My Boyfriend Works Out Religiously And I Don’t, But He Loves Me For Me

My Boyfriend Works Out Religiously And I Don’t, But He Loves Me For Me

"Hey babe, I'm headed to the gym. I'll text you when I'm done."

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I have recently changed my relationship status from, "eating ice cream alone and watching 'The Bachelor'" to "eating ice cream and watching 'The Bachelor'... with my boyfriend." I must say I am #blessed and beyond lucky to have such a loving and supportive bae.

Like every new relationship, you have to get to know each other. Their likes and dislikes. Their quirks and pet-peeves. But one of the more exciting things you get to learn, especially if you go to school with them, is how they eat and take care of themselves.

My version of "self-love" looks like sleeping in until 12:00 p.m. and having a hot cup of coffee while I curl up in bed and scroll through the 'gram. In a perfect world, I have a pastry and no responsibilities. But like the Rolling Stones once said, you can't always get what you want.

My boyfriend, on the other hand, is bright-eyed and bushy-tailed at 8 a.m. every morning ready with pre-workout in one hand and a kick-ass attitude in the other. Let me tell you the Lord must have known what He was doing when He brought him into my life.

I have to say that initially, I had a lot of self-doubts when we were first together. I was worried that he wouldn't like me because I am not some fitness model on Instagram that sells protein powder for a little extra cash (I'm not salty lol). I was convinced that every time he went to the gym he would see all these fit girls and wish I was more like them.

It took me a little while to voice these concerns to him because even though I'm a comm major that doesn't mean I am a pro at communicating in a relationship. Immediately once I shared these thoughts, I knew that they were all for nothing. He instantly reassured me that what drew him to me was not my outward appearance (but he did say I'm a sight for sore eyes) but my personality and love for the Lord.

I think this is a topic of conversation that can be so important to have in a relationship. It is great to be able to communicate to one another what you appreciate and admire about each other. One thing I have learned is that you can't read the other person's mind, so you have no clue how they feel about you unless you ask or they show you.

Every woman struggles with loving the body they are given. With social media today, it is so easy to get lost in the "perfect" idea of the female figure. Ladies, there is so much more to you than looks and dress sizes. You have character, talents, passions, dreams and they all make you the woman you are today.

Find a man that will see all of those traits and unique qualities you possess and encourage them. There is nothing like being with someone that loves you for who you are, not what you look like, or how many miles you can run on the treadmill.

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To The Woman Who Needs To Be Wanted, Don’t Let Men Be Your Vice

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.
Cai Parks
Cai Parks
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By definition, a vice is a habitual or trivial defect... a shortcoming. Everyone has a vice.

Mine was men.

I always felt abandoned by the men in my life. I always clung to the opinions and attention of the boys around me...fighting for it in any way I could.

When I was younger, it was easy to get the attention of the boys my age by just dressing cute and having a bubbly personality.

As I got older though, I noticed that I was having to work harder and harder for their attention. Eventually, it turned into me feeling like I had to give myself to them in any way they asked to get their attention.

So that’s what I did.

I used my body as a way to fill some kind of void that I thought could be filled with the love of a man.

As the years went on, I felt myself clinging to not their love, but their lust.

I no longer cared about their love.

I just wanted to hear them call me hot, sexy, or beautiful. I knew they were using me.

I didn’t care.

I needed them to want me.

I needed them to beg.

I needed to feel needed.

For any woman who might feel as though a man’s lust for you can fill that deep void in your heart, take a step back. Trivial, temporary things like that will only make your heart heavier.

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with living life the way you want or with who you want, but don’t use that lifestyle simply as a way to make you feel wanted.

Because my Prince Charming came into my life and I no longer needed any other man.

I finally felt truly loved and he helped me to learn that even without him, I would be more than a body.

He helped me see that I was a body, face, brain, smile, laugh, personality, and everything in between.

I am a strong woman now that I know my worth.

You are a strong woman.

Show your strength.

Know your worth.

Cover Image Credit: @thersagrant/Instagram
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Everything You Should Know Before Dating A Fitness Instructor

Sex, weights, cheat meal dates.

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As a fitness trainer, I know how much we love our job. How much we love the people we help and encourage. How much we never want to stop doing what we do. Yet, it's not all sunshine and rainbows. My boyfriend has to put up with some things that probably, kinda sorta are unconventional. But, he's living his dream (his words).

No matter what they teach, personal training, yoga, pilates, barre, HIIT, I could go on and on, but either way, they are passionate about the people they work with. This fire follows them throughout their life and will most definitely influence you.

1. Constant practicing

Don't be alarmed if you wake up to find her up and about practicing her routines for a class/client.

2. Gushing about a client who has been killing it 

No matter how much of a tough cookie we are, clients touch our hearts.

3. She's flexible

You. Are. Welcome. My best friends always introduce me to guys with, "She's really flexible ;)"

4. There's a routine, stick to it

We may be flexible, but don't come between her and her schedule. She is supported by her routine.

5. You are now a fitness class guinea pig

She needs you to help her rehearse. Approach her practice tests with enthusiasm and just have fun.

6. She'll never judge you

Don't ever feel pressured or intimidated. We love you for you. And, news flash, we are not perfect.

7. Always learning

Learning never ends. Learning new routines, learning new people, learning new emotions, learning new approaches to life.

8. And always eating

Teaching a few classes a day is tough on the body. We need our snacks. All. The. Time.

9. Stretches before bed... every night

No matter how tiring and long the day was, she will make sure to fit it a quick bend and no break.

10. The funny things that happened during class

Story time: One time I taught and my pants ripped. Only made the class more fun!

11. Shaker bottle vases

There's no need for vases, when shaker bottles do you justice. The first time my boyfriend brought home roses, I didn't have a vase so we improvised and used a shaker bottle. Now, that's the only vase we will ever need.

12. Free personal training

It's your dream come true. Fitness is at your right hand at all times. Plus, we will be pumped to start talking to you about our passion.

13. She talks endlessly about how well/not well your class went

Sometimes we kill it and sometimes... we fall a little short.

14.  Chugging water

We need to stay hydrated! Plus, she'll be your water tracker as she bugs you to drink with her. Shots! Shots! Shots (of water)!

15. Team work makes the dream work

There is no "I" in team and fitness instructors know the strength of collaboration and support. No one can go through journey a journey alone.

16. She wakes you up early to go on a run

Let's take a jog to the beach and watch the sunrise!

17. Protein, protein, and more protein

She doesn't have to be a weight lifter to assure that she nourishes her body with enough protein (from any source you prefer). My cupboard is always stocked with lentils and chickpeas.

18. Watching her watch fitness videos to get ideas

While you're reading the news, scrolling through Instagram, or just chilling out, she'll be watching workout videos or saving posts from fitness accounts.

19. Goes to bed super early

We need at least eight hours of beauty sleep and, let's be real, we are grandpas.

20.  She lives off of Spotify playlists

Wait, do you hear that song? What's it called, I need to add it to my workout playlist. Plus, she loves to sing (even if she isn't that good).

21.  Pulse 2, 3, 4

While she does chores, she'll start reciting her catchphrases and mantras.

22.  She's your forever cheerleader

Getting out of bed? If you don't squeeze it, no one else will! Washing the dishes? Let's go, you've got this! Running to the bathroom? One more minute! 30 more seconds! Mowing the lawn? You better feel it tomorrow!

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