Be Patient With The Girl Whose Heart Was Broken Before You Came Into Her Life

Be Patient With The Girl Whose Heart Was Broken Before You Came Into Her Life

She is worth it, I promise.
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You may or may not have heard her background story from friends. Maybe she mentioned to you that her last relationship didn’t end well. Or, maybe she didn’t have to say anything, but through her actions and attitude, you’re able to gather bits and pieces about her painful past. You know she’s an amazing girl and you know that you care about her, but you’re not sure if she’s entirely worth the extra effort you’re having to put into it all. What I’m asking you to do is this: be patient with the girl whose heart was broken before you came into her life. She’s worth it, I promise.

I know that you’re most likely having a harder time than most new couples would be having at this stage. In the new couple stage, you’re supposed to be getting to know all of the little things about each other that you didn't know before. It should be a time full of laughs, sleepovers, ice cream runs, spontaneous adventures, and new favorite shows on Netflix, not full of stubbornness, confusion, tears, or periods of silence. You're already having a hard time figuring out how your girlfriend is feeling, and that "butterflies whenever you see each other" phase isn't even over. Let me remind you: she is worth it.

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She isn’t used to feeling good enough. She’s used to feeling insecure, used, replaceable, and worthless from how her ex treated her.

She isn’t used to getting flowers or little presents just because. She’s used to getting flowers after each time he had cheated on her.

She isn’t used to feeling like she can cry or break down in front of someone. She isn't used to feeling like she can honestly express or communicate how she is feeling without being judged or called emotional. She's used to pretending that she's alright so that no problems would arise from her feelings. She's used to bottling in her true emotions so that he wouldn't accuse her of trying to start a fight over nothing.

She isn’t used to feeling like she can be herself in front of a boy that she cares about. She isn't used to feeling accepted for all that she is, the good and the bad. She’s used to feeling cautious, quiet, hesitant, and scared to be herself.

Right now, she’s most likely feeling like you’re too good to be true, that what you have together is too good to be true. She’s having trouble believing that a guy could do nice things just because he wanted to, and not to make up for something bad that he did. It will take time. It will take patience. It will take courage to pursue a woman who has been heartbroken before, but know that it makes her that much more worth it.

Her giving you a chance is a much bigger deal than you might think. It was you that changed her mind about love existing. Despite being hurt by someone before you, she has decided that she’s willing to risk being hurt again because of you. Because she sees something incredible and amazing inside of you. You are the first person she has been open to trying again with, and that says something about you and your character. She's still learning how to trust again, so while she's doing that, trust me in telling you she's worth the extra time, the hugs, the trying to understand moments. She's worth it all, so just be patient.

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Valentine's Day Became My New Favorite Holiday When I Started Dating The Perfect Man

When you find someone that treats the day with the love and diligence that you deserve, you'll see just how much more meaningful it can be.

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February 14th, 2018.

I finished my last class that Wednesday, excited to meet up with my boyfriend, Nick. It was our first Valentine's Day together, and I was interested to see what was in store for us. I walked towards the back of the building, and into the parking lot. That's when I saw him, all dressed up, stepping out of his car, holding a bouquet of white roses (my favorite). I can't lie. I cried happy tears. I couldn't believe that he remembered something small I said in passing. I couldn't believe that I was with someone that knew how to make me feel so special.

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After what felt like a very long car ride of me trying not to hold back more tears, Nick pulled into a parking lot near our school's chapel. I cluelessly stared at him as he pulled out a guitar out of the trunk, took my hand, and led me around to the back of the building. While we sat on the cement steps, overlooking the scenery, he serenaded me by singing "Latch" by Sam Smith. (Yes, I melted on the spot.) His singing voice is so smooth and sexy.

When we finally got back to my apartment, he handed me this adorable photo book. I could tell that it definitely took it took time and money to put it together. The gift was so personal and sentimental and it made my heart warm knowing that I had a gift I could flip through and look back at any time in the future. (To any other men in relationships: take notes!)

