Just Because My Boyfriend Pays For Everything Doesn't Mean I'm Not An Independent Woman
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Just Because My Boyfriend Pays For Everything Doesn't Mean I'm Not An Independent Woman

My boyfriend's money can buy some of my happiness, but it doesn't take away from my independence.

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Just Because My Boyfriend Pays For Everything Doesn't Mean I'm Not An Independent Woman
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First off: my boyfriend is not a sugar daddy. He works two jobs, pays his bills, and treats himself every now and then. He also really likes to spoil me. I've never been a material person, choosing quality time with my S.O. over material items, so when my bf first began to spend his money on me, I was kind of shocked.

This man is incredible and very persistent when it comes to wanting to spend his money on me. We often have to play rock, paper, scissors over who gets to buy the other person a drink or whose turn it is to pay for dinner (fun fact: it's never my turn). My boyfriend is very adamant and persuasive and will say, "Money is made to be spent" any time it comes to the bill.

I've never been the kind of person to be accepting of other people paying for me, or even giving me money. There are mornings where I wake up to a Venmo notification on my phone: a payment sent from my boyfriend and the reason being, "just a reminder that I love you." That begins the Venmo war and we spend the majority of the day sending money back and forth to each other.

In all honesty, I'm pretty independent (regardless of what my parents' bank account says) and would rather go hungry and push my car up a hill than ask for money. I am terrified of asking for money, especially from my parents, but the second I tell my boyfriend I'm tight on cash, he offers to send me money ("babe, I'll send you $100 right now if you need it"). It's not something I'm used to since I spent most of my life working for my own money, and now I have someone offering to pay for everything for me.

My boyfriend constantly reminds me of how independent I am and how that's one of the things he really loves about me, but he also insists on giving me money and paying for my things because he "wants to express his love for me" (I swear, this is a conversation we have often). He likes to send me flowers and buy me cute necklaces and little things as a reminder that I'm always on his mind — which is extremely cute, imho — but I remind him that I'd rather him save his money for important things, which begins a new conversation on the things he deems important, all of which involve me.

Yes, I'm a spoiled girlfriend. Yes, I always try to turn down my boyfriend's money. Yes, I appreciate everything he does for me. I'm still going to be an independent woman and make my own money so that I can support myself and someday, my boyfriend.

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