I Just Moved In With My Boyfriend And You Never Really Know Someone Until You Live With Them
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If you're reading this, then you've either moved in with your boyfriend, girlfriend or have started talking to your s/o about the next big step in your living arrangements. Kudos on you for being able to take such a major step in your relationship, because this usually means that things are getting pretty serious. Though, now that you've actually started the more serious part of your relationship is where you both start to figure out if you can actually deal with this other human being for, well, every day of your life.

As simple as that may seem or even as romantic as it can often time come off in TV shows or movies, it's actually a lot harder than you'd think. The whole notion of you and your s/o being in sync with each other and how picture-esque your life can be is a total joke. I mean, sure there definitely are a few couples out there who almost instantly work out their differences and move in like it's nothing, but for the rest of us...Well let's be real, it's hard work.

For my experience, though I had already been with my boyfriend at the time for about three years, it seriously brought some major fighting, baggage, and curveballs into the mix. I mean, the saying you never really know someone until you know them, really never felt so relatable. So, what exactly should you expect when moving in with your s/o?

First thing, if you haven't already seen their place, then now might be a good time to check it out. As weird as this may seem, being able to see the place you are moving into is kinda crucial. You need to be able to really figure out if you can imagine yourself living there for, well however long you will be living there. You'd be surprised how much you can actually hate a room until you realize that you'd be in it almost every day. For me, I learned that living in a dark space, was not exactly my cup of tea. (Even now, when my fiance and I are looking for new places to live, the key thing I request is a BRIGHT, living space.)

So assuming now that you have a better idea of what your potential new place is going to look like, your first major block in the road is going to hit. The furniture, more specifically whose you're going to keep/get rid of. Now if you are coming from a dorm room, furnished apt or basically a situation where you didn't own the furniture then lucky you, no need to figure that part out. Though, if you are coming from your own personal space, now is the time to really figure out what you are willing to part with and what you are keeping. If you just think that you can move in and bring in all of your large furniture, then this is a wake-up call. You both cannot have two sofas, two coffee tables and like thirty chairs. Narrow it down with your s/o and see which bits you both really like. This way, when you move in you don't feel like you're just living in their space and they don't feel like they are losing theirs.

Quick note, now that your bigger ticket items are moved in, you need to make sure all of your regular items don't crowd up the place. Just be mindful that you aren't knocking out their toothbrush from the sink with your extra items.

Next thing to consider is your daily schedules, I know it may sound like not a big deal because you were living your lives before without it being a problem so how could this matter. Well, now you both are living together in one space, you 6 am wake up time might clash with their 9 am wake up. If you get up earlier or your partner does, you have to keep in mind that you could be disturbing them. Turning on lights, taking a shower, even making breakfast can wake someone up and in cause make them kinda grumpy. Getting ready for dates is now different. You both are sharing the getting ready spaces like your closet or bathroom, maybe you take longer in getting ready then they do. You'll both have to learn to work around each other without getting annoyed or rushing the other one.

Now let's get into the nitty-gritty, learning how to work through the first three months of potential turmoil. Once the sunshine and rainbows disappear from you all taking the next step, you both begin to realize "new" habits in your new roomie that you never noticed before. This is when the real test begins. You both can start to realize that you actually really don't like the way your s/o takes so long in the morning to get ready, or how they might not clean up after themselves the way you are used to. Honestly, you'll probably sit there wondering how they find it so difficult to do things "properly" but they are 100% thinking the exact same thing you are about a completely different thing. It's easy to keep these bottled up to yourself, but when it comes down to you both having an argument over one of these things, you can end up blowing up on each other and making things really tense. Which brings us into our next issue.

Keeping your cool when you're mad at your s/o. Obviously, we should all on a regular basis be as calm as possible when in an argument with our s/o but when you are living together it really takes on a whole new meaning. Before, you could just tell them to wank off and not talk to them for a few days (which is obviously not a healthy solution to an argument). Now when you tell them to shove off you can't really storm off and not see them for a few days...they live in the same space, sleep in the same bed. You're bound to see them at least two or three times in one day. It's going to feel like absolute hell, but keeping chill and actually being a grown-up and talking about your problems will help your relationship in the long run.

Now I am no relationship guru or whatever kind of doctor for love but I am someone who has been in this exact position. From what I listed above, working through the hardships, though I swear almost broke us up, ended up making us stronger. And no, I am not saying it gets easier once you both have it all figured out because there will always be something you or they do that will annoy the hell out of us. (Like not making the bed every morning is still something I'm trying to work on. OR making sure the sink is clean every night.) Just remember to keep calm, be open and not imposing on your partner, because if you manage to survive this like me and my fiance did, then you'll be able to make it through anything.

Literally, so hot RN

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12 Things To Know Before Dating A Girl Who Loves Country Singers More Than She Loves You

They’re just as important as you, babe.

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If you're about to fall for a girl who falls for country singers, prepare yourself by knowing the following:

1. The playlist 

My playlist will go from Luke Combs to Blake Shelton and you'll have to deal with it. Your playlists are not an option. I will go on and on about how beautiful their voice is, but don't get jealous.

2. Releases

I will set alarms for new releases like Luke Combs "The Prequel" and you HAVE to be as excited as I am. I will be more excited about these releases than I am about anything else in life, but suck it up buttercup.

3. Concerts

I will give up time with you to go see my favorite singers and you’ll just have to understand. You can either join or not, but the plans aren’t changing.

4. Lyrics

You will hear me quote their lyrics more than I’ll say I love you, but just know I still love you.

5. Car rides

Every car ride will include country music, while it will most likely be Luke Combs or Adam Doleac blaring on the radio, you better enjoy every bit of it.

