To My Person Who Left Me For Someone Else

To My Person Who Left Me For Someone Else

Thank you for leaving me.
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If someone treats you like you are unimportant, it is a reflection of them and what they value out of relationships. It is not a reflection of you or your worth as a person. You don't have to prove your importance to other people.

Remember that.

I wanted to say, thank you. Why you ask? I'm thanking you for the chance to finally see myself on the pedestal that you knocked me off of, the opportunity for me to believe in myself, and all of the moments where I learned the true strength of my heart.

When we broke up, I was absolutely devastated. You have to understand that I lost not just the person I was completely in love with, but the person who was my best friend in every single way. That's a lot to lose in just a couple phrases. Yet, those words, "I think we should break up" are some of the most heart-wrenching words a person will hear in their lifetime. It was at that moment where my world felt like it was turning upside down and I would continuously think to myself how things could get any worse.

That is until I found out why you left.

When you leave a relationship to be with another person, I want you to understand the toll it takes on a person, both mentally and emotionally. The individual you left feels like they aren't good enough or were never good enough for your love. They feel as if they never had a chance, completely and utterly invisible to how much significance they serve in your life. No matter what they do to prove how much they care about you, it just never seems to be enough. Their value of self-worth becomes less and less as each day goes by, knowing that they were replaced and no longer your favorite person.

But through the heartache comes strength and I have you to thank for that. Even though it was some of the most difficult times of my life, I learned the greatest lesson about myself, most importantly about my heart. When I tried to fight for you, I thought I was doing it to not only get you back but to save my heart from any more heartache. What I actually learned was how strong my heart became. I realized that it's so important to follow your heart, no matter where it may lead you.

I learned how to define happiness on my own terms and no longer have my happiness depend on another person. I used to think that you were the person who completed me, but I'm the only one who can complete me. You were just an added bonus to what made me who I am. But even without you, I'm still complete because I now know how to make myself a priority.

I may have lost my best friend, but you're the one who suffered the greatest lost. You willingly left someone who thought the world of you. In today's generation, it's very hard to find people out there who genuinely mean what they say when they mention how much they love you. And you lost someone who would go on for an entire lifetime about how much they loved you.

And to be honest, I still do. I feel like I always will. But, I know what I deserve, and that's someone who sees me for me, and wouldn't ever leave me to search for more.

So thank you for leaving me. Even though you broke my heart, you helped shape me into the person I am today. I'm now a person who looks at love in a different perspective, in a much stronger way. It's now a side where I truly understand what is real and what is not. I just wish you knew all of this when you left me because I knew what we had was real.

But at the end of the day, I only hope that you're happy and doing well and maybe think about me from time to time on how much you regret leaving me.

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20 Feelings You Probably Still Have When You See Your Ex

It's never really over.

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Getting over an ex and moving on is HARD. We all felt at least one of these feelings:

1. You changed me 

2. You hurt me 

3. I still care, always will. 

4. I hate myself for caring still 

5. I still think of you 

6. I hate myself for thinking of you 

7. I know you are happier without me, and that hurts. 

8. I still feel like you are the one 

9. I want you back in my life

10. I don't want you back, I just miss the memories, I'm hurt. 

11. I wish you knew how I still cry over you 

12. You broke my heart and you don't even care 

13. I wonder if you even think of me

14. I will never find love because of you 

15. I feel damaged 

16. I don't want to fall in love anymore 

17. I would rather feel nothing 

18. I feel like I'm drowning in my own tears every time I see you

19. I want to be happy again, let me free, please. 

20. I deserve better, but you could of just been..BETTER. 

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10 Guys Admit The Moment They Realized Their Relationship Was Doomed

If you know, you know.

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It's not breaking news that you can just tell when your relationship is going downhill. Whether it's a mood change, a lack of wanting to be around each other, or a blatant fight, the signs are everywhere.

I sent out a survey asking guys to confess when they realized their relationship was bound to fail. Not necessarily a time stamp in the relationship duration where they realized this, but a realization that was prompted by something happening.

This is what they had to say.

1. The little things

"When she stopped smiling in our pictures."

2. Pretty obvious

"When she told me she wanted to break up with me."

3. Friends come first

"She made every excuse under the sun for not being able to be around when my friends were around and refused to meet my family, even after we'd been a thing for almost six months. Whenever I finally asked her about it, she changed the subject and adamantly refused to talk about it. So, I told her if she didn't want to meet my family yet, that was one thing. But if I had to choose between her or my friends, my friends win every time. So, we broke up."

4. Might want a restraining order

"When she broke into my home and I was woken up to her crying and yelling at me."

5. Red flags

"Talking to my partner started to fill me with dread and anxiety, texting was always just a series of miscommunications and fights and we only ever got along in person. There were so many flags that we were incompatible that I ignored throughout the relationship that all coalesced into a massive weight on my chest. Complaining to a close friend and hearing their advice was what finally tipped me off that waiting for things to change was going to get me absolutely nowhere, so I finally broke it off."

6. Communication is key

"Lack of respectful communication."

7. Hindsight is 20/20

"When she stopped texting me very often. The signs were there before but I was oblivious. 20/20 hindsight I guess."

8. Feeling's mutual

"My last relationship only ended because of long distance problems, and because I had to move. It was a mutual agreement."

9. Not enough time

"Neither of us had enough time for the other."

10. Not the right fit

"Our personalities really clashed. She kept participating in activities I wasn't really happy about and we fought about it a lot. We used to get along and be able to have a good time, but something happened I guess. She became a different person."

Responses have been edited for length or clarity.

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