If The Most Interesting Thing About You Is Having A Boyfriend, You're Screwed

If The Most Interesting Thing About You Is Having A Boyfriend, You're Screwed

It's hard to talk to someone who can only talk about one thing

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I may not be the worlds most interesting woman, but I do try my best not to be a bore. I'm a writer, and I've found that we are about the least boring people you'd ever meet. That being said, I've got a very diverse group of friends, and they add a little spice to my life daily. We talk for hours about anything and everything. You name it and we've said it. I've found that we do, as we all do, love to talk about guys. That being said, they don't take over the conversation. Even the friend who has a boyfriend doesn't talk our ear off about him.

I'm going to say this, and yes it's pretty blunt. If the most interesting thing you have to talk about is your boyfriend- honey, you're screwed.

Some girls meet a boy and become his shadow. They're everywhere he is, and when they're apart, it's a trauma for them, since they're so used to being together. You literally don't remember the last time you saw them without their boyfriend, attached at the hip, like a robot. I'm a great listener, but there is only so much listening I can do before I feel my brain cells dying. I'm single, so yeah I'm allowed to be annoyed and salty they have someone when I don't. But there comes a time when it's genuinely disgusting to me when someone can only talk about their boyfriend in a public and private setting.

You can't base your whole life on this person, even if you marry them. You have to have your own life. You'll literally chase your friends away because they'll get sick of you. I used to be that girl, way back in the day of course, and my friends had to basically tell me to shut up every ten minutes before I got the idea of just how annoying I was being. We're all adults now, and if you can't talk about the cool music you just discovered, or about that night out last week with your girls and feel like you HAVE to mention your boyfriend, you're as good as gone in my mind.

If you replace time with your friends and family with a boyfriend, don't expect them to want to be around you. They probably lost interest in all of your stories. Don't get mad, get it together and stop. In ten years from now, don't be the person at your work function who all your fellow employees avoid. Be the one starting a party game, or telling that story about your day trip to New York with your family for your birthday. Celebrate you outside of a relationship. You can talk about it, but you've got to watch yourself before it's too late.

I'm not here to call out anyone I know, so please don't get offended because I'm simply saying what I want and don't regret it. If you read this and think it applies to you, I think that speaks for itself. I'm all about talking about anything and everything, but if your boyfriend is all you've got to talk about, count me out of the conversation.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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