6. I will talk about how beautiful they are.

You’ll hear about their looks often, wether it be Luke Combs eyes or Luke Bryan’s voice, the looks will be brought up. Don’t get jealous, you’re just as handsome.

7. Their voices

Their voices are BEAUTIFUL. While I personally favor Luke Combs, just know I love yours too.

8. Phone backgrounds 

My phone background is most likely some country singer and not a picture of us, but you’re important, I promise.

9. Home Decor 

I will have pictures of Faren Rachels and I up before I have some of us, but realize I have plenty of pictures of us and one with her.

10. Awards

Whenever any awards are on, they’re number one priority compared to your Braves games. You can always watch recaps.

11. Singing 

I will randomly start singing any song by them and probably interrupt any story you're telling, sorry they're on my mind.

12. Dates

I will make sure any release dates for new songs, albums, or concerts are on my calendar; however, I will probably forget our anniversaries.

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I Asked 10 Brides What They Wish They Had Done Differently While Wedding Planning And Their Responses Ring True

When the engagement celebration sets in and the wedding planning begins, 10 brides give their advice on how to plan a kick-ass wedding.

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Maybe it's just me, but I was almost in a state of denial after our engagement. I was on this cloud and I didn't want to start thinking about what's next. But a week later we started thinking about possible dates, venues, and budgets and that when the stress began— which wasn't fun.

It's hard not comparing one's wedding and planning processes to those of the movies and other friends. But every wedding is as different as the couple themselves are; that's what makes a wedding spectacular and amazing! So with wedding planning, I have found some of the best advice I have received has been from first-hand experience. These 10 Brides have something to say when asked the question, "What is one thing you wish you hadn't stressed so much when planning your wedding?"

1. Too much pressure on the event.

"Putting too much emphasis on the event, rather than the reason for being there. Make a commitment to God and each other to make it through the good and the bad times. That's what really matters!" Denise, married December 24th, 1994

2. Take in the moment and live it!

"About the wedding day being perfect, it's gonna go how it's gonna go. Don't stress about it, just take in the moment and live it. Oh and don't be a bridezilla. Ruins the day and the mood." Kayla, married December 9th, 2016

3. Do only what you want to do!

"Worrying about everyone else! It's YOUR DAY! Do only what you want to do!" Ashleigh, June 7th, 2017

4. Don't stress the small stuff!

" Planning wasn't that stressful for me! But when it came to the actual day, there were so many things that I was like, 'this literally doesn't matter.' Such as the flowers or decorations or the little details. Of course they were all great and everything looked amazing. But little details you don't even notice on your wedding day. For me, the day went by SOOO fast! Everything was so fast paced and so I didn't even have time to glance at the decorations table or card table. Don't stress the small stuff! Because on your actual day, it'll be the last thing on your mind! Because you'll just wanna see your groom so bad that nothing else matters!" Kelsie, married August 19th, 2018

5. Too many little details that nobody else cared about.

"Too many little details that nobody else cared about that I cared about too much! So much time went into it which I loved, but it's more about spending time with all the people that you love in your life! They don't care how much money you spend on the day or if everything goes perfectly. They just want you to have a good day and they want to celebrate you and your love and marriage!" Savannah, married October 1st, 2017

6. It's about you and your spouse.

"How much other people thought things are important to them. Dang this is my day and what's important to me and my spouse is what matters. It's about us." Denise, married July 28th, 2007.

7. Having the "perfect picture" like everyone else in my mind had.

"Definitely all the details that you don't really notice, like the seating chart at the reception. Don't stress about getting things done the week of the wedding, if it doesn't get done then it doesn't get done. You're going to get married regardless and no one will even notice it. I also had to keep reminding myself, it's about the marriage, not the wedding. Pictures/video were a big thing I stressed about because I wanted it all to be "perfect" pictures like everyone else in my mind had...I spent so much time finding pictures and trying to match those pictures that I didn't enjoy the picture finding process. I would also say that the night before the wedding don't stress too much about all the details that you hadn't gotten to because it's going to be beautiful and you need sleep, especially if you are going on your honeymoon right away because then you wind up sick...
One big one I stressed about a lot was how well all the pinks in my wedding matched (I'm OCD) Cloth napkins, table runners, the bridesmaid dresses, to the decorations." Presley, married August 18th, 2018

8. The guest list

"Honestly I stressed about the guest list the most and still do even now. Since my fiance and I are both from a small town and both have big families, it took us quite a while to get the guest list figured out. Our wedding budget was also a factor in determining how many people we wanted to have as well. At the wedding you want people there that are an influence on your life and it's hard looking back thinking of all the people that have been a part of it over the last many years. Once that was figured out it was a big relief, but it has also been fun planning everything. Even the guest list." -Morgan, getting married in June of 2019.

9. Thinking too much about making it different or comparable to other weddings.

"I'm a people-pleaser by nature. And because we are young I worried about people looking at our wedding and judging based on what we didn't have. I compared it too much to my other friends' weddings, YouTuber's weddings, and the stuff you see in the movies. And finances were a big stress in the early stages as well. But once we took a step back to just process what our wedding meant to us as a couple and what we want our marriage to be, we were able to lighten up a lot and have more fun! Yes, we had to refocus our finances and savings, but really we just kept reminding one another that this was one day to the rest of our lives together as husband and wife. The best is yet to come. - Megan (Me) Getting married in September of 2019!


It's easy to get into the mindset that your wedding has to be "perfect" and it has to look like weddings in the movies or in the pictures of other people. But that's what's amazing about weddings. They are uniquely yours. If you have a hard time getting out of this mindset like I do a lot of the time, just think about your fiance. Remember that you are committing forever to the one you love. Marriage is more than just one day.

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