PDA, Are You Here For It? These 19 People Get Very Honest About It

PDA, Are You Here For It? These 19 People Get Very Honest About It

There are two sides and a thin line in between, but when does a couple cross the line?

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In a generation that's very caught up on hook-up culture, it's refreshing to see couples out in public enjoying one another's company; however, where there are couples in public, PDA is sure to follow.

But what is PDA?

PDA is short for public displays of affection. The name is self-explanatory, but formally, it's defined as acts of physical intimacy in view of others.

Some couples display small and sweet amounts of PDA that live up to all of our rom-com fantasies; others border the intense and make others very, very uncomfortable.

There's two sides and a thin line in between, but when does a couple cross that line?

I asked 20+ people where they drew their line, and here's what they said.

1. Check your surroundings.

"It depends on your surroundings. You could make out at a party but not on the steps of church. Small gestures are totally fine and actually cute. Taking it to the max is when I cringe." -Jordan, 20

2. Golden Rule

"If you don't like it when other people do it, then don't do it." -Madi, 19

3. Less is More.

"Personally, I love PDA... kisses, hand holding, and hugs only though. More intimate acts should be saved for a more private space." -Raegan, 18

4. Private meets public.

"There's a certain line where private and public meet. Kissing and such is okay, but anything past is too much." -Spencer, 18

5. Think about the parentals.

"If it isn't something you would feel uncomfortable doing in front of your parents, then you shouldn't do it in public." -Madison, 21

6. No saliva, please.

"Holding hands and a small peck goodbye are okay, but when you can see saliva oozing out of the mouths of two people going at it, that's where I draw my line." -Jenny, 19

7. Mouth babies are a no.

"If you're making babies with your mouth, you need to get a room."- Jackie, 19

8. Keep it special.

"Moments like that are meant to stay private; that's what makes them special, and I don't want to share those moments with lots of people." -Maggie, 22

9. There's NEVER a good time for swallowing face.

"A quick kiss, holding hands, a hug is totally fine for PDA, but anything else is too much. I hate walking to class and seeing people swallowing each other's faces at 7:30 am." -Shelby, 19

10. Hands to yourself.

"Making out in public and hands under clothes is not okay for public viewing, but it really just depends on how you present yourself." -Dakota, 18

11. Occasional and not too hard.

"Holding hands and the occasional kiss is cool, but when you're basically dry humping or kissing so hard that there's a lot of noise, it's too much." -Ethan, 23

12. Sexual touching is a no go.

"Making out or any sort of touching that would be considered sexual is too far, but a peck, a hug, or holding hands would be fine." -Joe, 18

13. Stay mindful.

"Being comfortable with someone enough to give a simple kiss, hug, or holding their hand is completely acceptable, but you have to be thoughtful of other people and understand that everyone reacts to PDA differently. Save what should be between a couple between a couple." Madison, 21

14. Keep it modest.

Hugging and kissing but not sucking face. Holding hands is good, too." -Keith, 44

15. Kid appropriate.

"If you wouldn't do it in front of your (future) kids, then maybe it's not a good idea." -Savannah, 19

16. Side hugs ONLY

"Side hugs are my limit." -Melanie, 39

17. Respect thy neighbor.

I was raised believing there is an appropriate time for everything. PDA should be kept respectful." William, 57

18. Grandparent certified.

"If you wouldn't do it in front of your grandparents, you shouldn't be doing it in public." -Kendyl, 20

19. High five, man!

"A high five and a fist bump is sufficient, but only if you're married." -John, 57

Keep it simple.

Most people all agree that hugging, a quick kiss, and holding hands are acceptable forms of PDA. From ages 19-63, most views are the same. Simplicity is key.

So. Keep it sweet. Keep it simple.

Most importantly, keep it PG-13.

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To The Woman Who Needs To Be Wanted, Don’t Let Men Be Your Vice

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.
Cai Parks
Cai Parks
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By definition, a vice is a habitual or trivial defect... a shortcoming. Everyone has a vice.

Mine was men.

I always felt abandoned by the men in my life. I always clung to the opinions and attention of the boys around me...fighting for it in any way I could.

When I was younger, it was easy to get the attention of the boys my age by just dressing cute and having a bubbly personality.

As I got older though, I noticed that I was having to work harder and harder for their attention. Eventually, it turned into me feeling like I had to give myself to them in any way they asked to get their attention.

So that’s what I did.

