Millennials Are Having Less Sex And Surprise! It's Because Of Our Phones

Millennials Are Having Less Sex And Surprise! It's Because Of Our Phones

Even though technology is meant as an outlet for communication, we've still unintentionally built a barrier between ourselves and others through our devices.

Dr King
Dr King

It's not exactly a secret that this generation's reputation is often associated with a sex-crazed hookup culture. However, a recent article from TIME explains that not only are millennials having less sex than past generations, but there's one hidden variable that gives us a clue as to why.

Yep, you guessed it. A lot of it has to do with our phones.

There are a number of reasons why I'm not that surprised.

For starters, face to face interaction has become less and less cherished across the board. Even though technology and the rise of social media platforms are meant for enhancing connection, we've still unintentionally built a barrier between ourselves and others through our devices. We do it up to the point where face to face social interactions start to induce more anxiety than usual because we don't have a home screen to hide behind.

Now let's add the bedroom to this scenario. Most people will probably agree that one of the first things we do as soon as we wake up and right before we go to bed is scroll through the feed on our phones for countless minutes. If you're spending the night with your partner on a recurring basis then being glued to your phone may take away some of the only free time you have with them after a busy day.

As a person whose top two love languages are personal touch and quality time, it's one of the BIGGEST pet peeves when a guy wakes up in the morning and gets so distracted by social media that he doesn't take the time to really delight in my existence. Especially because If I wake up in the morning feeling well rested then nine times out of ten I'm probably going to want to fuck thing in the morning or at least cuddle in silence for a little while.

And that's only a small scenario compared to different ways people are using phones as an easier substitute for sex with another person. Why? Because the possibilities are endless. A person can get free porn, search for half-naked disproportionate models on Insta, and rely more on sex-related forums online for advice over experimenting with your partner. To some degree, scientific studies have shown that avid porn watchers can inadvertently condition their brains to have a stronger response to stimuli online rather than in person.

At the end of the day, it's understandable that phones can be distracting, but if it gets to the point where you're noticing that it's consuming your life then put it down. One thing that I encourage all couples to do is take the time to really cherish each other when you're around each other. Instead of grabbing your phone as soon as you're about to go to bed, give your partner a sensual massage with oil first or at the very least ask them how their way was. Have an open and honest conversation about how you want to feel. If you want to feel ravished then tell them. If you want to feel irresistible then let them know how they can make you feel that way.

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Hickeys Are Killing Teens, Young Love Isn't As Innocent As You Think

Hickeys might just be the next cause of your death.


An article by Mirror has revealed that a teen by the name of, Julio Macias Gonzalez, died because of a stroke caused by a bite mark left by his girlfriend.

The teen was spending time with his family eating dinner, after meeting with his girlfriend, when he started having convulsions and died of a stroke.

Hickeys, or bruises on the skin, as defined by Merriam-Webster, are usually caused by harsh sucking that burst small blood vessels.

These bruises usually last about 5- 12 days as stated through recent publishing by 54 Health.

The article also claims that the amount of time can also vary depending upon your own state of health & the amount of destruction the hickey caused.

"Some hickeys are more severe than others and take a longer time to heal," says 54 Health.

But, sometimes, there can be no room left for healing as some of these bruises can be extremely severe.

These hickeys on your skin can quickly turn into your next nightmare if it completely destroys your blood vessel wall.

In an interview given to Cosmopolitan's Relationship Editor, Julia Pugachevsky, Dr. Jessica O'Reilly said, "According to research, it is possible for hickeys to be dangerous if the pressure is applied over the carotid arteries."

"Too much pressure could injure the blood vessel wall and lead to a smaller clot that could clog an artery and cause a stroke," says Dr. O'Reilly.

Other experts, such as Dr. Teddy Wu, have made it clear that these strokes may not only result in your death but can also cause paralysis.

Even though the result of paralysis or death from receiving a hickey are of low-risk, consider the next time that you give your lover a mark or bruise on their skin - you might just end up being known as a "murderer," among their family & friends.


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My Parents Always Talked About Sex Openly With Me, And I'm So Grateful For Their Candor

And now, I write about sex.


My mom and dad talk about sex. They never hid it from me and never freaked out when I came home with sex ed diagrams of female and male genitalia. Instead, my dad quizzed me on the fill-in-the-blank diagrams because I was determined to get an A (as I am with any other test).

I was never uncomfortable bringing this material to my parents to laugh at and discuss. I'm grateful that they weren't mortified either.

My parents are my best friends and it's always been this way. I share everything with them, including boys and all that fun stuff. This is how my older brother and I were raised—we can tell our parents anything, they will always be there. I am a mature, independent young woman who can make her own choices. I am not my parents' puppet to control. They are here to guide me so that I can handle all parts of life.

Sex is just another part of life's journey and they get it.

I never had the sex talk with my parents. Life just flowed naturally and I was always open with them. I will always be their baby girl, but I'm getting older and older. If I had a question, they were there. When I had my first kiss, I couldn't stop bugging them about it: "I kissed a boyyyy! I kissed a boyyyy!" When I had boy drama, my dad was the one who helped me reply to texts as he speaks boy-talk and can relate to what a teenage boy is thinking. Not so long ago, my mom and dad were horny teenagers themselves learning about relationships, love, and heartbreak. I've heard the stories!

And now, I write about sex. Neither of them questioned it and I'm so lucky to have that. When my parents speak of my work, my dad will make note that some pieces aren't for the lighthearted, but neither of them is ashamed. What is there to be embarrassed about? S.E.X. Sex. It's natural, most everyone has or will experience intimacy. Humans crave this attention and connection. I was taught how to enjoy the world and be safe. I could ask questions and never be judged.

I couldn't ask for anything more.

When I have kids of my own, they will grow up knowing what sex is. They will know how to protect themselves. Know how to say "no." Know who to come to when they need help. I don't want them going to others with the risk of being misinformed. I want to provide a safe environment and not have "The Talk" be so awkward.

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