11 New Year's Resolutions That Every College Girl Should Make For The Sake Of Her Love Life

11 New Year's Resolutions That Every College Girl Should Make For The Sake Of Her Love Life

If you're trying to find Mr. Right and can't find him, maybe try some of these resolutions this year.

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"New Year, New Me."

The typical new year saying. Everyone says it at some point or another. Whether you're trying to get that summer body you've been dying for or you're trying to write that novel that you've been sitting on for four years, New Year's resolutions are hard to keep. As someone who started dating someone around the New Year start, there's something I've learned.

When it comes to relationships, there's often going to be some sacrifices you'll make. When it comes to your love life in college, you're going to find that there's things that worked while you were in high school, that DEFINITELY won't work now that you've grown up.

So here are 11 resolutions every college girl should make for the sake of her love life:

1. Stop. Checking. His. Phone.

This is a pet peeve of mine. If you are with someone, you should trust them. And if you can't trust them, you shouldn't be with them. Leave the phone snooping in the past, please. Your love life (and partner) beg you.

2. Start thinking more before you speak.

This might sound mean, but actually think about it. How many times have you gotten so mad about something so little, and blew it out of proportion because you didn't think before you started to get mad? I've learned that (and this goes for boyfriends and girlfriends) that we really need to sit and think before we decide to make a deal out of something, that might not be that serious.

3. Don't assume.

This can be a tough one for people. Often our minds get the best of us, and we find ourselves thinking of the "what if's." The problem with that is, we are assuming something that might not be true. If you have a question about anything that relates or concerns your partner, bring it up to them.

4. Talk more

This will sound funny because the stereotype is that girls "talk too much." When, in reality, we actually don't talk enough. When something is genuinely bothering you, talk about it. Don't sit there pulling the whole "I'm fine" bit. It's not doing your relationship any good. Your boyfriend/girlfriend can't know how to fix the problem, if they don't know there's a problem or what it is.

5. Hug longer

This may sound silly, but it works. A hug can seriously increase your serotonin release, making both you and your partner happier. I recommend couples hug for AT LEAST 2 minutes before they go to bed. It will make a difference.

6. NEVER. GO. TO. BED. ANGRY.

I know everyone hears it all the time, but how often do you do it? I've been there where I've been so mad that I just wanted to go to bed and forget the whole thing. But the truth is, going to bed angry doesn't fix anything. In fact, it makes it that much worse. Nobody should ever go to sleep feeling angry at their partner or having their partner angry with them. You won't sleep well and you'll find yourself waking up more upset than you were before.

7. Take the time to listen.

And I mean actually listen. If your partner is so excited about something that happened at work, listen to them. It could be the most boring story in the world, but think about how happy and excited they were to tell you about it. The least you could do is listen to them. Their happiness, will bounce onto you.

8. Remember, your emotions affect the other's.

I learned this in my current relationship. Emotions can often bounce from each other. If my boyfriend comes home stressing out or anxious, I'll end up stressing out too. Even if it's not something for me to be stressed about. If I'm having a day where I'm really depressed, that emotion counter acts on him and he'll find himself sad, not knowing how to fix it. While everyone's emotions are always valid, try to remember why your partner is feeling the way they are. Try to help them before their emotions hit yours.

9. Say "I love you" more.

I never let my boyfriend leave without me saying I love him. He could be really irritating me that day to the point where I could rip my hair out, but I'd still say I love you. At the end of your day, they're your other half. You are together for a reason. Remember that.

10. Never take advantage.

This can go for anything. Don't take advantage of the love you guys have. Life can change in the matter of seconds. Don't take advantage of their love for you either. If you aren't happy with them, but like the things they do for you, you're using them.

11. Cherish EVERY moment together.

Like I said before, life can be crazy. You never know what's going to happen next. The best thing you can do is sit back, and cherish the love you guys share. The memories you guys are making. And everything in between. Never let a moment go to waste.

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PSA: Don't Text And Date, Do It Like Our Grandparents

Waiting for a text from a boy is like waiting for water to boil. Sometimes I think if I take a lap around my kitchen then the text will magically light up my phone.

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Texting in our relationships has become so prevalent that it has snuck its way into TV. shows and movies, as well as songs. This makes sense because it is such a large part of our lives. Texting boys can be great in some cases, especially in long distance relationships.

And don't get me wrong, it certainly can be exciting!

But I've realized is that it has the potential to be incredibly inefficient and waste a whole lot of everyone's time. The time that is wasted is a combination of the time spent texting in a conversation that leads absolutely nowhere, along with the time you spend thinking about when that next text is going to roll in. Not to mention all the time you spend screenshotting these texts and sending them to your friends and asking advice on how to craft a perfect reply and agonizing over the right wording, re-typing over and over again, having everyone from your best friend to your Mom weigh in on the perfect syntax.

