The Ultimate Shopping List Of Stuff You Need When You Move In Together

The Ultimate Shopping List Of Stuff You Need When You Move In Together

Other than the obvious groceries, there's quite a few things you and your boo should get before moving in.

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You've finally hit that stage in the relationship where one of you moves in or get a place together! It's exciting, it's new but here's the stressful part...what do you bring?

When moving in it's crucial that you each go through your stuff to get rid of anything you don't need/want. But there's also things that need to be bought too. You might not realize it yet, but you do not want to move in together without having all the essentials ready to go. So here is the ultimate shopping list for when you and your significant other move in together!

1. Extension Cords

You don't want to be fighting over who gets the outlet by the bed and who has to put their phone on the other have of the room, get extension cords now so you don't have to worry about the hassle!

2. Extra Blankets

If your boyfriend/girlfriend is anything like mine, he is a HUGE blanket hog. Buy some extra blankets to keep under the bed so when they decide they need 95% of the blanket, you have back up.

3. Extra Towels

You never want to be the one stuck needing to shower without a clean towel at hand.

4. A Calendar

My boyfriend and I are constantly busy. Between both of us having two jobs (me having three plus school) it's hard sometimes to keep track of who's where at what time. A calendar will take away that stress!

5. A whiteboard for the fridge

It might sound silly but this is great! If you need milk but won't have time to pick it up, leave a message on the board for your boo! Or if you feel like leaving a note saying they need to pick their socks up from the living room floor...

6. More hangers

I personally prefer to hang my clothes up, it leaves less of a hassle trying to rummage through clothes to find something to wear. You're going to want more hangers when you're sharing a room with that special someone.

7. An extra key

Obviously you should both have keys to the house, but there is going to come a time where one of you gets locked out, and the other can't get to you for hours. Make that spare key and hide it in a good spot to save the hassle of trying to climb into your window without your neighbors calling the cops...

8. A key rack

This is so convenient. Keeping track of keys can be a struggle as is, let alone when you and your S.O. keys look the exact same. Buy a key rack to keep them in place.

9. A shower caddy

Buy one ASAP. Those shower ledges can hold your shampoo and conditioner but when you double it up, it's messy.

10. Door mat for shoes

Now that you live together, you're going to want to have a door mat (if you don't already) for you to leave your shoes when you walk into the house. Shoes that you tend to wear frequently can be left my the door and other shoes (heels and dress shoes) can be left in the closet!

11. A shoe rack for the closet

One person tends to own at least four pairs of shoes. (Well, my boyfriend owns like four pairs of just boots.) If you both have a lot of shoes and don't want to take up too much space, get a shoe rack for the closet! This keeps them organized and won't leave you tripping over any of them.

12. Candles/air fresheners 

This is crucial. You guys live together now and there's going to be times where you're "doing your business" and it leaves that smell behind. Make sure you have candles or air fresheners to mask away that dreadful stink.

13. More laundry baskets

You may not realize it now, but one or two laundry baskets isn't going to cut it. There is going to come a time where you won't have time to do laundry for either of you that week. One or two laundry baskets can fill up pretty quick with two people. Always be sure to have extras. Better to have more than not enough!

14. Spare bed sheets

This comes in so handy. You always want to be able to sleep in a clean bed, but sometimes it can take FOREVER to wash them! Get that extra bed set that, when it comes time to wash one, you always have a clean back up to not feel rushed!

15. All the cooking stuff

Seriously, whether you are getting a new place together or moving in with your S.O. you want to have ALL the essential cooking needs. Even the non-essential ones.

16. Plates and silverware

Self explanatory.

17. Area rug

These are just nice to have cause they really tie the room together!

18. Storage, storage, STORAGE

This is ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL. There's two of you know, you're going to want as much storage as humanly possible to fit all of your stuff together

20. A blow up mattress

If you are anything like my boyfriend and I, we are constantly having friends over. You want to be completely prepared if friends need/want to spend the night!

21. LOTS of tissues, paper towel and toilet paper.

You can never have more than enough of this.

22. Batteries

It's never fun when the remote batteries die.

24. Cleaning supplies

Broom, mop, vacuum, duster, pledge, ALL OF IT.

25. Decorations for the holidays

Because you NEED to be spirited. This is finally your time to decorate your home just how you like it.

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8 Qualities That Still Hold Up When Looking For The 'Perfect Guy' In 2019

He hasn't come along yet, but I'll know him when I see him.

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Ah, the mythical "perfect guy." Technically, he doesn't exist.

But there are guys that seem perfect to the people who love them despite their flaws. Over the years, I've compiled a mental list of things I look for in a guy. The list has changed over the years as different things became important to me. It's probably as complex and comprehensive now as it'll ever get, but I can't be sure.

The following are in order of importance, at least for me. Here are the best qualities to look for in a man in 2019:

1. Having strong faith.

This is crucial! I'm Christian, so for me, that means if he's not a Christian, it's a dealbreaker. My morals and beliefs are very strongly linked to my faith in God, and I just can't be with someone who doesn't share that conviction. I wouldn't marry a man who's not a Christian, so why even bother dating one?

"Imagine a man so focused on God that the only reason he looked up to see you is because he heard God say, 'That's her.'"

