Our Grandparents Fell In Love, And Our Parents Fell In Love, But Here We Are, Running From Love In 2019

Our Grandparents Fell In Love, And Our Parents Fell In Love, But Here We Are, Running From Love In 2019

Falling in love is scary and I really don't blame people for running away from it the first chance they can.

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With Valentine's day quickly approaching us, I only thought it would be appropriate to write something along the lines of love. Well, rather why I think so many people are scared of love.

Let me start by disclaiming that I'm not perfect either and I myself have run away from situations that could've resulted in me falling in love. The simple reason for why I run, I'm scared.

Let's be honest with ourselves. No, you're not too busy for a relationship, you're just too scared and don't want to have to commit to anyone. You'd prefer to have every part of the relationship other than the title.

No, the fact that you just got out of a relationship does not entitle you to a free pass to play with other people's hearts. If you're truly trying to get over someone why don't you spend some time focusing on yourself rather than seeing a new person every other day.

It's not healthy.

Our dating culture is not healthy at all. We make such dumb decisions and wonder why older generations frown upon us.

We're too scared to fall in love and truly get to know others. We rely on dating apps to meet other people, instead of making meaningful conversation with people in person. We wonder why so many of us are so socially awkward but maybe it's because we rely fully on our phones to do the talking for us.

Whoever said love is supposed to be smooth and easy is a liar.

Love is whatever you make of it. Sure there will always be rough patches because nothing in this life is perfect.

I wish we could open our eyes more and see what's right in front of us sometimes. Maybe the cute guy at the coffee shop with a book in his hand has some substance and can hold a meaningful conversation rather than the guy on your phone who only hits you up when he needs you. Maybe if you looked away from your phone for two seconds you'd see someone looking at you in a way that you want to be looked at, with love.

Maybe if we take a minute to reevaluate our lives then maybe we'll find a way to let love in our lives again.

If our grandparents could fall in love, so can we.

If our parents can, we can too.

There is really no excuse other than that we're too scared and hurt to find a way to let love in.

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7 Lifestyle Changes That Happen When Your College Roommate Gets A Boyfriend

Skills acquired: third wheeling, photography.

Lauren Yu
Lauren Yu
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Ladies and gentlemen, we are officially in cuffing season. These are some of the observations I made as my roommate got a boyfriend.

1.You become a third wheeler

Their plans are your plans.

2. You are the couple’s personal photographer

"Can you take our picture?" is one of your new nicknames.

3. You play the game, “Who has seen my roommate?”

Sometimes you go days without seeing either of them.

4. You learn when to stay a few paces back and let them have their own space

This skill might take some time to develop.

5. You learn how cringey your roommate can be when it comes to her boyfriend

You love her but also LOL.

6. You get to hear all the details (because accountability is important!!)

Living vicariously is all that you have most nights.

7. You give them your full support, unless she get hurts (then, boy bye)

At the end of the day, as long as she's happy, you're happy.

If your roommate gets a boyfriend, learn what it takes to be a good third wheeler, and get a phone with good camera quality. Good luck to all the roommates who have roommates with boyfriends!

Lauren Yu
Lauren Yu

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10 Things Every College Girl Can, And Should, Do Instead Of Sending A Text That Probably Will Ruin Her Life

Read this before pressing send.

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We're all human. We bleed red and we cry water.

We have emotions—violent, vivid, and sometimes uncontrollable. It's natural to feel, it's healthy to feel but sometimes we feel ugly and unpleasant emotions. We may not always be able to control our emotions, whether it's anger, sadness, or longing, but we can control our actions.

So instead of compulsively hitting the send button to a text that may very well lead to instant regret; let's take a step back from the phone and busy yourself with something else for a while.

1. Journal

This allows you to sort through you're feelings and thoughts in a designated safe place. No one has to read it so it's safe to write down your raw thoughts without concern for anyone else's judgment. This gives you an opportunity to process your intentions and possible consequences. You could journal on a physical piece of paper or digitally.

2. Take a nap

Nothing resets the mind and body like a good satisfying nap.

3. Tend to a pet

Our pets are always ready to give us unconditional love. They can soothe our woes if we allow them, so pet your furry pal, hold your reptile amigo, or watch your finny friend. Play with them, love them, and take care of them. Engaging with your animal friends will direct your attention to someone who needs you. You can even rant to them, they'll listen to what you have to say.

4. Play a video game

Engage in any world you'll like from petting "Nintendo Dogs" to shooting in "Call of Duty." Video games offer an outlet for us when we're in a rut, allowing us to escape into a world of virtually no consequence.

5. Create art 

Art is an abstract expression of the soul. Instead of verbalizing over a text, use your emotions as fuel in creating a masterpiece. Be messy with paint or charcoal, or perhaps more refined with pencil or digital art. Art is various and ultimately limitless; its a judgment-free zone where you can authentically be you and express your internal world.

6. Cook

Cooking is both practical and fun. You diligently work in preparing the dish and at the end of your hard work you have something yummy to eat. The effort you put into the meal is rewarding as you devour it. Plus nothing beats eating to distract you from your feelings.

7. Exercise

Exercise can mean taking a walk around the neighborhood, yoga, the gym, or playing on a playground. Something physical can help burn off excess energy you may harbor and may help level you out. Exercise gives your body and mind some love and may help clear your head.

8. Listen to music

Music offers us solace when we need it. It gives us comfort by helping us verbalize our emotions and express them in an art form. There's a song for every mood and mindset, so there's always something to listen to.

9. Read a book

Escape into another world through the pages of a book. Sometimes engaging in someone else's problems in their own plotline is what we need to become distracted from our own.

10.  Write an article

Take your stance or problem, and use it as fuel to create something worthwhile. Make something productive out of it, such as writing an article on Odyssey.

When I started writing this article I was fuming mad but as I wrote I gradually calmed down (See #1). I was about to text something nasty out of anger but I stopped myself. I didn't want to hurt someone I sincerely cared about. Sometimes we need a little time away from our phones to process our intentions and the consequences. In the age of instant gratification taking a step back may prove difficult but sometimes it's what we need. Hopefully, you can get to a place where you can text something you won't regret as I have.

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