Military Girlfriends Are Just Wives Without The Label

Military Girlfriends Are Just Wives Without The Label

"A military girlfriend is just a wife in waiting, no one would go through this if they weren't in it for the long haul."-Anonymous

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Over the years, I have seen the military only showing recognition towards wives of soldiers. It feels like the military believes only wives are worthy of recognition. I am a girlfriend to a U.S. soldier, and I think it's completely unfair. In my eyes, a wife and a faithful girlfriend are both surviving the same situational circumstances, but the wives just get to reap the benefits with their soldier.

Girlfriends go through the same things as the wives. We wait to see them, sometimes really long periods of time. We wait in line after line to be able to see our men.

Whether I am a girlfriend or wife, I believe the military should take every soldiers relationship seriously.

When your soldier deploys, girlfriends won't be given any information related to his job. I know we can't know where they are, but it would be nice to be able to know where he's stationed at and that he's okay.

One of the worst parts is that if something happens to him you won't be the first person the military calls. I understand his intermediate family should probably be notified, but if you are very committed to your soldier then the military should inform all loved ones, including girlfriends.

Living on his post is not an option for girlfriends. Girlfriends have to live off post hopefully somewhere close by. Sometimes girlfriends like to live with their boyfriends, and if that was me having that off post rule would definitely bother me. If your soldier moves away because you have the girlfriend label on your back the military won't support your move.

Living this lifestyle is not easy, and I understand why the military can't treat girlfriends like wives. No one willingly would put up with this lifestyle if they didn't love the person that's in it. For someone to be just a girlfriend, we deal with so much that seems unbearable to outsiders.

I just believe that military girlfriends are more than just girlfriends. Girlfriends are basically wives without the label, but whether the military acknowledges us or not.

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6 Reasons Sober Weddings Are Better Than Open Bar Receptions, For Anyone Keeping Tabs

Prepare for the party of the century.

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As anyone who has even thought about wedding planning knows, there is one question that plagues the future couple more than anything else—to open bar, or not to open bar?

Open bars are usually highly favored among guests but can leave the bride and groom with a huge financial burden. According to Cost Helper, an open bar tab can cost as much as $90 per guest, not including paying your bartenders and tipping. Yikes!

So, while it may disappoint some of my guests, no, I don't plan on having an open bar. And yes, my reception will still be the party of the decade.

SEE ALSO: If You Don't Have An Open Bar At Your Wedding, Don't Invite Me

1. I'll be saving all of that booze money for my honeymoon.

Instead of dropping literally hundreds of dollars on alcohol for my guests, I'll gladly be saving that money so that I can go to an even better all-inclusive resort with my new hubby. Maybe it's selfish, but a whole week of fun for myself is more important than one night of fun for my guests.

2. You only get one wedding, I don't intend on having drunk people ruin it.

Sure, someone getting a little too tipsy can make for a funny story years down the road, but who's not to say that someone gets way too drunk and ruins the whole day? Unfortunately, when other people drink their actions are out of your control and I would hate for one of my friends to get too drunk and really mess up my one and only big day.

3. Open bars do NOT equal a fun wedding.

Typically when I mention to people that I don't plan on having an open bar reception I get the comment "oh, so you don't want to have a fun wedding?"

Sure, an open bar can be fun, but you can just have much fun without an open bar as well. Trust me, the playlist will still be incredible and everyone is guaranteed to leave more than satisfied.

4. Everyone will be safe on their drive home.

I would never want to experience the guilt of having a loved one pass away the night of my wedding because they drank too much. Call me overly cautious, but not having an open bar is just one more way to make sure that everyone stays safe.

5. This is a wedding, not a club.

We all had our college days and early 20s to explore the party scene. And if that's still your thing when I'm getting married, awesome, but save it for the next weekend. This is a wedding that my entire family will be attending and I'd rather it not turn into an episode of "Jersey Shore."

6. Everyone will be guaranteed to remember my wedding day.

I'm not planning for months, paying thousands of dollars, and buying the most important dress of my life for people not to remember it! Sorry, not sorry.

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I Married My High School Sweetheart, And In Hindsight, It Really Was The Best Decision

From graduation gown to wedding bands.

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I married my high school sweetheart when I was nineteen, going on twenty.

We had been out of high school for a year. And you probably think that's crazy, or as most people believe, we were too young to get married. While most of my friends from high school were getting alcohol poisoning from doing kegstands at a college frat party or picking out dorm room furniture, I was a newlywed. Everyone goes their different ways after high school, and so did I, mine was just different than most. I had decided to marry the guy who stole my heart throughout my last years of high school.

I met my husband when I was sixteen working my first job.

We went to homecoming, football games, and prom together. We walked across the same stage, the same day on graduation. And instead of going into adulthood alone, I got to give it a go with my best friend.

Many of my friends and family didn't understand us getting married so early.

They thought we were crazy, and maybe we were, but we had found something many people spend so much time looking for, and that was true love, as corny as it sounds. But as many people my age spend this time searching for someone to spend their life with, we had already achieved that part of our lives, and now planning a future together.

We've heard it all, the whole "you'll regret getting married young" speech, that I'm too young to know what love is or that I didn't give myself enough time outside of high school to meet other people. I'm a firm believer that if something or someone makes you happy, you seize that feeling. And I had found someone incredibly special who made me feel just as special.

Don't get me wrong, we've struggled, especially with a husband being active duty military.

You don't get married at twenty and not struggle learning the ways of becoming an adult. But every problem we have faced, we faced together as a team. We have got to witness each other do amazing things so far in life like promotions at jobs or ace projects in college, as well as watching each other grow as individuals and as a couple. As a young couple, we still chase our own dreams, we just support one another along the way.

I am now twenty-three, and I have been married to my best friend for three years.

We have a beautiful daughter who is eighteen months old. We are achieving so much more than we could imagine for ourselves and there is no one else I would rather be doing it with.

With high school in the past, and being married with our own little family forming, I don't regret one thing. If anything I wish I was still as gutsy as teenage me. It's been worth every up and down along our journey and I can't wait to see what the next fifty years hold.

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