For a generation that is obsessed with getting everything as fast as possible, why are we contacting each other so inefficiently? We think we will just send a quick text, but more often than not, it turns into a whole production.

Snapchat can be even worse. Taking time out of your day to take a well-lit selfie and send it to a boy just so he can send you a snap of his actual chin is just ridiculous.

We are talking to people constantly about absolutely nothing. And quite frankly, we all deserve more. Technology is great, but just because it is advanced doesn't mean it's advancing our communication skills. Boys, I think it might be time to pick up the phone again. Imagine if instead of spending countless hours in a Snapchat conversation grasping at straws to make a plan with the girl you like, you actually just picked up the phone. The call would take maybe two minutes to set up a plan instead of whittling away a whole day. It seems like just because we have the option to text or message someone, we forget that we have the alternative of a trusty phone call.

If our grandparents had dated the way that we did, would they have ever worked out? Would our parents ever have been born? Would we even exist?

As I am re-watching "Sex and The City," "Gilmore Girls" and "Friends" yet again, I am overcome with nostalgia about what dating was like during these times. I'd love to come home to a message on my machine.

Maybe you're reading this and you think I'm lame and old fashioned and you're absolutely right, but I think I have a point. In order to have better success in our romantic relationships, we need to work on actually saying something. Why are we claiming we are "talking" to someone when we have never talked to them in person? How did we end up in this reality of sulking when we have been left on read, or obsessively checking to see if someone has viewed our Snapchat story?

We've been given all these ways of pseudo-communicating and endless time to do it and absolutely no rule book of what is acceptable. When you really think about it, it's a recipe for disaster that could be destroying our relationships before they even start. We need an Emily Post of technology to teach us how to behave. We need to stop abusing the convenience of technology and start challenging ourselves to communicate better.

I challenge you if you're a single lady that the next time a boy asks for your Snapchat, tell them you'd prefer it if they called you to make plans.

Guys, just call a girl! It might really impress her! Everyone who tries this has full permission to call me and yell at me if the person who calls you/you call says you're a huge freak. But do me a favor and start leaving your ringer on when you're not in class. Let's talk.

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13 Reasons To Date An Aries Girl ASAP

Once she's in, she is in with her entire heart.

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It's my absolute favorite season: Aries season! As an Aries, I tend to flourish as my best self once Aries season rolls around. I'm here to lead the way into the new astrological year, and as a single Aries, I'm here to convince single guys why they should date an Aries girl like me ASAP.

1. She's adventurous

She's not content with humdrum dates, she needs action or she'll leave you out of boredom. She'll be down for something to get her adrenaline pumping and will keep you on your toes.

2. She's driven

She's a girl with goals. She's independent and doesn't need anyone holding her back from what she wants. Support her or get out of her way.

3. She's all in whole-heartedly

When she falls, she falls all at once with her entire being. This is a girl who is willing to put her heart on the line for love once she knows it's real. You'll never have to worry about her heart being anywhere else but with you.

4. She's very direct with her likes and dislikes

She isn't a sugar coater since she hates liars, so she'll be honest about everything. Whether you like it or not, you'll always get the truth from an Aries girl.

5. She's super passionate

Whatever it may be, an Aries will be passionate for what she loves. I am passionate about writing, and I never let anything get in the way of it. In a relationship, an Aries girl will bring the heat that comes with her passion for you.

6. She's not a clinger

She hates clingers SO MUCH. Over the top PDA or romantic things generally make an Aries cringe (maybe not all of us, but I know that's how it is for me). She loves getting attention, but being clingy is a major turnoff, and she isn't one herself. She's not going to beg to see you 24/7, she likes to lead her own life.

7. She's a great listener

She loves to talk, but something she's just as great at is listening. She'll ask you so many questions to get to know you and really listen to what you have to say when you answer them.

8. She's big on friends and family, they come first

She's a big proponent of valuing her friends and family above all else. She will likely go to them for advice about everything. Meeting them is more important to an Aries than many people realize. If you're big on family, she's the girl for you.

9. She's open to anything in the bedroom

Got a fantasy? She's game to indulge. She's adventurous and that extends to bedroom activities as well. The same old routine bores her, so don't be afraid to experiment and try new things.

10. She only uses the past as a means to learn

She's probably got a rough past she doesn't necessarily want to talk about. The past is the past and she tries to use this as a lesson. It takes a lot for her to open up about it. She tries to be optimistic and keep herself in the present, and this optimism may rub off on you eventually.

11. Her cuddle game is epic

You'll never want to leave bed once your Aries girl gets her hands on you. You'll be too comfortable to leave.

12. She loves fashion and wears trends well

She loves wearing what's in fashion and looking her very best. Her outfits may put yours to shame. She's the kind of woman you want on your arm while you're out on the town.

13. She'll be the woman you'll never forget

You may break up or drift apart, but she's the girl that will leave a permanent mark on your heart. She's unforgettable.

Get your Aries while you can, because if you don't scoop her up, someone else will.

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