2. Kind

This is also very important! I've liked guys in the past who had some of the other qualities I looked for I but weren't kind. A relationship without kindness is toxic. Everyone deserves someone who treats them well, but that person should treat everyone well. They shouldn't discriminate with their kindness.

3. Funny

I need a guy who can make me laugh! He also needs to be able to understand my sense of humor, which is mostly sarcasm. I find a lot of things funny: jokes, puns, memes, no matter how seemingly stupid. If you've got those, you're golden.

4. Smart

Intelligence is attractive. It's true. I want a guy who's smart but isn't conceited. He knows he knows a lot but he doesn't think he's better than everyone else. He doesn't have to be a genius. He could be really smart in one subject, or kind of smart in many subjects. I just want him to know a thing or two about a thing or two.

5. Hardworking

My guy needs to be ambitious. He needs to have goals that he works toward. He can't be lazy. I believe that it is primarily the man's duty to financially support his woman. This is most applicable in marriage, but it works in dating relationships, too. I don't want someone who is unable to provide for me. In order to do that, he needs to be able to provide for himself.

6. Cute

You knew I'd get to this! I'm not blind, after all. Trust me, I think it's important for a guy to be attractive. But it's not as important as everything listed above this. I've been told I have weird taste in guys in terms of looks. What I see as cute doesn't always line up with society's definition. The important thing is that I'm attracted to him. Physical attraction is important in a relationship. To be picky: I don't like facial hair or too much muscle. I do like chest hair and back muscles.

7. Creative

This can mean a lot of different things. He could draw, paint, write, sing, play an instrument, etc. As long as it shows that he's inclined to use the right side of his brain. I'm a writer, so I'm naturally more drawn to people who prefer creativity over logic.

8. Interested in Me

Despite being last, this is extremely important! Without this, none of the other things matter. It's just like every other crush I've ever had. Nothing different. Nothing special. While I've been able to find guys who exhibit the first seven qualities, the eighth has been much harder to come by. I've never been in a relationship, so I imagine it will be really wonderful when I eventually find someone who reciprocates my feelings.


Some people may think my standards are too high, but I refuse to lower them. I believe that God has someone out there for me who lives up to these standards and even exceeds them. I just have to be patient and trust His timing.

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The Friend You Like Romantically Doesn't Owe You Anything

The friend-zone can be escaped, but not in the way you might want
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We've all heard the story of the "friend-zone." Boy is in love with his best friend, she dates all the wrong guys and fails to notice how perfect he is, then eventually realizes how wrong she was and they live happily ever after.

I used to think that the friend-zone was a myth that lonely men created to feel better about themselves. But then I got friend-zoned myself.

Yes, it sucked, but the second I realized I had feelings for a friend (that I knew had no such feelings for me), I decided to suppress the feelings. When that wasn't enough, I cut them off for a bit, then, slowly, I felt OK. I could communicate with them without having unwanted romantic feelings pop up. I had escaped the friend-zone.

Having gone through that, I had more sympathy for someone I had to friend-zone a little while later. I had been friends with this guy for a few months. I didn't have many college friends yet and I was really lonely, so having his company really meant a lot at the time.

This caused me to not be able to see what should have been clear: he had a crush on me. When I finally made the realization, I immediately let him know that I didn't feel that way about him. He said it was OK, but I could tell it wasn't.

We didn't talk at all over the summer and when we came back for the fall semester, he would barely look at me. I had started dating his friend, which caused an even bigger rift between us.

Though I understand where he's coming from, I was also really mad at him for a long time.

It was as if he was only nice to me because he wanted romance in return. But people are not vending machines. You can't put in your "nice guy" coins and expect love, sex, or whatever the hell it is you want in return.

It hurt me to know that he only wanted romance and once that was off the table, he no longer wanted anything to do with me.

But then I thought back to the friend that had friend-zoned me. Unrequited affections really suck, especially when they're for someone that you spend a lot of time with. But the key is to work to escape it.

Yes, liking someone you're friends with and them not liking you back is a real thing, but people tend to treat the friend-zone like this mythic hell dimension that can never be escaped. But you can escape. Just maybe not in the way you'd like to.

Now there are three ways you can escape the friend-zone:

The first option is to confess your feelings and try to win them over. Now, this isn't completely unheard of. I've had friends that have dated people who had previously friend-zoned them, but it's extremely rare and risky. You have to risk your entire friendship in order to do this. If it doesn't work out, it could strain the friendship or sometimes break it beyond repair.

You can also do what my ex-friend did and completely cut the person off. If you're being a love-zombie and only doing nice things for the friend because you expect romance in return, leaving the situation might be the most healthy decision for you. I understand now that my friend might have stopped talking to me out of self-preservation. But it still hurts the people involved.

The third and final option is to just get over it. It's harsh, but it's real. Why try something you know is going to fail and cause pain to both sides? Yes, getting over crushes can be really difficult, but getting a normal friendship back rather than being stuck a love-zombie for them is worth the pain.

Whichever one you choose, just remember this: Your friends do not owe you any romantic affection. The work you put into making them happy should just come out of the goodness of your own heart. If you expect romance in return, you're not being a good friend to them. If you really care about them, don't put that kind of pressure on them. They don't want a mindless love-zombie that does their bidding for the hope that they'll get a tiny love kernel out of it. They just want a friend.

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