If My Parents Didn’t Approve Of The Guy I Was Dating, I Wouldn’t Be Dating Him

If My Parents Didn’t Approve Of The Guy I Was Dating, I Wouldn’t Be Dating Him

My parents' approval is one of the most important things to me.
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Some people have said that when your parents tell you to “stop dating someone” because they aren't good for you, it causes you to want that person even more.

That is not the case for me. I would say my parents know me pretty well, I mean they did raise me and all. They know me well enough to know exactly how I should be treated and ultimately who I should be with.

A couple years ago, my parents sat me down and told me that I should end things with the guy I had been dating for three years—we like to call that day “World War III”—and for a 17-year-old girl, that meant the end of my whole world. I didn’t want to break up with him, but my parents were firm about how they felt.

Now that I’ve started a new chapter in my life, being away at college and meeting so many new people, I can finally understand what they were trying to show me. Sometimes it takes an outsider's perspective in order to bring a lot of problems to light that you can’t see when you’re blinded by love.

My mom showed me that what I had was not love, just an aspect of it. If someone really loves you they would never put you in a position where you felt as if they didn’t. My dad showed me that there was not mutual respect nor was there any trust. In a healthy relationship, two people have to respect each other and trust each other in order for it to be considered a relationship at all.

Since then, I have become a lot tougher. I know how to stand up for myself, and I know what I want in a relationship. None of that would have ever happened if my parents had not intervened. Every guy I’ve dated since then has had to have their approval from the get-go, and that will be the case for the next guys that come along.

Your parents know you better than you know yourself, and they care about you more than anyone else. They want to see you with someone who makes you happy, but most importantly, someone who treats you with love and respect.

If my next lucky guy happens to read this, you know what to expect, and I do wish you luck. However, if you do end up making it past Mom, Dad, and my sister, just know that there’s a whole other crew you’ve got to get past... the cousins.

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I’ve Been Both 8 Hours And 8 Minutes Away From My Boyfriend, And Trust Me, Distance Sucks

Distance truly does make the heart grow fonder... and work harder.

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In the two and a half years that I've been with my boyfriend, we've done our fair share of distance including living eight hours away from each other, living one hour away from each other, and living exactly 10 minutes down the road from each other (eight minutes if you manage to hit every light on green).

Because we've literally done it all and know it first hand, I assumed that everyone else was on the same page as we were: the longer the distance, the harder things are. Apparently, I was mistaken as I stumbled upon this article, claiming that people who are in short distance relationships have it just as hard as people in long relationships.

I'm sorry... what?

First of all, let me say that if you have never been in a relationship with a significant amount of distance between you and your partner (and I'm talking more than an hour), you definitely don't get it. You definitely do not understand having so spend either a full day in the car or a full paycheck on airfare to see your significant other. You don't understand having to account for the time difference between you two when calling each other. You don't understand the feeling of knowing that the person who means the most to you is creating memories every day that you'll never be included in.

And I'm not even going to get into the amount of trust that you need to have...

I understand that even in short distance no matter how close you live to one another, you will never be with each other 24/7 (at least you shouldn't be, because you both need space) and you will inevitably miss each other the second one of you leaves. Missing somebody even after a few minutes and miles between the two of you is a valid feeling. And yes, missing somebody is incredibly hard, even if it is just in a short distance relationship.


The difference is that you'll likely see your significant other again in a day or two. When you say goodbye you know that it's only temporary and that missing them will be over within a few days when you're reunited. In a short distance relationship, you don't have to experience the agony that comes along with missing someone for weeks upon weeks on end and spending each day obsessively checking your mental countdown until you get to see your other half again.


By no means does long distance make the love more real and by no means does short distance mean that you two have a stronger bond by being able to see each other every day. Both types of relationships require real love and real feelings of missing each other. But don't you dare belittle my long distance relationship by saying you have it just as hard and miss your boyfriend just as much. Until you have experienced living hours away and no longer having the luxury of being with each other whenever you want, you'll never understand how distance truly does make the heart grow fonder and work harder.

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Take Note from Ari and Pete’s Breakup: You Can’t Rush Timing In Relationships

Sometimes in relationships, timing is everything.

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According to TMZ, Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson have officially split, and sadly I can't say that I didn't see this coming.

It seems as though ever since they announced their engagement in June, there has been a whirlwind of controversy surrounding their abrupt relationship. At first people were head over heels in love with the pairing because of Pete's big dick energy. Then things quickly went downhill not too long after his joke about the Manchester bombings at Ariana's concert last year resurfaced. I could easily talk about all the questionable things Pete has said or done that may have caused their breakup—but I think there's a more important lesson we could take into consideration from this. Sometimes in relationships, timing is everything.

Not much has been reported about their breakup other than the fact that it was supposedly "not the right time" for their relationship to continue, but can you blame them? Besides, it usually takes several months before you can truly say you know someone. Even then it's still hard to tell who a person truly is until you've been living with them for a while. Considering they practically got engaged within weeks of casually dating, I'd say that their relationship escalated pretty quickly. I can't judge their decision and say it was stupid, but part of me feels like maybe Ariana didn't truly know what she was getting herself into when they got engaged so fast.

For starters, she had already just gotten out of a long-term relationship with late Mac Miller which she described as a "toxic" relationship. Maybe she could have used more time to heal after that breakup. Also, maybe if she and Pete had waited a little longer before getting so serious then she would have reacted differently to some red flags of Pete's immature tendencies and very obscene humor. Part of me wants to give him the benefit of the doubt because he's a comedian and therefore most likely uses jokes as a way to cope with serious stuff. However, when it gets to the point that Ariana has a mental breakdown via Twitter after being publicly groped at a funeral by a pastor and not even a full week later has to deal with thousands of people blaming her for the death of her ex-boyfriend then that's when you know she needs a rock to lean for a boyfriend rather than a goofball.

But like I said before, this isn't one of those situations where we can go through a list of Pete's shortcomings and blame him for the downfall of the relationship. Relationships are a lot like flowers. Even when they seem like the most beautiful thing on earth, they still need a solid foundation to grow upon, and that solid foundation starts with ideal timing. If you truly want to find the one you're meant to be with, it's not something you can rush into.

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