When You're 1 Month Into The Relationship Vs. 1 Year Into The Relationship

When You're 1 Month Into The Relationship Vs. 1 Year Into The Relationship

Their absence weighs heavily on your heart. It's hard not to feel upset when you have to sleep in your bed alone. When they leave, it's like they take a part of you with them.

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On December 21st, I had the pleasure of celebrating 365 days together with my boyfriend. Even though it's been a few days since then, I still tear up when I think about it. Anyone that's been in a relationship for one or more years knows how big of a deal it is.

But if you haven't experienced that yet, the best way that I can explain it is that it's an emotional celebration. It makes you think about all the memories you've made thus far. It makes you think back on where your relationship began, versus where you and your S.O. are now.

In honor of that journey, I wanted to show how much your relationship can change from dating one month to dating one year.

Friends and family

Nick Preite

One month: You think that it's important to meet and get to know their family and friends. You might feel some pressure and anxiety because you really want them to like you.

One year: You've probably started to consider your S.O. as part of your family. Maybe you even plan on having kids with them someday (or a few dogs and cats, if you don't want to be a parent).

Comfortability

Nicole Osztrogonacz

One month: You've started to get to know each other. Maybe you still feel uncomfortable about some things, like shaving your legs in front of him or stuffing your face full of food. But that's okay! At some point, you'll learn to love each other's quirks and everyday habits.

One year: You don't feel awkward or embarrassed around them anymore. They know practically everything about you, from the way you shimmy into your jeans to the way you spray perfume in the morning. Your partner feels like an extension of yourself. You consider you and your S.O. to be a package deal.

Reassurance

Nick Preite

One month: Even though you're in a relationship with each other, you get insecure sometimes, and need reassurance that what you have is real, strong, and lasting. That can come in the form of long texts, nighttime phone calls, flowers, or just some extra "I love you's."

One year: It doesn't hurt to have reassurance, but you don't need it as much as you used to. It's such a comforting feeling, knowing that someone will always be by your side. It's nice to always know where you stand.

Being affectionate

Nick Preite

One month: You want to kiss each other all the time. Everything is so overwhelmingly passionate. You may feel like teenagers again.

One year: By now, you know that being affectionate isn't just about making out or touching. It's about tucking them into bed when they fall asleep. It's about buying them coffee when you know they have to stay up studying. It's about taking their temperature when they're sick. It's about holding hands, giving forehead kisses, and holding them close to you.

Hanging out with each other

Nicole Osztrogonacz

One month: You want to hang out with them all the time. You're so excited about your new relationship and all of the milestones that come with it. You look forward to all of the future dates.

One year: With time and experiences, you become so connected to them. Their absence weighs heavily on your heart. It's hard not to feel upset when you have to sleep in your bed alone. When they leave, it's like they take a part of you with them.

Reliability

Nick Preite

One month: If you're stressed about something, you might rant to your S.O. or to one of your friends. At times you might refrain from telling your partner too much because you don't want to burden them with your drama and struggles.

One year: When something bad happens, they're the first person that you call. You know that they will always have your back. Sometimes you rely on them to cheer you up, motivate you, or help you with your problems.

The future

Joseph Miller

One month: Every now and then, your mind may drift off, considering what a future with them might be like. Maybe they stay over for the night, and you wonder if you'll ever live together with them. Maybe you see them holding their younger brother and you wonder if they'll ever hold your child. You don't like to linger on those thoughts and have expectations, though, in case everything doesn't work out.

One year: You can't imagine a future without them in it. Your dreams and goals now involve them: living together, getting married, etc. You feel blessed to have met someone so special and so perfect for you. You want them by your side as both of you work hard to make your dreams a reality.

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To The Woman Who Needs To Be Wanted, Don’t Let Men Be Your Vice

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.
Cai Parks
Cai Parks
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By definition, a vice is a habitual or trivial defect... a shortcoming. Everyone has a vice.

Mine was men.

I always felt abandoned by the men in my life. I always clung to the opinions and attention of the boys around me...fighting for it in any way I could.

When I was younger, it was easy to get the attention of the boys my age by just dressing cute and having a bubbly personality.

As I got older though, I noticed that I was having to work harder and harder for their attention. Eventually, it turned into me feeling like I had to give myself to them in any way they asked to get their attention.

So that’s what I did.

I used my body as a way to fill some kind of void that I thought could be filled with the love of a man.

