There Isn't A 'Perfect' Type Of Relationship, Stop Stressing

There Isn't A 'Perfect' Type Of Relationship, Stop Stressing

Because love is love, no matter what type of relationship you are in.

People get so caught up in others business, especially their relationship business. People feel like they have a right to judge others and gossip about their relationship.

There is no perfect relationship...except maybe Blake Lively and Ryan Renolds, but they aren't even human so...

Thing is, there are so many types of relationships that work for other people that may not work for you. There is no reason to start shit over something that really has nothing to do with your daily life. It will not affect you or harm you in any way so why be so nasty about something you don't understand.

There are so many types of relationships that are so unique and diverse that suit different personalities.

One type of relationship people judge is the "break up and make up" couple. Look, it totally is annoying when your friend calls you for the millionth time about the "break up," but that's her business.

Unless he/she is treating them badly then stay out of it and keep your comments about how they should stay broken up to yourself.

They clash sometimes and may knick you in the process, but when they are together their love is magnetic.

Another relationship type is the "fights like cats and dogs" couple.

This couple is different than the one above because they never actually break up, but sometimes it seems like they will or you kinda wish they would.

They fight over every little thing and I'm sure people think it's crazy but it's actually their way. It means they have good communication and maybe they just like to fight, so who are we to judge.

One relationship that doesn't get talked about much but judged severely is the "lesbian/gay/trans" relationship. People will say, "ew" when the couple kisses in public or they will make fun of them or even worse they may get attacked.

You need to keep your head held high while knowing that your love is true and more pure that those people's dark hearts.

Or the "we fell in love young (and possibly got married young)" relationship, which gets owned for so many reasons that is no ones business. "Did she get pregnant? Are they religious? It won't last they don't know what they want."

Maybe, just maybe, they are in love and know exactly what they are committing to, Susan.

As I write, I keep thinking about even more types of relationships, my own included.

The one that a lot of people talk some real shit on is the "age gap" relationship. Look, age is a thing. It does matter. It matters when it's a fourteen year old girl and a thirty year old guy. That is creepy AF, but an age gap between two adults? Not so creepy.

As a twenty three year old (yes, I'm twenty three), having the choice to date how I want and who I want is my own and my right. No one can judge me because they are not in my life nor my relationship.

Please, keep your judgment to yourself.

And my favorite, the "I love myself" relationship. This one gets so much shit for being in a committed relationship to yourself. There is nothing wrong with putting yourself or your career first. Maybe you just love your job and that's enough for you right now.

So much gossip revolves around other's business. It's dumb because relationships are supposed to be amazing and happy things but people pull others down with their bullshit drama and harsh words.

Your relationship is yours and you know what it's about. You know each other and love each other, so don't listen to haters who aren't there behind closed doors. We all know those who judge aren't perfect and they have their skeletons and issues behind closed doors. At least you are honest and upfront about your baggage with your SO.

You do you and I'll do me.

Mind your own damn business and I'll mind mine.

Love who you want and I'll love who I want.

Moral of all this: There is no "right" relationship, because whatever you feel is what's right. So don't stress over petty gossip and other drama or what the perfect relationship "should" be.

You got this. You're doing it right.

How do I know?

Because love is love, no matter what type of relationship you are in.

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Subtle Ways You May Be Disrespecting Your Friend's Relationship

If they make your friend happy, you shouldn't be doing these things.


No ones significant other wants to tell them they don't like their friends. And trying to tell anyone not to hang out with the people they're closest too is a disaster waiting to happen.

Some people really just don't like their friend's partner, but others have no idea the damage they may be doing to the relationship. If you are more aware of some things to avoid, hopefully, you, your friend, and their partner can all get along in peace.

1. When you see your friend, make sure to acknowledge their partner.

To be honest, this is a basic courtesy. If you go to say hi to anyone in a group of people, it is polite to greet, or at least acknowledge, everyone there. If you completely ignore that your friend's partner is even there, it will make them feel awkward and neglected. Just say hi.

2. Don't be overly touchy-feely with your friend, especially around their partner.

Obviously, this mostly applies to friends of the opposite sex (for heterosexual couples). Look, there is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex but just know your boundaries. You may think your friend's partner is being jealous for no reason, but are you doing anything that might make them uncomfortable?

You don't need to always have your arm around them or be leaned up against them. It is really inappropriate to kiss them on the cheek or give them super long hugs, even if that is something you did before they had a partner, and even if it is completely platonic.

