If My Parents Didn’t Approve Of The Guy I Was Dating, I Wouldn’t Be Dating Him

If My Parents Didn’t Approve Of The Guy I Was Dating, I Wouldn’t Be Dating Him

My parents' approval is one of the most important things to me.
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Some people have said that when your parents tell you to “stop dating someone” because they aren't good for you, it causes you to want that person even more.

That is not the case for me. I would say my parents know me pretty well, I mean they did raise me and all. They know me well enough to know exactly how I should be treated and ultimately who I should be with.

A couple years ago, my parents sat me down and told me that I should end things with the guy I had been dating for three years—we like to call that day “World War III”—and for a 17-year-old girl, that meant the end of my whole world. I didn’t want to break up with him, but my parents were firm about how they felt.

Now that I’ve started a new chapter in my life, being away at college and meeting so many new people, I can finally understand what they were trying to show me. Sometimes it takes an outsider's perspective in order to bring a lot of problems to light that you can’t see when you’re blinded by love.

My mom showed me that what I had was not love, just an aspect of it. If someone really loves you they would never put you in a position where you felt as if they didn’t. My dad showed me that there was not mutual respect nor was there any trust. In a healthy relationship, two people have to respect each other and trust each other in order for it to be considered a relationship at all.

Since then, I have become a lot tougher. I know how to stand up for myself, and I know what I want in a relationship. None of that would have ever happened if my parents had not intervened. Every guy I’ve dated since then has had to have their approval from the get-go, and that will be the case for the next guys that come along.

Your parents know you better than you know yourself, and they care about you more than anyone else. They want to see you with someone who makes you happy, but most importantly, someone who treats you with love and respect.

If my next lucky guy happens to read this, you know what to expect, and I do wish you luck. However, if you do end up making it past Mom, Dad, and my sister, just know that there’s a whole other crew you’ve got to get past... the cousins.

Cover Image Credit: Laken Pritchard

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My Boyfriend Is 'One Of My Biggest Blessings,' And You're Not Going To Make Me Feel Bad For Saying That

Maybe I have just seen that life isn't always filled with the very best people and to hold onto and appreciate the incredible ones you do find.

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As I was catching up with a good friend of mine today, a really mind blowing realization finally fully hit me.

I'm a lucky girl.

We were catching up on what was new and exciting in our lives as we sat on her patio furniture basking in the hot summer sun. I was mid-story, telling her a quick recap of some not-so-wonderful things I have gone through and why I appreciate the person I'm dating today so much. I told her about the endless support I have constantly and genuinely received throughout the duration of our relationship, and how this always made me feel as like he truly considered both myself and my work important.

Without even thinking twice, I out blurted "He'd support me even if I wanted to be a garbage woman for the rest of my life! If he saw that I really loved what it was that I was doing, he'd be all for it."

It took me a quick second to actually processes the complete accuracy of what it was that I just said. It was one of those moments where my mind hadn't quite caught up with the words that had just came out of my mouth.

This made me also think of a time, very recently, where I was at a crossroads in life. I wasn't completely sure what path it was that I wanted to take and whether or not I was just jumping to a quick conclusion based on my feelings in that exact moment. I was then asked, "well what do you think his advice would be?" I quickly replied, "he'd tell me to do it because it's what I love."

That very moment only stayed with me for a split second, until I found myself back in the present, sitting with her on her backyard patio chairs.

I think, sometimes, we grow so used to the way that certain people in life treat us, that it almost becomes too normalized. We seem to forget that being made feel so special and so cared about is in fact a gift, and not just something we endlessly receive. It's a truly beautiful feeling knowing that you are loved to the point where as long as you are following your dreams, you are being fully supported. And not too many people can deem that as true.

So people can refer to me as the girl who is "so obsessed with her boyfriend." And that's fine. Maybe it's completely true. Maybe it's not. Maybe I have just seen that life isn't always filled with the very best people and to hold onto and appreciate the incredible ones you do find. It's good to sit back and realize how good of a thing we have while we still have it. And that's exactly what I'm doing to do; unapologetically.

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