As the years went on, I felt myself clinging to not their love, but their lust.

I no longer cared about their love.

I just wanted to hear them call me hot, sexy, or beautiful. I knew they were using me.

I didn’t care.

I needed them to want me.

I needed them to beg.

I needed to feel needed.

For any woman who might feel as though a man’s lust for you can fill that deep void in your heart, take a step back. Trivial, temporary things like that will only make your heart heavier.

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with living life the way you want or with who you want, but don’t use that lifestyle simply as a way to make you feel wanted.

Because my Prince Charming came into my life and I no longer needed any other man.

I finally felt truly loved and he helped me to learn that even without him, I would be more than a body.

He helped me see that I was a body, face, brain, smile, laugh, personality, and everything in between.

I am a strong woman now that I know my worth.

You are a strong woman.

Show your strength.

Know your worth.

Cover Image Credit: @thersagrant/Instagram
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Everything You Should Know Before Dating A Fitness Instructor

Sex, weights, cheat meal dates.

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As a fitness trainer, I know how much we love our job. How much we love the people we help and encourage. How much we never want to stop doing what we do. Yet, it's not all sunshine and rainbows. My boyfriend has to put up with some things that probably, kinda sorta are unconventional. But, he's living his dream (his words).

No matter what they teach, personal training, yoga, pilates, barre, HIIT, I could go on and on, but either way, they are passionate about the people they work with. This fire follows them throughout their life and will most definitely influence you.

1. Constant practicing

Don't be alarmed if you wake up to find her up and about practicing her routines for a class/client.

2. Gushing about a client who has been killing it 

No matter how much of a tough cookie we are, clients touch our hearts.

3. She's flexible

You. Are. Welcome. My best friends always introduce me to guys with, "She's really flexible ;)"

4. There's a routine, stick to it

We may be flexible, but don't come between her and her schedule. She is supported by her routine.

5. You are now a fitness class guinea pig

She needs you to help her rehearse. Approach her practice tests with enthusiasm and just have fun.

6. She'll never judge you

Don't ever feel pressured or intimidated. We love you for you. And, news flash, we are not perfect.

7. Always learning

Learning never ends. Learning new routines, learning new people, learning new emotions, learning new approaches to life.

8. And always eating

Teaching a few classes a day is tough on the body. We need our snacks. All. The. Time.

9. Stretches before bed... every night

No matter how tiring and long the day was, she will make sure to fit it a quick bend and no break.

10. The funny things that happened during class

Story time: One time I taught and my pants ripped. Only made the class more fun!

11. Shaker bottle vases

There's no need for vases, when shaker bottles do you justice. The first time my boyfriend brought home roses, I didn't have a vase so we improvised and used a shaker bottle. Now, that's the only vase we will ever need.

12. Free personal training

It's your dream come true. Fitness is at your right hand at all times. Plus, we will be pumped to start talking to you about our passion.

13. She talks endlessly about how well/not well your class went

Sometimes we kill it and sometimes... we fall a little short.

14.  Chugging water

We need to stay hydrated! Plus, she'll be your water tracker as she bugs you to drink with her. Shots! Shots! Shots (of water)!

15. Team work makes the dream work

There is no "I" in team and fitness instructors know the strength of collaboration and support. No one can go through journey a journey alone.

16. She wakes you up early to go on a run

Let's take a jog to the beach and watch the sunrise!

17. Protein, protein, and more protein

She doesn't have to be a weight lifter to assure that she nourishes her body with enough protein (from any source you prefer). My cupboard is always stocked with lentils and chickpeas.

18. Watching her watch fitness videos to get ideas

While you're reading the news, scrolling through Instagram, or just chilling out, she'll be watching workout videos or saving posts from fitness accounts.

19. Goes to bed super early

We need at least eight hours of beauty sleep and, let's be real, we are grandpas.

20.  She lives off of Spotify playlists

Wait, do you hear that song? What's it called, I need to add it to my workout playlist. Plus, she loves to sing (even if she isn't that good).

21.  Pulse 2, 3, 4

While she does chores, she'll start reciting her catchphrases and mantras.

22.  She's your forever cheerleader

Getting out of bed? If you don't squeeze it, no one else will! Washing the dishes? Let's go, you've got this! Running to the bathroom? One more minute! 30 more seconds! Mowing the lawn? You better feel it tomorrow!

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