I can't explain to you how badly I needed to feel that kind of love. That unconditional, endless, "I'm never going anywhere" love. That "you are worth it" love. We had only been dating for about two months by the time it was Valentine's Day. It amazed me that he was willing to do so much for me so early into us dating. But everyone deserves that relationship.

Even now, almost a full year later, February 14th, 2018 is not only one of my favorite dates, but also one of my favorite days. It had a lasting impact and I think that speaks volumes about how much it meant to me. And yes, I'm thrilled for Valentine's Day 2019.

Too many people treat Valentine's Day as something obligatory. Like, here's this bear or I made a reservation for us at this restaurant. I guess it's good that they didn't forget about Valentine's Day altogether, but still, there's not enough feeling and effort put into it. Valentine's Day, just like your anniversary, is a celebration of your love.

When you find someone that treats the day with the love and diligence that you deserve, you'll see just how much more meaningful it can be. And it might even become your new favorite holiday too.

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The Best New Movies And TV Shows This February To Binge-Watch With Your Boo

And if you don't have a boo—binge watch the following with pizza and wine!

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There's nothing like binge-watching a movie or show while cuddling with your boo. Whether it's a rainy day, you two are homebodies, or you're just running out of Netflix shows and movies to watch, then this is the article for you. I have done extensive research straight from my bed in an effort to find the best new TV shows and movies to watch on Netflix right now and this coming month.

Here are 11 of the best movies and TV shows on Netflix to watch with your boo this February:

1. You

You can actually watch this Netflix show right now. I binge-watched it in TWO days. Netflix picked up this show from Lifetime and Season 2 has already been filmed. It is a creepy thriller and I feel like that's the best way I can describe it.

And can we talk about the parallels between Joe and Dan Humphrey? Disturbing to say the least.

2. Close

This will be released January 18th. If you and your boo like an action-packed movie, this one is for you. A woman security guard is hired to protect an heiress from highly trained kidnappers. If "Taken" was your jam, I have a feeling you'll like this, too.

3. Sex Education

This show is absolutely hilarious. A teenage virgin with a sex therapist as a mother teams up with an edgy classmate to start their own sex therapy clinic at their school—because since his mom is an expert that means he is, too... right?

4. The Umbrella Academy

Calling all comic book lovers! Coming to Netflix February 15—a dysfunctional family of superheroes band together. This adaptation of "The Umbrella Academy" comic books is a must-watch. This series stars Ellen Page (MY GIRL), so you know where to find me come the premiere.

5. Velvet Buzzsaw

Two words: Jake Gyllenhaal *swoon*. All art is dangerous. "Velvet Buzzsaw" will be released February 1. Let me just say, this thriller truly puts a new twist on artwork coming to life.

6. IO

Coming to Netflix January 18. Another post-cataclysmic Earth movie—sensing a theme here. The two characters lose hope for earth and set their sights elsewhere: space.

7. Russian doll

Russian Doll from Amy Poehler, Natasha Lyonne, and Leslye Headland... Natasha Lyonne puts nine lives to shame. This one arrives February 1st. I wonder if she'll figure out how to stop dying.

8. Polar

What do you do if your job sees you as a liability? Well if you're an assassin, you fight for your life. This is one both you and your boo should enjoy.

9. Black Mirror: Bandersnatch

The interactive thriller. This reminds me of the "Goosebump" books with multiple endings. This is a fun one to do if you want to feel more involved with your movie. You make the calls.

10. Grace and Frankie

"Never too old to not give a f*ck." Grace and Frankie returns January 18 and before your boo says, "f*ck no" to this Netflix original, make him watch this trailer. You can't help but love this show and laugh while doing it.

11. Bird Box, obviously

That is if you haven't seen it already... Watch this movie and you won't regret it. Although your boyfriend might get jealous of Trevante Rhodes (as he should). Oh and just in case you didn't know (cause apparently Twitter didn't)... Sandra Bullock has BEEN around—her badass talent is nothing new.

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So next time you have a night in with bae put on your cozy socks, pour a glass of wine, order some pizza and start one of these great movies or shows!

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