4 Things That Would Be Relationship Red Flags But Are Completely Normal In LDRs

I've been in a long-distance relationship for a long, long, long time now. My boyfriend and I are actually nearing our fourth anniversary come this October. We've been through a lot and endured a lot of scares. My LDR is across an ocean and yours may be across a state. Both are difficult, and both can have you frustrated, asking yourself, "Is our relationship strong at all?" I'm here to help explain that yes, it's still going alright.

You have days when you don't talk. 

Depending on how long you've been together you might've noticed that your calls together might just be complete silence. This isn't the end of the world, and it certainly isn't a sign of the end of your relationship. It becomes hard to talk to one another as vigorously as you might've when you first began dating. Odds are if you're talking on the phone or through the computer you're multi-tasking, and that will ALWAYS take up some of your attention.

If you're genuinely concerned about it try bringing it up with your partner or try to come up with things you can do together.

You/They are anxious about telling their family about your relationship. 

To be completely honest, I didn't tell my family about my relationship until a couple months before my boyfriend flew out to the States to come and visit me. I was scared that they wouldn't like him, wouldn't see our relationship as a REAL relationship. Even in our digital age, there are plenty of people who just don't "get" online dating.

I went to the extremes of telling my mother about my boyfriend in a public restaurant to deter her from getting too angry with me. I was scared that my relationship would somehow disappoint or anger her, when in reality she was just curious and wanted to know more about it. Please don't wait years to tell people about it. Odds are you or they are just like I was and simply over thought it.

Your plans to hang out tend to fall through. 

Now, this is something that is highly dependent on your relationship. If plans ALWAYS fall through and what kinds of plans fall through. Things like deciding not to video call that night, or call at all, for that matter, are small things you really shouldn't worry about (unless you've never actually held a video call with them before and haven't met them in real life). However, if you're a bit closer to your partner than I am, and plans to drive out for a physical date are constantly being discarded then you should definitely look into it.

My boyfriend is seven hours ahead of me, time-wise. We have days when we say, "We should watch "Room" on Netflix tomorrow," and then hardly text one another come tomorrow. Time zones can make things harder and cause people to misjudge when they'd be free to actually hang out.

They don't drop what they're doing or who they're hanging out with to spend time with you. 

Honestly, this is something that took me a while to come to terms with. I felt as though I was entitled to his time before every and any other person. Even if we're dating and don't talk as often as we used to that doesn't mean that he loves me any less for deciding to play a game with a friend he had been hanging out with before I had even messaged him. Our partners have lives outside of our own and in any relationship, long-distance or not.

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Valentine's Day Became My New Favorite Holiday When I Started Dating The Perfect Man

When you find someone that treats the day with the love and diligence that you deserve, you'll see just how much more meaningful it can be.


February 14th, 2018.

I finished my last class that Wednesday, excited to meet up with my boyfriend, Nick. It was our first Valentine's Day together, and I was interested to see what was in store for us. I walked towards the back of the building, and into the parking lot. That's when I saw him, all dressed up, stepping out of his car, holding a bouquet of white roses (my favorite). I can't lie. I cried happy tears. I couldn't believe that he remembered something small I said in passing. I couldn't believe that I was with someone that knew how to make me feel so special.

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After what felt like a very long car ride of me trying not to hold back more tears, Nick pulled into a parking lot near our school's chapel. I cluelessly stared at him as he pulled out a guitar out of the trunk, took my hand, and led me around to the back of the building. While we sat on the cement steps, overlooking the scenery, he serenaded me by singing "Latch" by Sam Smith. (Yes, I melted on the spot.) His singing voice is so smooth and sexy.

When we finally got back to my apartment, he handed me this adorable photo book. I could tell that it definitely took it took time and money to put it together. The gift was so personal and sentimental and it made my heart warm knowing that I had a gift I could flip through and look back at any time in the future. (To any other men in relationships: take notes!)

I can't explain to you how badly I needed to feel that kind of love. That unconditional, endless, "I'm never going anywhere" love. That "you are worth it" love. We had only been dating for about two months by the time it was Valentine's Day. It amazed me that he was willing to do so much for me so early into us dating. But everyone deserves that relationship.

