To My Boyfriend About To Graduate, I'm So Proud Of Everything You've Accomplished
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I'll do my best to not cry when I write this, but if you know me, you know I'll probably fail at that.

I get really sappy when I think about the fact that you'll be leaving me soon. Not in the way that our relationship is ending, but in the way that you're moving away because you're about to graduate. I'm selfish and I never want you to be more than five minutes away from me. I just have to keep telling myself that this is happening because of all of your accomplishments and how far you've come.

I'm really just so proud to know you. College is hard, and I know things haven't been easy, personally or academically. They haven't been easy for me either. But my time at this university has been so much better with you by my side, and I've truly cherished every minute of my time here with you.

From the moment we met, you've done nothing but better my life. You've helped me get my life back on track, you've become my best friend, and you've shown me what a truly healthy love feels like. You've been by my side as I figure out who I am and what I stand for, finding my voice and not being afraid of it. You've been my biggest fan and biggest supporter. I have always been able to count on you, and I know that even though you're moving away, that'll still never change.

I've loved seeing you grow. You used to be a lot less social than you are now, only truly showing who you are to people you've gotten to know well over time. You used to not really get too involved in too much, just as much as you had to. Now, you've really blossomed into a person that I hope you're proud of, because I'm proud of you. You aren't afraid to get involved, talk to people, and put yourself out there by doing things you definitely wouldn't have done in the past.

You used to be a lot more closed off. It was honestly a big deal that you even opened up to me and showed me who you are. Now, we tell each other absolutely everything and anything. I know parts of you that no one else ever has, and you know me better than I probably know myself. You're not afraid to let people in and let them love you anymore.

I've fallen head over heels for you. When you leave, it's going to really hurt. I've grown to be really spoiled being able to wake up next to you every morning, so much so that sleeping alone just doesn't feel right. But, I know that we'll be reunited not too far from now. When I graduate, we'll be right back where we were, side by side, and I'll never have to let you go.

The time I've spent with you here in college has been the best time of my life. I've seen you grow, I've seen you achieve. You may not really feel that you've accomplished so much, but when you reflect over all four years you've spent here, you'll see what I mean. I've been so lucky to be by your side during what's dubbed the "best years of your life," and because of you, they definitely have been my best years.

I'm so, so proud of you, and I can't wait to cheer you on as you walk across that stage. Just ignore me if I start crying.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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