You can still hug and be close to your friend, just be respectful of their boundaries. If you don't give their partner any reason to be jealous then they will have no basis to dislike you.

3. If you invite your friend somewhere, it is polite to also invite their partner.

Even if you assume your friend's partner is going to come, it is nice to make them feel welcomed. And if you don't want their partner to come, make sure they are not together or planning to be together when you invite your friend.

You don't have to always have their partner around, but don't make it a habit of not inviting them. If they don't feel welcomed around their partner's friends, then they probably won't feel as confident in their relationship.

4. Don't ever bring up your friend's past relationships, especially around their partner.

Even if they are on good terms. Even if you are still friends with their ex. Just don't bring them up. No one wants to hear about their partner's past relationships or flings. It is embarrassing and uncomfortable to have to hear about your partner's exes.

5. If you are all out together, don't try to separate your friend from their partner.

There is a good chance that if you are out with your friend and their partner, their partner does not know many people there. If that is the case, don't try to separate your friend from their partner.

There may be an exception if their partner has friends around too, or if they are outgoing and can talk to anybody easily, but otherwise, it is really awkward to be in that situation alone. They are with their partner for a reason, and it is nice to make their partner feel included as well.

Just don't make it a habit to always pull your friend away.

6. Don't put your friend in any awkward or risky situations.

If your friend is a cheater, that is not really any fault of yours. But don't be the friend who is known for putting your partnered friend in risky situations.

There is nothing wrong with going out occasionally with your friends, but it does not need to be a regular occurrence, especially if it makes their partner uncomfortable.

Along the same lines, if you know an ex-partner or fling will be there, you don't need to put your friend in that awkward situation. Just be aware of the situation and how it might make their partner feel.

To wrap up, you don't need to completely change your relationship with your friend just to make their partner happy; just make sure to be polite and respectful of their partner and their relationship.

These are some subtle things you may be doing that are hurting your friend's relationship that you don't even realize have negative consequences. Simply be more aware of some of these situations and how they could potentially make your friend's partner feel. After all, the best relationships are the ones where your partner's friends also become your friends.

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My BF And I Were 'Just Friends' And Now We're Celebrating Our One Year Anniversary

Dating my best friend was the best decision I have ever made.


In August 2017, Brendan and I met. A group of friends invited him and me to go to Wendy's after a meeting for a school club. We talked the whole time — the conversation seemed endless in the best way possible. Later that night, I called him to ask him what water balloons I should buy for a celebration the next day. From that day forward, I cannot remember a day where I have not called him. It started off as nothing more as a platonic relationship from my perspective, but he would advocate otherwise.

Fast-forward to January 2018, Brendan and I started seeing each other outside of school. We would make up excuses and white lies to our friends and parents, saying that we were going to the library to study when really we would just sit in the parking lot and talk for hours until he had to drive me home. He became my best friend. I wanted to tell him everything — good news, bad news, stupid rants, my blonde moments, random and unfiltered thoughts. However, day-in and day-out, I kept denying that it was anything more than a friendship. Again, he would argue otherwise.

On April 27, 2018, I gave in.

We were sitting in his parked Dodge Durango, listening to a pop radio station. I was leaning over the center console to rest my head on his shoulder, and we were waiting for the sun to go down at a park. Abruptly, I looked over at him and ironically asked if he would be my boyfriend. For some reason, we did not tell our family or friends for about a month (sorry, Mum and Dad). I wish I would have realized it sooner, but regardless of timing, dating my best friend was the best decision I have ever made.

Christmas 2018Olivia Zidzik

Since then, our relationship has overcome insane distances.

Being 12 miles away turned into 1,601 miles when he went on a service trip to Boca Chica in the Dominican Republic this past summer. It went back to 12 miles for a little while. However, at the end of the summer, it turned into 413 miles when I moved to the University of Kentucky. In October, we were only a few feet apart as I hid behind his car in his school parking lot to surprise him. After I have returned and left home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and spring break, he decided it was time for him to come to Lexington in March 2019.

All the time spent together and apart brings us to our one year — April 27, 2019.

Hey, Brendan: Although we will be 413 miles apart for it, happy one-year. You have been my rock and my best friend for the past 20-some months, and there are not enough thank you's that I can say to express how thankful I am that God put you in my life. I am so beyond grateful and appreciative for everything you have done and sacrificed for me and for us. I cannot wait to see where our journey will go next, but until then — here's to me and you. I love you. See you very very soon.

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