There Really Are Perks To Having An Open Relationship
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There Really Are Perks To Having An Open Relationship

You'll never be missing passion.

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There Really Are Perks To Having An Open Relationship
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Open relationships get a lot of backlash because it's become more of a millennial way of life. You're devoted to one partner while having small insignificant flings. As a girl who loves to live her life to the fullest I've never seen the issue with this as long as there is an understanding.

With my partners, I've always struggled because of my need for freedom and the boredom I get from not having fun. This doesn't mean sleeping with several different guys, if it does for you then no judgment it’s making you happy and you're living your best life. For me, it’s always meant meeting different people and experiencing different personalities, but at the same time, my main focus to be my main partner.

It’s hard to know what you want in life especially when it comes to love.

Most girls want the same thing, however: Passion. That feeling you have with someone where you feel alive like in the movies. Yes, you can get it but keeping it is harder. You see him for the first time and it’s like a magnet pulled you to him, then you start talking. It seems like everything is going right you have his attention. But the real question is how long can I keep his attention?

You become exclusive and you know it, that you have him but that’s where things go down. Now that you have each other you no longer need to play the game. You don’t have to work for each other's feelings they’re just expected because you’re together. As a girl who needs to feel burning passion and the thrill, what is the fun in that?

The honeymoon phase is gone that spark you had together when the feelings were hidden is gone because now, you’re a vanilla couple. You can't have that fun thrill of being chased, of having the craving that yeah we're looking at others but I want them to want me. You just know they want you and you do "couple things".

When out you have no need to stick out from the other girls because you’re on his arm. Those guys who would droll at you and do anything for your attention it’s gone because of that title. That freedom to go out with whoever and still have each other is gone. That’s what the open relationship is all about. Given, not all girls can handle the passion that comes with an open relationship, some need a guy devoted to them and giving all attention to her and that's fine to be a vanilla couple.

But some girls need a passionate relationship that comes with the devotion but without that attention, because that can become a bore.

Freedom, you both are devoted to each other but you have to work to keep that passion. He’s going to some other girls place, well I’m gonna be all he’s thinking about while there.

You make sure that he wants you romantically while being sexually involved with others.

Well, what if he leaves me for some other girl? It’s all about knowing how you both feel without having to say it and having fun. That passion remains cause not only do you get to learn ways to bring up the heat with your partner you're enjoying each other and freedom. All people need freedom in life mainly you get this in college but as you get older you want that relationship and you can still have it during an open relationship.

Once you get to that point in your life where you're done chasing that feeling of being alive you can stop being open. Most people practice this in their 20s for the reason you're young and wanna have fun you want the passion and commitment but you want to experience all life has to offer. It’s okay to always want more because you only have this life once.

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