Newsflash, Ladies: You Don't Own Your Boyfriend

Newsflash, Ladies: You Don't Own Your Boyfriend

It's love. Not a dictatorship.

Yes, he is your boyfriend. Congratulations on that. Him being your boyfriend does not suddenly make you in a positive of his boss, mother, or authoritative figure. I know many girls who never thought they would become that kind of girlfriend, the kind who tries to steal away their man as though he is an object that they possess. I hate the idea of a man owning a woman or hiding her away. I find it repulsive, however, I think that the epidemic of girls stowing away their boyfriends is one that flies completely under the radar.

"He's got a girlfriend." This is a phrase I have been sent over text message time and time again. Dating someone does not mean cutting off social contact from every other female you know.

That's not how it works. That's not love.

That's not a healthy relationship of consent and trust. It is a dictatorship. You are plagued with insecurity and a lack of trust and in response, you try to swipe your man away from anyone he comes in contact with so hold you many hold him like a prize. However, the unfortunate thing about relationships is that they end. They end often.

Finding a soul mate is real. It is something that I believe in wholeheartedly, however, with putting my trust in this test of fate I have to also acknowledge the odds. Finding the one you will spend the rest of your life with can often time be a one in a million shot. When and if this relationship ends, you will see the people you have cut off and the meaningful friendships you have ended all for a relationship that you will not reap the rewards of.

My favorite tweet I've ever seen in my three years of Twitter was one by a young woman who is perhaps the most confident and secure person I've ever had the pleasure of following.

"Ladies," she says,

"Please talk to my boyfriend. Do it. Make jokes, ask questions, and have conversations with him. Because at the end of the day I know what we have and him having friendships is not something that makes me feel threatened. I trust him and really, I trust you too. If you want to make plans to hang out with him, do so. He's a lot of fun to hang out with and in no way do I blame you for spending time with him.
"If you can't trust your boyfriend to talk to other girls without it progressing too far, then we should not be your boyfriend. Relationships are about trust and if you and your significant other do not pertain the emotional maturity to realize that, then neither of you need to be in one."

I fell quiet while reading that. It was perhaps the most enlightening thing I've read in a while. If your insecurity runs so deep that you want to have the person you are dating restricted in his social contact, your problems exceed far greater than your love life issues. Have faith. Have truth. Have security in who you are as well as who he is.

If you are unable to do those things, relationships are not for you.

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12 Things To Know Before Dating A Girl Who Loves Country Singers More Than She Loves You

They’re just as important as you, babe.


If you're about to fall for a girl who falls for country singers, prepare yourself by knowing the following:

1. The playlist 

My playlist will go from Luke Combs to Blake Shelton and you'll have to deal with it. Your playlists are not an option. I will go on and on about how beautiful their voice is, but don't get jealous.

2. Releases

I will set alarms for new releases like Luke Combs "The Prequel" and you HAVE to be as excited as I am. I will be more excited about these releases than I am about anything else in life, but suck it up buttercup.

3. Concerts

I will give up time with you to go see my favorite singers and you’ll just have to understand. You can either join or not, but the plans aren’t changing.

4. Lyrics

You will hear me quote their lyrics more than I’ll say I love you, but just know I still love you.

5. Car rides

Every car ride will include country music, while it will most likely be Luke Combs or Adam Doleac blaring on the radio, you better enjoy every bit of it.

6. I will talk about how beautiful they are.

You’ll hear about their looks often, wether it be Luke Combs eyes or Luke Bryan’s voice, the looks will be brought up. Don’t get jealous, you’re just as handsome.

7. Their voices

Their voices are BEAUTIFUL. While I personally favor Luke Combs, just know I love yours too.

8. Phone backgrounds 

My phone background is most likely some country singer and not a picture of us, but you’re important, I promise.

9. Home Decor 

I will have pictures of Faren Rachels and I up before I have some of us, but realize I have plenty of pictures of us and one with her.

10. Awards

Whenever any awards are on, they’re number one priority compared to your Braves games. You can always watch recaps.

11. Singing 

I will randomly start singing any song by them and probably interrupt any story you're telling, sorry they're on my mind.

12. Dates

I will make sure any release dates for new songs, albums, or concerts are on my calendar; however, I will probably forget our anniversaries.

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11 Things The Man You Love Should Do For You, No Questions Asked

Sometimes it's just the simple things in life that mean a lot.


Every girl feels special when the guy she's dating does simple things for her that not everyone thinks about. Here's a list of 10 things that every girl genuinely appreciates.

1. Open/Hold the door

I feel like this one is really simple because everyone has to walk through doors. Chivalry isn't dead, let him open the door for you. He's not trying to prove that you can't do it for yourself, but he's trying to be polite and show you that he cares for you.

2. Give you really big hugs

Everyone has bad days, and sometimes you just need a really big hug. Whether it be a bear hug or the hug where he picks you up and spins you around, it will make you feel better in the long run.

3. Buy you really small gifts

One of the best things my boyfriend has ever done for me is simply bringing me a Dr. Pepper when he knows I'm tired from a long hard day full of exams or work. Sonic slushes will also make my day in a heartbeat.

4. Text/Call you just to tell you he loves you

This is pretty simple. It takes less than 10 seconds to text, and only a few minutes to call. Sometimes you get these texts right at the perfect moment, and it makes you feel so much better.

5. Come see you when you're sick

Everyone hates being sick. But seeing your friends and family while you're sick can make you feel so much better. Having your boyfriend come to see you and possibly even take care of you just makes being sick that much easier.

6. Respect your decisions

You're not married yet, so your decisions are up to you! He should respect the decisions you make and support you, even if it's not what he thinks is the best decision. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else!

7. Give you a shoulder to cry on

We all have bad days, and sometimes you just can't stop the tears from coming. Even if he's not good with crying, he should give you hugs and love to help you get through it.

8. Compliment you

Even if you look horrible and know so, hopefully, he'll still tell you that you look good. Even if the clothes you're wearing aren't his style, he should still tell you that they look good on you and that you are beautiful each and every day.

9. Call you when you're away or he's away

If you're like me, I miss my boyfriend after being away for about three hours, so when we're apart for more than a couple days, I love getting random calls from him when he knows I'm not busy. It's definitely better than a text.

10. Deal with all your annoying quirks

So if you're anything like me, you enjoy screaming music as loudly and horribly as you can in the car and making a complete fool of yourself, but he should love you for that anyway. I also love to take really stupid pictures, and he should put up with that too. He shouldn't be annoyed by your quirks, he should love them and laugh along with you.

11. Love you no matter what

I honestly feel like this goes without saying, but I put it on here so that the girls who don't feel like they're being loved no matter what can realize. He should want to work out problems with you instead of calling it quits and holding a grudge. He should want you to be happy and support you in every decision you make in life. When he loves you unconditionally, he will do all of the above things and more.

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