When You're 1 Month Into The Relationship Vs. 1 Year Into The Relationship

When You're 1 Month Into The Relationship Vs. 1 Year Into The Relationship

Their absence weighs heavily on your heart. It's hard not to feel upset when you have to sleep in your bed alone. When they leave, it's like they take a part of you with them.


On December 21st, I had the pleasure of celebrating 365 days together with my boyfriend. Even though it's been a few days since then, I still tear up when I think about it. Anyone that's been in a relationship for one or more years knows how big of a deal it is.

But if you haven't experienced that yet, the best way that I can explain it is that it's an emotional celebration. It makes you think about all the memories you've made thus far. It makes you think back on where your relationship began, versus where you and your S.O. are now.

In honor of that journey, I wanted to show how much your relationship can change from dating one month to dating one year.

Friends and family

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One month: You think that it's important to meet and get to know their family and friends. You might feel some pressure and anxiety because you really want them to like you.

One year: You've probably started to consider your S.O. as part of your family. Maybe you even plan on having kids with them someday (or a few dogs and cats, if you don't want to be a parent).


Nicole Osztrogonacz

One month: You've started to get to know each other. Maybe you still feel uncomfortable about some things, like shaving your legs in front of him or stuffing your face full of food. But that's okay! At some point, you'll learn to love each other's quirks and everyday habits.

One year: You don't feel awkward or embarrassed around them anymore. They know practically everything about you, from the way you shimmy into your jeans to the way you spray perfume in the morning. Your partner feels like an extension of yourself. You consider you and your S.O. to be a package deal.


Nick Preite

One month: Even though you're in a relationship with each other, you get insecure sometimes, and need reassurance that what you have is real, strong, and lasting. That can come in the form of long texts, nighttime phone calls, flowers, or just some extra "I love you's."

One year: It doesn't hurt to have reassurance, but you don't need it as much as you used to. It's such a comforting feeling, knowing that someone will always be by your side. It's nice to always know where you stand.

Being affectionate

Nick Preite

One month: You want to kiss each other all the time. Everything is so overwhelmingly passionate. You may feel like teenagers again.

One year: By now, you know that being affectionate isn't just about making out or touching. It's about tucking them into bed when they fall asleep. It's about buying them coffee when you know they have to stay up studying. It's about taking their temperature when they're sick. It's about holding hands, giving forehead kisses, and holding them close to you.

Hanging out with each other

Nicole Osztrogonacz

One month: You want to hang out with them all the time. You're so excited about your new relationship and all of the milestones that come with it. You look forward to all of the future dates.

One year: With time and experiences, you become so connected to them. Their absence weighs heavily on your heart. It's hard not to feel upset when you have to sleep in your bed alone. When they leave, it's like they take a part of you with them.


Nick Preite

One month: If you're stressed about something, you might rant to your S.O. or to one of your friends. At times you might refrain from telling your partner too much because you don't want to burden them with your drama and struggles.

One year: When something bad happens, they're the first person that you call. You know that they will always have your back. Sometimes you rely on them to cheer you up, motivate you, or help you with your problems.

The future

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One month: Every now and then, your mind may drift off, considering what a future with them might be like. Maybe they stay over for the night, and you wonder if you'll ever live together with them. Maybe you see them holding their younger brother and you wonder if they'll ever hold your child. You don't like to linger on those thoughts and have expectations, though, in case everything doesn't work out.

One year: You can't imagine a future without them in it. Your dreams and goals now involve them: living together, getting married, etc. You feel blessed to have met someone so special and so perfect for you. You want them by your side as both of you work hard to make your dreams a reality.

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

To The Man Who Gave Me The World And Never Stopped Trying To Do So

Even though I don't say it enough, you really do bring me sunshine every day.


To the man who has given me the world,

I feel like I never truly do give you the appreciation you deserve. After full two years of dating someone that I look up to, you have shown me ways of life no one has before.

I know there are so many girls out there writing letters to their boyfriends online, and I might just be another one of those girls, but this is more of a thank you than a love letter.

Thank you for picking me back up when no one else would.

Through all the fake friends who have backstabbed me multiple times and for all the girls who I have lost as friends, you knew I was stuck in such a tough situation and you still continued to make it better. You were the one who put a smile back onto my face and you were the one who took me out and brought me out of my comfort zone so I can find a new meaning of happiness.

Thank you for understanding my anger.

Sometimes I get angry, and I get into bad moods that I can't control. For some reason you understand it, and you don't push me for answers. You know I will open up sooner or later and the time might not be now but it might be later and you understand that and you accept that. That is all I ever asked for, for someone to not push my buttons when I don't want them pushed.

Thank you for making me laugh when I feel like crying.

