9 Thank You's I Want To Give To My Boyfriend's Dad
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An open letter to my boyfriend's dad:

To my lovely boyfriend's dad, your kindness has gone so much further than just that of your son's significant other. You have treated me like your own from before I even started dating your son. Your heart is full and it shows in everything you do. To say I wasn't nervous getting to know you at first would be a lie. I wanted to prove to you that your son and I were meant to be, and I think I did.

But along with that, I have so much to thank you for. Besides the obvious of helping your wife produce such a wonderful human being. You have done so much more. Thank you for...

1. The endless laughter.

I love the little inside jokes we have. When you do or say something wildly hilarious, and I'm the only one that catches you doing it. Those are moments I always cherish.

2. For being so supportive.

The boosts of encouragement, even those small, go a long way.

3. For always answering my questions, detailed.

One of my favorite things about you, is that when I ask you a question, you always give a detailed answer. It's as if, you think of what questions may come back to you after the answer to the first, so you give all the answers right away. Your knowledge is something I look up to.

4. Your strength.

Your son, who I love more than words can express, has always looked up to you for your strength. I have to thank you for that. My mother was always my biggest role model, partly because of her immense strength (mentally and physically.) It's nice to see that you share that same bond.

5. Your inspiration.

I speak for myself and your son when I say you are truly inspiring. He wants nothing more than to follow in your foot steps. He says if he can be half the man you are, he'll have accomplished something great. The inspiration you give him every day is something I can thank you enough for.

6. Dancing with me.

This may come as silly, but it means a lot when we dance together. Doesn't have to always be intentionally dancing next to each other at the dance hall, those moments dancing side by side mean a lot to me. I enjoy being able to dance alongside you, and learn from you as well.

7. For being a great teacher.

While you've mainly taught me dancing, you've taught your son so much more than that. You teach him everyday how to be the best man that he can be. Coming from the girl who lives with him and loves him, you have succeeded.

8. For taking part in making your son the man he is.

You have taught him (along with your wife) everything he knows. From how to change a tire, how to teach a dance, to how to treat a lady the right way. Your son is above and beyond respectful, courteous and one of the most kind-hearted people I know. I have you to thank for that.

9. For treating me as your own.

With my experience dating, I've usually gotten along pretty well with my significant other's fathers. But there's a lot to say about the ones that you are polite and respectful with and the ones that you could call at two in the morning for help and they'd be there. Most fathers will say hello to their son's girlfriend and laugh with them from time to time. Not many can truly share a bond with them. I'm blessed to say we do. You have treated me as your own from day one. Giving advice and lending a helping hand or a hug when the time calls for it.

Words can never truly thank you for all that you do. I am grateful to the highest extent for being my boyfriend's dad, but for being an overall exceptional human being. Thank you for the care and love you give. The love is shared right back.

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Subtle Ways You May Be Disrespecting Your Friend's Relationship

If they make your friend happy, you shouldn't be doing these things.

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No ones significant other wants to tell them they don't like their friends. And trying to tell anyone not to hang out with the people they're closest too is a disaster waiting to happen.

Some people really just don't like their friend's partner, but others have no idea the damage they may be doing to the relationship. If you are more aware of some things to avoid, hopefully, you, your friend, and their partner can all get along in peace.

1. When you see your friend, make sure to acknowledge their partner.

To be honest, this is a basic courtesy. If you go to say hi to anyone in a group of people, it is polite to greet, or at least acknowledge, everyone there. If you completely ignore that your friend's partner is even there, it will make them feel awkward and neglected. Just say hi.

2. Don't be overly touchy-feely with your friend, especially around their partner.

Obviously, this mostly applies to friends of the opposite sex (for heterosexual couples). Look, there is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex but just know your boundaries. You may think your friend's partner is being jealous for no reason, but are you doing anything that might make them uncomfortable?

You don't need to always have your arm around them or be leaned up against them. It is really inappropriate to kiss them on the cheek or give them super long hugs, even if that is something you did before they had a partner, and even if it is completely platonic.

You can still hug and be close to your friend, just be respectful of their boundaries. If you don't give their partner any reason to be jealous then they will have no basis to dislike you.

