets about things that make me happy. I like it! And I would not ever want to hookup with a girl just one time. What fun is in that? If it was good I would want to do it over, and over, and over...and over again.

But it does not always have to be about sex.

And that is what ALL girls miss.

That girl and I can have deep conversations, jump on trampolines, eat delicious food and even watch "Keeping Up With The Kardashians!" The Kardashians are great!

I can remember a time recently, where I was feeling this girl. She was a great human being, who cared for others and smiled at everyone. She reminded me of my grandmother who passed away. And in today's time, it is hard to take on a title like that, because of what all my grandmother did for me. My grandmother loved me unconditionally and I thought this girl would do the same.

I am not the one to take things slow, some being roadrunner, trying to win a sprint, knowing it was going to be a marathon to get her. My feelings got the best of me, as they always do. I told her I wanted a relationship. She declined. I told her if we can just do "no strings attached," but she did not want to get caught up in that.

She viewed me in a different way after that and implied I had bad character. She barely texted back after that day. But it takes her centuries anyways to text back.

I am always at a loss for words, every time I try to talk to her. But honestly, some guys like myself get irritated that we cannot have the intentions we want, without being ridiculed, being exiled from friend groups or seen as a pariah.

We have every right to want what we want.

I mean, men have needs too!

But most women would say, "to hell with your needs." Men are just more sex-driven than women.

We are ingrained with dopamine, that we have enough to give to other people. But us men understand that, for a woman, it is all about being emotionally attracted to a man as opposed to physical. I think that is a lie to be quite honest. But there are some rare women who are like this.

And understand that guys like myself do want something deeper. We just have to make sure that the sex is there. If it is not, then there may be tension between the two, dependent upon their personalities. We want you girls for as long as our charm keeps you all mesmerized and confused.

Men want to be taken. It just has to be by the right type of girl, who can bring the best of three worlds—emotionality, physicality, and mentality.

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