You always know when I'm upset, but you won't push me past my limit. You crack dumb jokes and do stupid things that will make me laugh till my stomach hurts, and it usually ends up working. Even through the hardest of times when I have to fight back tears and get rid of the choking feeling in my throat, you manage to get rid of it so fast by making me laugh so hard that the tears that do come out aren't from sadness.

Thank you for always taking care of me.

It feels good to know someone always has your back and will always take care of me. Even through my car accident and the injuries I got, you still took the time out of your day to take me to my doctor's appointments. You massaged my back, made me food, and gave me all the blankets I could possibly ever need. You will kiss me a million times no matter how sick I am. You do all of this to make sure I'm okay and I'm alive and I'm more than grateful for that.

Thank you for always putting me first.

You put my happiness before yours constantly. You will do anything for me. I wanted to go to college in Florida and you dropped everything and followed me, You left all of your best friends behind because you wanted to continue your life with me. You've skipped English class more times than I can count to take me to my physical therapy appointments, or my injection appointments, You've done more for me than you have for yourself.

Thank you for being my person.

Not sure how my life would be if I didn't have you in it. You've been in it for so long that it would be too hard to let you go. You know me more than I know myself. You know what makes me smile so hard. You know how eggs literally are so gross to me. You know how to make me fall asleep in seconds (a secret no one else knows). You know how my biggest pet peeve is horrible drivers. You know how lemonade is my favorite drink of all time. You know how I wait 3 weeks to do laundry. You know how I suck at saving money. You know what shows to put on to make me fall asleep at night. You know every little thing about me, and there is no one else in the world that knows so much about me. You are my person, my forever person.

Thank you for giving me the world and for continuing to do so. Thank you for being you.

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8 Reasons Dating A Girl With A Dog Will Make You Feel Like The Goodest Boy

Because a girl with dogs are a special type of person


Having is dog can be compared to having a child, I mean, in more ways than one having a dog is waaaay better than having a child. They will love you no matter what, and will even try and kiss your face after you yelled at them. But girls with a dog, know how to love harder, better, than any normal, old girl.

People who don't like dogs are NOT to be trusted.

1. Girls with dogs make friends so much easier than girls without

Think about it, girls loving having things in common with other people (especially if it's another female in your life). So, once the word is out that your friend has a dog they will be able to have a full conversation instead of trying to make eye contact with you with their world famous "can we go" face.

Your girl will be busy taking about the tricks that little Roofus knows and you will be busy catching up with your "bros" and thinking about how amazing your girlfriend is.

2. They already have "mom instincts" 

Ok, this is the most amazing one. Because they are always taking care of their puppy dog, they are always aware of feeding time, when they have to go to the bathroom. And just like any mom, they are willing to DIE for their dog (I mean who wouldn't?).

So, what that means is that your girlfriend is PERFECT wifey material, she will be willing to make you lunch, and worry about if you are safe on your ride home.

She may even ask you if you need to use the bathroom, or if you have all day *wink*

3. Girls with dogs DEFINE loyalty 

Whether it's her dog is just a puppy or even one that she grew up with, the loyalty to actually have that dog for it's whole life is incomprehensible. I mean she already made a "life-long commitment" what have you done?

4. They are EXTREMELY forgiving people. 

Remember what I said about getting kisses after she would yell at a dog (you know, the opposite of what having a kid looks like)? Well, just as much as dogs are forgiving so is your girlfriend! Dogs can literally ruin your life while making you the happiest human ever.

Sounds weird right?

No, males cannot do the same things as dogs BUT good try though. Case in point, dogs can chew almost anything they can fit in their mouth, like new shoes, homework, the painting you worked on for hours and hours and guess what? In a few minutes, their pup will be loved like nothing ever happened.

Yes, sir, this could be you.

5. They love the outdoors 

I mean, where do dogs love to be?


So, it's only right your boo loves it too! That means that easy picnic dates in the park are a MUST and frankly are easy to do. Just make sure that you bring treats for her #1.

No, I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about the dog. ;)

6. But, they are also "chill" with Netflix and Chill. 

Another place your lady loves to be?

Yep, you guessed it! HOME.

This is another simple date idea and a way that you can seriously win your ladies heart. They fear leaving their pup alone because I mean, it makes them sad. So, you can completely dodge that bullet and just choose to put on a movie, make some pasta and cuddle up with her.

But make sure you are leaving room for the pup.

(TIP: Always leave room for the pup.)

7. They are SO much easier to buy for. 

YES, I said it. They are NOT materialistic. Simply just make sure that you are buying a new sweater, or new treats for their doggo and you are SET.

Seriously, no really expensive diamonds or purses just treats.

8. They already know how to LOVE someone. 

Like really, really love someone. I mean they obviously already have a first love so they have been around the park or two. They know how to commit, build trust and just know how to be there for someone at all times.

You're #winning, bro.

So do yourself a favor, love a lady with a doggo.

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