Even now, almost a full year later, February 14th, 2018 is not only one of my favorite dates, but also one of my favorite days. It had a lasting impact and I think that speaks volumes about how much it meant to me. And yes, I'm thrilled for Valentine's Day 2019.

Too many people treat Valentine's Day as something obligatory. Like, here's this bear or I made a reservation for us at this restaurant. I guess it's good that they didn't forget about Valentine's Day altogether, but still, there's not enough feeling and effort put into it. Valentine's Day, just like your anniversary, is a celebration of your love.

When you find someone that treats the day with the love and diligence that you deserve, you'll see just how much more meaningful it can be. And it might even become your new favorite holiday too.

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The Best New Movies And TV Shows This February To Binge-Watch With Your Boo

And if you don't have a boo—binge watch the following with pizza and wine!


There's nothing like binge-watching a movie or show while cuddling with your boo. Whether it's a rainy day, you two are homebodies, or you're just running out of Netflix shows and movies to watch, then this is the article for you. I have done extensive research straight from my bed in an effort to find the best new TV shows and movies to watch on Netflix right now and this coming month.

Here are 11 of the best movies and TV shows on Netflix to watch with your boo this February:

1. You

You can actually watch this Netflix show right now. I binge-watched it in TWO days. Netflix picked up this show from Lifetime and Season 2 has already been filmed. It is a creepy thriller and I feel like that's the best way I can describe it.

And can we talk about the parallels between Joe and Dan Humphrey? Disturbing to say the least.

2. Close

This will be released January 18th. If you and your boo like an action-packed movie, this one is for you. A woman security guard is hired to protect an heiress from highly trained kidnappers. If "Taken" was your jam, I have a feeling you'll like this, too.

3. Sex Education

This show is absolutely hilarious. A teenage virgin with a sex therapist as a mother teams up with an edgy classmate to start their own sex therapy clinic at their school—because since his mom is an expert that means he is, too... right?

4. The Umbrella Academy

Calling all comic book lovers! Coming to Netflix February 15—a dysfunctional family of superheroes band together. This adaptation of "The Umbrella Academy" comic books is a must-watch. This series stars Ellen Page (MY GIRL), so you know where to find me come the premiere.

5. Velvet Buzzsaw

Two words: Jake Gyllenhaal *swoon*. All art is dangerous. "Velvet Buzzsaw" will be released February 1. Let me just say, this thriller truly puts a new twist on artwork coming to life.

6. IO

Coming to Netflix January 18. Another post-cataclysmic Earth movie—sensing a theme here. The two characters lose hope for earth and set their sights elsewhere: space.

7. Russian doll

Russian Doll from Amy Poehler, Natasha Lyonne, and Leslye Headland... Natasha Lyonne puts nine lives to shame. This one arrives February 1st. I wonder if she'll figure out how to stop dying.

8. Polar

What do you do if your job sees you as a liability? Well if you're an assassin, you fight for your life. This is one both you and your boo should enjoy.

9. Black Mirror: Bandersnatch

The interactive thriller. This reminds me of the "Goosebump" books with multiple endings. This is a fun one to do if you want to feel more involved with your movie. You make the calls.

10. Grace and Frankie

"Never too old to not give a f*ck." Grace and Frankie returns January 18 and before your boo says, "f*ck no" to this Netflix original, make him watch this trailer. You can't help but love this show and laugh while doing it.

11. Bird Box, obviously

That is if you haven't seen it already... Watch this movie and you won't regret it. Although your boyfriend might get jealous of Trevante Rhodes (as he should). Oh and just in case you didn't know (cause apparently Twitter didn't)... Sandra Bullock has BEEN around—her badass talent is nothing new.

SEE ALSO: The Best Bird Box Memes That Perfectly Describe Dating In 2019, Since You're Not Seeing Anyone

So next time you have a night in with bae put on your cozy socks, pour a glass of wine, order some pizza and start one of these great movies or shows!

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