I used my body as a way to fill some kind of void that I thought could be filled with the love of a man.

As the years went on, I felt myself clinging to not their love, but their lust.

I no longer cared about their love.

I just wanted to hear them call me hot, sexy, or beautiful. I knew they were using me.

I didn’t care.

I needed them to want me.

I needed them to beg.

I needed to feel needed.

For any woman who might feel as though a man’s lust for you can fill that deep void in your heart, take a step back. Trivial, temporary things like that will only make your heart heavier.

It will only make you begin to despise yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with living life the way you want or with who you want, but don’t use that lifestyle simply as a way to make you feel wanted.

Because my Prince Charming came into my life and I no longer needed any other man.

I finally felt truly loved and he helped me to learn that even without him, I would be more than a body.

He helped me see that I was a body, face, brain, smile, laugh, personality, and everything in between.

I am a strong woman now that I know my worth.

You are a strong woman.

Show your strength.

Know your worth.

Cover Image Credit: @thersagrant/Instagram
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Everything You Should Know Before Dating A Fitness Instructor

Sex, weights, cheat meal dates.

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As a fitness trainer, I know how much we love our job. How much we love the people we help and encourage. How much we never want to stop doing what we do. Yet, it's not all sunshine and rainbows. My boyfriend has to put up with some things that probably, kinda sorta are unconventional. But, he's living his dream (his words).

No matter what they teach, personal training, yoga, pilates, barre, HIIT, I could go on and on, but either way, they are passionate about the people they work with. This fire follows them throughout their life and will most definitely influence you.

1. Constant practicing

Don't be alarmed if you wake up to find her up and about practicing her routines for a class/client.

2. Gushing about a client who has been killing it 

No matter how much of a tough cookie we are, clients touch our hearts.

3. She's flexible

You. Are. Welcome. My best friends always introduce me to guys with, "She's really flexible ;)"

4. There's a routine, stick to it

We may be flexible, but don't come between her and her schedule. She is supported by her routine.

5. You are now a fitness class guinea pig

She needs you to help her rehearse. Approach her practice tests with enthusiasm and just have fun.

6. She'll never judge you

Don't ever feel pressured or intimidated. We love you for you. And, news flash, we are not perfect.

7. Always learning

Learning never ends. Learning new routines, learning new people, learning new emotions, learning new approaches to life.

8. And always eating

Teaching a few classes a day is tough on the body. We need our snacks. All. The. Time.

9. Stretches before bed... every night

No matter how tiring and long the day was, she will make sure to fit it a quick bend and no break.

10. The funny things that happened during class

Story time: One time I taught and my pants ripped. Only made the class more fun!

11. Shaker bottle vases

There's no need for vases, when shaker bottles do you justice. The first time my boyfriend brought home roses, I didn't have a vase so we improvised and used a shaker bottle. Now, that's the only vase we will ever need.

12. Free personal training

It's your dream come true. Fitness is at your right hand at all times. Plus, we will be pumped to start talking to you about our passion.

13. She talks endlessly about how well/not well your class went

Sometimes we kill it and sometimes... we fall a little short.

14.  Chugging water

We need to stay hydrated! Plus, she'll be your water tracker as she bugs you to drink with her. Shots! Shots! Shots (of water)!

15. Team work makes the dream work

There is no "I" in team and fitness instructors know the strength of collaboration and support. No one can go through journey a journey alone.

16. She wakes you up early to go on a run

Let's take a jog to the beach and watch the sunrise!

17. Protein, protein, and more protein

She doesn't have to be a weight lifter to assure that she nourishes her body with enough protein (from any source you prefer). My cupboard is always stocked with lentils and chickpeas.

18. Watching her watch fitness videos to get ideas

While you're reading the news, scrolling through Instagram, or just chilling out, she'll be watching workout videos or saving posts from fitness accounts.

19. Goes to bed super early

We need at least eight hours of beauty sleep and, let's be real, we are grandpas.

20.  She lives off of Spotify playlists

Wait, do you hear that song? What's it called, I need to add it to my workout playlist. Plus, she loves to sing (even if she isn't that good).

21.  Pulse 2, 3, 4

While she does chores, she'll start reciting her catchphrases and mantras.

22.  She's your forever cheerleader

Getting out of bed? If you don't squeeze it, no one else will! Washing the dishes? Let's go, you've got this! Running to the bathroom? One more minute! 30 more seconds! Mowing the lawn? You better feel it tomorrow!

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