Military Girlfriends Are Just Wives Without The Label

Military Girlfriends Are Just Wives Without The Label

"A military girlfriend is just a wife in waiting, no one would go through this if they weren't in it for the long haul."-Anonymous

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Over the years, I have seen the military only showing recognition towards wives of soldiers. It feels like the military believes only wives are worthy of recognition. I am a girlfriend to a U.S. soldier, and I think it's completely unfair. In my eyes, a wife and a faithful girlfriend are both surviving the same situational circumstances, but the wives just get to reap the benefits with their soldier.

Girlfriends go through the same things as the wives. We wait to see them, sometimes really long periods of time. We wait in line after line to be able to see our men.

Whether I am a girlfriend or wife, I believe the military should take every soldiers relationship seriously.

When your soldier deploys, girlfriends won't be given any information related to his job. I know we can't know where they are, but it would be nice to be able to know where he's stationed at and that he's okay.

One of the worst parts is that if something happens to him you won't be the first person the military calls. I understand his intermediate family should probably be notified, but if you are very committed to your soldier then the military should inform all loved ones, including girlfriends.

Living on his post is not an option for girlfriends. Girlfriends have to live off post hopefully somewhere close by. Sometimes girlfriends like to live with their boyfriends, and if that was me having that off post rule would definitely bother me. If your soldier moves away because you have the girlfriend label on your back the military won't support your move.

Living this lifestyle is not easy, and I understand why the military can't treat girlfriends like wives. No one willingly would put up with this lifestyle if they didn't love the person that's in it. For someone to be just a girlfriend, we deal with so much that seems unbearable to outsiders.

I just believe that military girlfriends are more than just girlfriends. Girlfriends are basically wives without the label, but whether the military acknowledges us or not.

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To The Girl Who Dreams Of Her Future Career More Than Her Future Children

My career is more important right now and that's OK.
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Keep on rocking, girlfriend.

When I sit down and think of my future, I imagine my boyfriend becoming my husband and us both killing it at life. I imagine a beautiful house sitting on a good bit of property with two Great Danes running around freely. I imagine us living in a Godly home surrounded and doing life with all of our friends and family. I also imagine a 5 a.m. alarm clock going off for me to get to the hospital on time and not having to worry about who is going to keep the kids that day.

Ya see, God did not intend for my sole purpose on this earth as a woman to be to cook, clean, and reproduce. He just didn't. When He made me He said, "There is a little spitfire. She is going to change the world one day."

I pray with my entire heart that I will have a successful career one day, that I will be able to make an impact on someone's life, every single day that I step into my workplace. And yes, I do also pray, Lord-willing, that I will be able to hear the words "Mommy! Come here!" every five seconds of my day. But I do not want that right now. Or any time soon. And I think that is perfectly OK.

Being a Southern woman, this is so not the norm. I am surrounded by young adults and women that all dream about being a mom one day and always say, "Oh my, I want a baby right now!" I have never felt that way, and in some cases, I feel guilty for not. Women strive to be stay-at-home mommas and that is just not me. I strive to have a career. I want to be that sexy working wife my husband comes home to every day.

Now, I do want to be a mommy one day. I want to hold a precious miracle from God and look over at my husband knowing that the angel we are holding will be loved for the rest of its life. But I have goals I want to accomplish first. I think more women need to have dreams they want to aspire to before having to commit to a lifetime (well technically 18 years, but I am older than 18 and my mom still takes care of me) of taking care of another human.

So, to the girl who dreams more of her future career, you keep on doing you, honey. You look college in the eye and you tell it who is boss. Do not give in to what the world around you says is your job as a woman. It is because you ARE a woman that you can do so much. Keep on rocking, girlfriend.

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6 Reasons Sober Weddings Are Better Than Open Bar Receptions, For Anyone Keeping Tabs

Prepare for the party of the century.

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As anyone who has even thought about wedding planning knows, there is one question that plagues the future couple more than anything else—to open bar, or not to open bar?

Open bars are usually highly favored among guests but can leave the bride and groom with a huge financial burden. According to Cost Helper, an open bar tab can cost as much as $90 per guest, not including paying your bartenders and tipping. Yikes!

So, while it may disappoint some of my guests, no, I don't plan on having an open bar. And yes, my reception will still be the party of the decade.

SEE ALSO: If You Don't Have An Open Bar At Your Wedding, Don't Invite Me

1. I'll be saving all of that booze money for my honeymoon.

Instead of dropping literally hundreds of dollars on alcohol for my guests, I'll gladly be saving that money so that I can go to an even better all-inclusive resort with my new hubby. Maybe it's selfish, but a whole week of fun for myself is more important than one night of fun for my guests.

2. You only get one wedding, I don't intend on having drunk people ruin it.

Sure, someone getting a little too tipsy can make for a funny story years down the road, but who's not to say that someone gets way too drunk and ruins the whole day? Unfortunately, when other people drink their actions are out of your control and I would hate for one of my friends to get too drunk and really mess up my one and only big day.

3. Open bars do NOT equal a fun wedding.

Typically when I mention to people that I don't plan on having an open bar reception I get the comment "oh, so you don't want to have a fun wedding?"

Sure, an open bar can be fun, but you can just have much fun without an open bar as well. Trust me, the playlist will still be incredible and everyone is guaranteed to leave more than satisfied.

4. Everyone will be safe on their drive home.

I would never want to experience the guilt of having a loved one pass away the night of my wedding because they drank too much. Call me overly cautious, but not having an open bar is just one more way to make sure that everyone stays safe.

5. This is a wedding, not a club.

We all had our college days and early 20s to explore the party scene. And if that's still your thing when I'm getting married, awesome, but save it for the next weekend. This is a wedding that my entire family will be attending and I'd rather it not turn into an episode of "Jersey Shore."

6. Everyone will be guaranteed to remember my wedding day.

I'm not planning for months, paying thousands of dollars, and buying the most important dress of my life for people not to remember it! Sorry, not sorry.

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