To The College Girl Going Through A Breakup, He'll Be Just A Memory Before You Know It

I didn't think I was ever going to be happy again. Yes, that's super extra and melodramatic, but that's how I felt. Until I met someone new. Someone who's left me completely shook in all senses. When you go through the ending of something you didn't expect to end nor want to, the aftermath of it all doesn't just melt like snow on a warm day.

We think that person is it, the one we were always destined to meet, because we clique so easily and the chemistry is out of this world. However, those little red flags we start to notice at the beginning, are the ones that eat us alive in the end. We aren't ok with it, but we accept it so we aren't stuck alone for a family function or during the winter at school when you just want another warm body in bed with you.

You have to cut that person off, as hard as it may be, and trust me when I say it's absolutley gut wrenching and I've been there. You have to do it because better things are looming for you. No, it might not be right around the corner like cheesey movies might want you to think, because great things take time.

I was a lost soul for about seven months, not knowing whether I was going to go back to the girl I was before he broke me in ways I never expected to happen to me. Granted, things I knew were red flags were things that should have made me be honest with myself and just leave, but I had too much hope to chnage someone who was not going to change as I wanted him to.

I found someone who is everything I could ever ask for in a guy and ten times more. It's all still so fresh and new and pure. I don't know how or when, but I suddenly realized just how happy I was. My thoughts weren't going to him anymore, and what he was doing or who he was doing and why he didn't look me in the eye anymore. Granted, I knew whatever could have been in terms of a possible future friendship fell apart, but now I don't care anymore.

My thoughts were about seeing this new person, who actually texted me back as great as my friends did. We literally have conversations about anything and everything, and theres never a lull, and I never worry about getting left on open or read anymore.

We think that we're never going to find someone to replace that person we thought was irrecplacable, and suffer alone hating everyone we swipe left on on Tinder or Bumble. There literally is someone a thousand times better than the one who broke your heart. This new person will mend your heart, and give you luster when you thought it was gone forever. Trust me when I say you're going to be happy again, and it'll come when you're truly ready.

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20 Feelings You Probably Still Have When You See Your Ex

It's never really over.


Getting over an ex and moving on is HARD. We all felt at least one of these feelings:

1. You changed me 

2. You hurt me 

3. I still care, always will. 

4. I hate myself for caring still 

5. I still think of you 

6. I hate myself for thinking of you 

7. I know you are happier without me, and that hurts. 

8. I still feel like you are the one 

9. I want you back in my life

10. I don't want you back, I just miss the memories, I'm hurt. 

11. I wish you knew how I still cry over you 

12. You broke my heart and you don't even care 

13. I wonder if you even think of me

14. I will never find love because of you 

15. I feel damaged 

16. I don't want to fall in love anymore 

17. I would rather feel nothing 

18. I feel like I'm drowning in my own tears every time I see you

19. I want to be happy again, let me free, please. 

20. I deserve better, but you could of just been..BETTER. 

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10 Guys Admit The Moment They Realized Their Relationship Was Doomed

If you know, you know.


It's not breaking news that you can just tell when your relationship is going downhill. Whether it's a mood change, a lack of wanting to be around each other, or a blatant fight, the signs are everywhere.

I sent out a survey asking guys to confess when they realized their relationship was bound to fail. Not necessarily a time stamp in the relationship duration where they realized this, but a realization that was prompted by something happening.

This is what they had to say.

1. The little things

"When she stopped smiling in our pictures."

2. Pretty obvious

"When she told me she wanted to break up with me."

3. Friends come first

"She made every excuse under the sun for not being able to be around when my friends were around and refused to meet my family, even after we'd been a thing for almost six months. Whenever I finally asked her about it, she changed the subject and adamantly refused to talk about it. So, I told her if she didn't want to meet my family yet, that was one thing. But if I had to choose between her or my friends, my friends win every time. So, we broke up."

4. Might want a restraining order

"When she broke into my home and I was woken up to her crying and yelling at me."

5. Red flags

"Talking to my partner started to fill me with dread and anxiety, texting was always just a series of miscommunications and fights and we only ever got along in person. There were so many flags that we were incompatible that I ignored throughout the relationship that all coalesced into a massive weight on my chest. Complaining to a close friend and hearing their advice was what finally tipped me off that waiting for things to change was going to get me absolutely nowhere, so I finally broke it off."

6. Communication is key

"Lack of respectful communication."

7. Hindsight is 20/20

"When she stopped texting me very often. The signs were there before but I was oblivious. 20/20 hindsight I guess."

8. Feeling's mutual

"My last relationship only ended because of long distance problems, and because I had to move. It was a mutual agreement."

9. Not enough time

"Neither of us had enough time for the other."

10. Not the right fit

"Our personalities really clashed. She kept participating in activities I wasn't really happy about and we fought about it a lot. We used to get along and be able to have a good time, but something happened I guess. She became a different person."

Responses have been edited for length or clarity.

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