I Moved In With My Boyfriend When I Was 19, And Lived There Even When He Was My Ex

I Moved In With My Boyfriend When I Was 19, And Lived There Even When He Was My Ex

That's not my boyfriend but that is the apartment.
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I still remember the feeling of getting my first apartment with my ex-boyfriend; full of hope, love, and an overwhelming feeling of happiness. It was an important mark in my life. I always imagined myself having that Hollywood love scene moment and we did. We slept on a mattress on the floor our first night, had a pizza, and took a few polaroids.

"Our first apt" was written on to the white part of the polaroid and they were displayed on my wall because I was so proud of the occasion.

Unfortunately, the phase didn't last long and the sense of family and security quickly faded. After four months of living together, we broke up.

Out of petty pride, I remained his roommate for the next eight months. There were many things that led to the moment of our break-up. Now when I look back, there were so many things that were somewhat off, little clues that could have helped me avoid the situation altogether.

These are three things that I've learned and also things to consider if you're planning to move in with your significant other:

1. Get a new place together

Common ground is important. It helps to avoid using terms in arguments like "get out of MY house" or "this was MY place before YOURS." Distinctions like that are never helpful. Sharing a common space requires you to communicate effectively.

2. If you have two separate rooms in your place, then you're probably doing it wrong

Yup, I did that. It made sense in my head when I thought about it. We both got easily distracted by each other, so working from home was never really motivating. If you want a roommate, get a roommate. Just because he/she conveniently also needs a place to live doesn't mean you're obligated to move in with them.

3. If you break up, move the F out

Being 19 and hot-headed (and still hot-headed) was never in my favor. I stayed because at the time I couldn't go anywhere else but I also wanted to prove a point that I was not going to back out from a fight. A year of therapy later taught me that I was being stupid and immature in a situation that harmed me emotionally and mentally.


Even though it was a bad place to be in, I made sure I filled that place with enough good memories. I threw a "Single Awareness Party" in that same apartment. My tiny bedroom filled with all the best girls in my life. When I look back now, I only remember the sleepovers I had and my well-decorated room.

Summer is just around the corner, freshmen are moving in and seniors are moving out from college! Before signing that lease with the love of your life, take some time to think if you're really ready to share all your personal space with someone else. Are you ready to compromise on even the smallest topics?

Cover Image Credit: Nacha Promsatian

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12 Things To Know Before Dating A Girl Who Loves Country Singers More Than She Loves You

They’re just as important as you, babe.

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If you're about to fall for a girl who falls for country singers, prepare yourself by knowing the following:

1. The playlist 

My playlist will go from Luke Combs to Blake Shelton and you'll have to deal with it. Your playlists are not an option. I will go on and on about how beautiful their voice is, but don't get jealous.

2. Releases

I will set alarms for new releases like Luke Combs "The Prequel" and you HAVE to be as excited as I am. I will be more excited about these releases than I am about anything else in life, but suck it up buttercup.

3. Concerts

I will give up time with you to go see my favorite singers and you’ll just have to understand. You can either join or not, but the plans aren’t changing.

4. Lyrics

You will hear me quote their lyrics more than I’ll say I love you, but just know I still love you.

5. Car rides

Every car ride will include country music, while it will most likely be Luke Combs or Adam Doleac blaring on the radio, you better enjoy every bit of it.

6. I will talk about how beautiful they are.

You’ll hear about their looks often, wether it be Luke Combs eyes or Luke Bryan’s voice, the looks will be brought up. Don’t get jealous, you’re just as handsome.

7. Their voices

Their voices are BEAUTIFUL. While I personally favor Luke Combs, just know I love yours too.

8. Phone backgrounds 

My phone background is most likely some country singer and not a picture of us, but you’re important, I promise.

9. Home Decor 

I will have pictures of Faren Rachels and I up before I have some of us, but realize I have plenty of pictures of us and one with her.

10. Awards

Whenever any awards are on, they’re number one priority compared to your Braves games. You can always watch recaps.

11. Singing 

I will randomly start singing any song by them and probably interrupt any story you're telling, sorry they're on my mind.

12. Dates

I will make sure any release dates for new songs, albums, or concerts are on my calendar; however, I will probably forget our anniversaries.

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11 Things The Man You Love Should Do For You, No Questions Asked

Sometimes it's just the simple things in life that mean a lot.

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Every girl feels special when the guy she's dating does simple things for her that not everyone thinks about. Here's a list of 10 things that every girl genuinely appreciates.

1. Open/Hold the door

I feel like this one is really simple because everyone has to walk through doors. Chivalry isn't dead, let him open the door for you. He's not trying to prove that you can't do it for yourself, but he's trying to be polite and show you that he cares for you.

2. Give you really big hugs

Everyone has bad days, and sometimes you just need a really big hug. Whether it be a bear hug or the hug where he picks you up and spins you around, it will make you feel better in the long run.

3. Buy you really small gifts

One of the best things my boyfriend has ever done for me is simply bringing me a Dr. Pepper when he knows I'm tired from a long hard day full of exams or work. Sonic slushes will also make my day in a heartbeat.

4. Text/Call you just to tell you he loves you

This is pretty simple. It takes less than 10 seconds to text, and only a few minutes to call. Sometimes you get these texts right at the perfect moment, and it makes you feel so much better.

5. Come see you when you're sick

Everyone hates being sick. But seeing your friends and family while you're sick can make you feel so much better. Having your boyfriend come to see you and possibly even take care of you just makes being sick that much easier.

6. Respect your decisions

You're not married yet, so your decisions are up to you! He should respect the decisions you make and support you, even if it's not what he thinks is the best decision. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else!

7. Give you a shoulder to cry on

We all have bad days, and sometimes you just can't stop the tears from coming. Even if he's not good with crying, he should give you hugs and love to help you get through it.

8. Compliment you

Even if you look horrible and know so, hopefully, he'll still tell you that you look good. Even if the clothes you're wearing aren't his style, he should still tell you that they look good on you and that you are beautiful each and every day.

9. Call you when you're away or he's away

If you're like me, I miss my boyfriend after being away for about three hours, so when we're apart for more than a couple days, I love getting random calls from him when he knows I'm not busy. It's definitely better than a text.

10. Deal with all your annoying quirks

So if you're anything like me, you enjoy screaming music as loudly and horribly as you can in the car and making a complete fool of yourself, but he should love you for that anyway. I also love to take really stupid pictures, and he should put up with that too. He shouldn't be annoyed by your quirks, he should love them and laugh along with you.

11. Love you no matter what

I honestly feel like this goes without saying, but I put it on here so that the girls who don't feel like they're being loved no matter what can realize. He should want to work out problems with you instead of calling it quits and holding a grudge. He should want you to be happy and support you in every decision you make in life. When he loves you unconditionally, he will do all of the above things and more.

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