3. If you invite your friend somewhere, it is polite to also invite their partner.

Even if you assume your friend's partner is going to come, it is nice to make them feel welcomed. And if you don't want their partner to come, make sure they are not together or planning to be together when you invite your friend.

You don't have to always have their partner around, but don't make it a habit of not inviting them. If they don't feel welcomed around their partner's friends, then they probably won't feel as confident in their relationship.

4. Don't ever bring up your friend's past relationships, especially around their partner.

Even if they are on good terms. Even if you are still friends with their ex. Just don't bring them up. No one wants to hear about their partner's past relationships or flings. It is embarrassing and uncomfortable to have to hear about your partner's exes.

5. If you are all out together, don't try to separate your friend from their partner.

There is a good chance that if you are out with your friend and their partner, their partner does not know many people there. If that is the case, don't try to separate your friend from their partner.

There may be an exception if their partner has friends around too, or if they are outgoing and can talk to anybody easily, but otherwise, it is really awkward to be in that situation alone. They are with their partner for a reason, and it is nice to make their partner feel included as well.

Just don't make it a habit to always pull your friend away.

6. Don't put your friend in any awkward or risky situations.

If your friend is a cheater, that is not really any fault of yours. But don't be the friend who is known for putting your partnered friend in risky situations.

There is nothing wrong with going out occasionally with your friends, but it does not need to be a regular occurrence, especially if it makes their partner uncomfortable.

Along the same lines, if you know an ex-partner or fling will be there, you don't need to put your friend in that awkward situation. Just be aware of the situation and how it might make their partner feel.

To wrap up, you don't need to completely change your relationship with your friend just to make their partner happy; just make sure to be polite and respectful of their partner and their relationship.

These are some subtle things you may be doing that are hurting your friend's relationship that you don't even realize have negative consequences. Simply be more aware of some of these situations and how they could potentially make your friend's partner feel. After all, the best relationships are the ones where your partner's friends also become your friends.

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My BF And I Were 'Just Friends' And Now We're Celebrating Our One Year Anniversary

Dating my best friend was the best decision I have ever made.

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In August 2017, Brendan and I met. A group of friends invited him and me to go to Wendy's after a meeting for a school club. We talked the whole time — the conversation seemed endless in the best way possible. Later that night, I called him to ask him what water balloons I should buy for a celebration the next day. From that day forward, I cannot remember a day where I have not called him. It started off as nothing more as a platonic relationship from my perspective, but he would advocate otherwise.

Fast-forward to January 2018, Brendan and I started seeing each other outside of school. We would make up excuses and white lies to our friends and parents, saying that we were going to the library to study when really we would just sit in the parking lot and talk for hours until he had to drive me home. He became my best friend. I wanted to tell him everything — good news, bad news, stupid rants, my blonde moments, random and unfiltered thoughts. However, day-in and day-out, I kept denying that it was anything more than a friendship. Again, he would argue otherwise.

On April 27, 2018, I gave in.

We were sitting in his parked Dodge Durango, listening to a pop radio station. I was leaning over the center console to rest my head on his shoulder, and we were waiting for the sun to go down at a park. Abruptly, I looked over at him and ironically asked if he would be my boyfriend. For some reason, we did not tell our family or friends for about a month (sorry, Mum and Dad). I wish I would have realized it sooner, but regardless of timing, dating my best friend was the best decision I have ever made.

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Since then, our relationship has overcome insane distances.

Being 12 miles away turned into 1,601 miles when he went on a service trip to Boca Chica in the Dominican Republic this past summer. It went back to 12 miles for a little while. However, at the end of the summer, it turned into 413 miles when I moved to the University of Kentucky. In October, we were only a few feet apart as I hid behind his car in his school parking lot to surprise him. After I have returned and left home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and spring break, he decided it was time for him to come to Lexington in March 2019.

All the time spent together and apart brings us to our one year — April 27, 2019.

Hey, Brendan: Although we will be 413 miles apart for it, happy one-year. You have been my rock and my best friend for the past 20-some months, and there are not enough thank you's that I can say to express how thankful I am that God put you in my life. I am so beyond grateful and appreciative for everything you have done and sacrificed for me and for us. I cannot wait to see where our journey will go next, but until then — here's to me and you. I love you. See you very very soon.

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