It's Only Natural That Nice Guys Finish Last

It's Only Natural That Nice Guys Finish Last

In nature, there is no such thing as a "nice guy."
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Yes. I've come to terms to accept this inevitable fate.

"Nice guys finish last."

A couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine quoted this to me in our guy chat we created during my time in community college about one of his closest friends he grew up with, a 19-year-old girl who, a couple of years ago, moved from Valley Stream, New York to California. He cherishes her charm, misses her, and longs for her affection. Unfortunately for him, the girl he loves hardly ever speaks to him, maybe once or twice a week at most, and it honestly kills him. So he assumes the worst and tells me the what all emotionally kind and sweet male human beings come to terms with.

"Nice guys finish last."

Now being that same, kind gentlemen he is, I can relate to him on a spiritual level and agree with his notion through my relationship experiences myself. However, I've come to a point in which I've completely stopped complaining about it and not using it as an excuse.

Nice guys finish last......so what?

Studying Biology and Evolution really opened my eyes to some incredible things about love in nature.

In nature, there is no such thing as a "nice guy."

The point of an individual of a certain species is to increase its inclusive fitness (rB> C, its relative benefit to kin multiplied by its relatedness must be greater than the fitness cost to have a favorable allele) by means of reproduction, taking care and raising its kin, and allowing your kin to be strong enough to raise its own.

Outside of human beings, animals do not have career paths or schooling; their lives are based solely on survival and sexual reproduction and the male that has the genes and alleles favorable to an individual female is the one that will reproduce (sorry, roses and a dinner date simply won't work here).

Here's an example:

Peacocks are relatively well known for mating rituals. The males usually are the more colorful, vibrant sex and have large, bright tail feathers (you might have seen them at your local zoo). The females, for the most part, are brown colored and drab and do not possess the large tail feathers that males have (sorry ladies).

The more colorful and vibrant the males are, the more successful a male will be in mating a female, thus leading to the reproduction of his own offspring and increasing his "fitness."

So whenever love doesn't seem to be going well for you, remember this. Yes, "nice guys finish last." Well...it's only natural.

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10 Soulful Luke Combs Lyrics To Get You Through That Bad Breakup

Breakups are tough, but Luke Combs is here to help.

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Breakups are very hard to deal with, whether you ended the relationship or your significant other did. The clock on the wall will cure it all and so will Luke Combs, so here's 10 lyrics to do exactly that:

1. "But the clock on the wall will cure it all, even though that ain't how it seems"

2. "You wrecked my world when you came and hit me like a hurricane"

3. "Whoever said it ain't the end of the world and you'll find somebody new, must've never met you"

4. "I picked myself up off the floor and found something new worth living for"

5. "Don't know what you got 'till it's gone, and you're out on your own. All you want is what you can't get back"

6. "And I ain't gotta see my ex future mother-in-law anymore. Oh lord, when it rains it pours"

7. "I'm one number away from calling you. I said I was through, but I'm dying inside"

8. "The second I left, I was kicking myself cause I knew I should've stayed."

9. "I didn't know then, but I sure know now that long neck iced cold beer never broke my heart"

10. "There's a lot of things in this 'ole world I can stand, but when it comes to losing you I just can't"

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4 Reasons I Will NEVER Get Back Together With Any Of My Ex-Boyfriends

It's your loss babe, not mine.

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For being so young I have gone through so much unfair and unnecessary pain because I tried to find love too quick. I have not had one relationship end on good terms and I wish I could say it was all their fault, but I cannot help but to believe there must be something I am doing wrong.

In this generation, people say "I love you" too fast and goodbye too soon. We millennials put all our passion in the beginning of things, forgetting there are greater ends to be discovered. My soul has beaten down, broken, and lost to multiple men that I believed had true intentions. Even though I have never had a good relationship, to be extremely honest, if I knew when I was younger who would break my heart I would never try to change it.

Somedays, like the day I am writing this on, I feel empty and lost because of the suffering that I have experienced and I feel as though I will never be good enough and never find complete happiness. On other days I rejoice because the men that have broken my heart have humbled me. I am loathsome and grateful for them and my experiences with them all at the same time.

Although there are saddening times and certain things that I miss about my exes I will never get back together with any of them for four reasons.

1. Immaturity.

I started dating when I was 13. My first real boyfriend, and what I thought at the time to be first my first real love, broke up with me through text on New Year's Eve. My 13-year-old self was devastated and thought my entire world was ending. Clearly, that is an experience I remember and tell because the kids in middle school and junior high really believe that they are with their forever person, but they have a huge awakening because immaturity does not go well with relationships.

2. Cheating.

Getting cheated on broke my entire image of myself and I couldn't find one good quality about myself because I truly believed that if there was one that he would not have done it. I was wrong, and I wish the day that I found out he had cheated on me that I would not have begged for him to stay with me. After choosing another girl over me I should have realized he is and never will be the truly good man I need and he does not deserve the woman I am.

3. We changed.

I'm not completely the same person I was three months again, let alone 2 years again, and honestly, neither is he. Growing apart is not a bad thing, it is something that just happens naturally. Years later, when we speak, I may not laugh at the same jokes anymore and I may not smile at the same things that I did when I was 16. We both have been with other people and have seen and done new things, there is nothing wrong with that. It is just simply moving on. As Sam Waterson said, "If you're not moving forward, you're falling back." I chose to move forward with my life over falling back into my toxic relationships and for that, I have changed into someone I love and someone they will never have again.

4. You let me down.

I have two expectations of men when it comes to dating, to be loyal and to be loving. A relationship is nothing without trust and giving the same energy back that you put in. That is completely what all my past relationships have lacked. My exes have let me down because they could not fill my expectations that should be what is in any normal, healthy relationship. In today's world, everyone has commitment issues and not many people know how to let themselves just fall. That is devastating for the people that do because they, like myself, get hurt and are made to feel it's their fault.

To everyone I've dated or talked to, thank you for breaking my heart and showing me that you are exactly what I do not need in my life.

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