15 College Students Confess The Pettiest Thing They’ve Ever Done When It Comes To Love And Hookups
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Have your feelings for another person ever caused you to do something out of your character? I know mine have.

Earlier in the year, I started doing workouts at an MMA gym. Occasionally one of the instructors and I flirted a little bit here and there. I was never really into blondes, but I figured it was worth it if I could work my magic and flaunt him off on snapchat to make one of my exes jealous. I noticed another one of the instructors was more obvious about his liking for me so I used that to my advantage too just in case. I even agreed to go on a free trip with both of them to South Carolina at the end of spring break. Long story short, they both caught on to the fact that I was using them and my plan backfired severely.

I wondered if other people also had the same kind of experiences or if I was just crazy so I created a survey, asking college students what the pettiest thing is that they've ever done. Here are 15 of the pettiest responses.


1. Subtweeted their ex

"I subtweet my exes tweets about me." - Female, 21

2. Changed their boyfriend's passcode

"My boyfriend at the time lied about this pool party he was attending so I changed the passcode on his phone so he couldn't get in it." - Female, 22

3. Slept with their ex-boyfriend's best friend

"I fucked my ex-boyfriend's best friend more than I fucked him" - Female, 21

4. Purposely pissed off someone's ex

"I slept with a girl knowing I was the rebound just because I knew it would piss off her ex." - Male, 22

5. Abstained from sex for a whole month

"I got mad that my boyfriend ignored my text so I didn't have sex with him for a whole month." - Female, 21

6. Canceled their date's Uber 

"I glanced at this girls' phone while on a date and she was telling her group chat how she was finessing me for food. So I called an Uber for her once the date was over… and canceled it halfway to her destination." - Male, 23

7. Sent their ex-girlfriend a video of him hooking up with her best friend

"My ex cheated on me so after I dumped her ass, I sent her a video on Snapchat a few weeks later of her best friend giving me a blow job." - Male, 22

8. Competed with their best-friend over a guy

There was this guy at the bar that both my best friend and I were eyeing the whole night. While my best friend was using the bathroom, the guy came up to me and asked about her. He was more my type than hers so I lied to him and told him that she was already taken and gave him my number instead." - Female, 21

9. Lied about the quality of their sex

"So I had been hooking up with this girl for MONTHS and we had the best sex I've ever had in my life. She ended up ghosting me after a while and always said she didn't have time to hang out because she was busy. It turns out that she was actually interested in a friend of mine. I told my friend that her riding skills were trash and tried to talk him out of being with her." - Male, 21

10. Had their best friend pretend to be someone they were cheating with

"My ex-girlfriend was being really clingy and annoying for weeks and we had been fighting non-stop to the point where I couldn't take it anymore. One day I was hanging out with my best friend (who I knew my ex didn't like) and noticed that I had 3 missed calls from my ex. I tried to ignore it, but by the 4th call, I picked up the phone and had my best friend answer saying 'Sorry, she can't come to the phone right now. She's busy going down on me.' We broke up the next day." - Female, 23

11. Faked a pregnancy scare

"I felt like he was losing interest in me after a while and I didn't want him to break things off because I was so dependent on the relationship. I ended up having a fake pregnancy scare." - Female, 23

12. Broke their boyfriend's PS4 controller

"My boyfriend wasn't giving me enough attention and kept playing Fortnite for HOURS while I was trying to bond with him so I snatched the PS4 controller out of his hands and threw it against the wall. It broke and he didn't speak to me for three weeks." - Female, 23

13. Slept with someone else's boyfriend and exposed him on Twitter

"I fucked this guy knowing he had a girlfriend and then told her about it and when they didn't break up I posted his dick pic on my Twitter and @'d her." - Female, 20

14. Pretended to date their best friend’s brother 

"I pretended my best friend's brother was my new man, posted pictures of me and him boo'd up at a basketball game and posted them to make my boo jealous." - Female, 21

15. Called their ex-boyfriend's mom and told her that he died

"My ex dumped me so I called his mom and told her that he died. Then I waited a few minutes and said "Just kidding!," hung up the phone, and blocked everybody in his family." - Female, 21

Disclaimer: I am in no way, shape or form glorifying these actions. This is just to shed light on the reality of the fact that love and infatuation make us do some manipulative stuff sometimes.

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8 Qualities That Still Hold Up When Looking For The 'Perfect Guy' In 2019

He hasn't come along yet, but I'll know him when I see him.

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Ah, the mythical "perfect guy." Technically, he doesn't exist.

But there are guys that seem perfect to the people who love them despite their flaws. Over the years, I've compiled a mental list of things I look for in a guy. The list has changed over the years as different things became important to me. It's probably as complex and comprehensive now as it'll ever get, but I can't be sure.

The following are in order of importance, at least for me. Here are the best qualities to look for in a man in 2019:

1. Having strong faith.

This is crucial! I'm Christian, so for me, that means if he's not a Christian, it's a dealbreaker. My morals and beliefs are very strongly linked to my faith in God, and I just can't be with someone who doesn't share that conviction. I wouldn't marry a man who's not a Christian, so why even bother dating one?

"Imagine a man so focused on God that the only reason he looked up to see you is because he heard God say, 'That's her.'"

2. Kind

This is also very important! I've liked guys in the past who had some of the other qualities I looked for I but weren't kind. A relationship without kindness is toxic. Everyone deserves someone who treats them well, but that person should treat everyone well. They shouldn't discriminate with their kindness.

3. Funny

I need a guy who can make me laugh! He also needs to be able to understand my sense of humor, which is mostly sarcasm. I find a lot of things funny: jokes, puns, memes, no matter how seemingly stupid. If you've got those, you're golden.

4. Smart

Intelligence is attractive. It's true. I want a guy who's smart but isn't conceited. He knows he knows a lot but he doesn't think he's better than everyone else. He doesn't have to be a genius. He could be really smart in one subject, or kind of smart in many subjects. I just want him to know a thing or two about a thing or two.

5. Hardworking

My guy needs to be ambitious. He needs to have goals that he works toward. He can't be lazy. I believe that it is primarily the man's duty to financially support his woman. This is most applicable in marriage, but it works in dating relationships, too. I don't want someone who is unable to provide for me. In order to do that, he needs to be able to provide for himself.

6. Cute

You knew I'd get to this! I'm not blind, after all. Trust me, I think it's important for a guy to be attractive. But it's not as important as everything listed above this. I've been told I have weird taste in guys in terms of looks. What I see as cute doesn't always line up with society's definition. The important thing is that I'm attracted to him. Physical attraction is important in a relationship. To be picky: I don't like facial hair or too much muscle. I do like chest hair and back muscles.

7. Creative

This can mean a lot of different things. He could draw, paint, write, sing, play an instrument, etc. As long as it shows that he's inclined to use the right side of his brain. I'm a writer, so I'm naturally more drawn to people who prefer creativity over logic.

8. Interested in Me

Despite being last, this is extremely important! Without this, none of the other things matter. It's just like every other crush I've ever had. Nothing different. Nothing special. While I've been able to find guys who exhibit the first seven qualities, the eighth has been much harder to come by. I've never been in a relationship, so I imagine it will be really wonderful when I eventually find someone who reciprocates my feelings.


Some people may think my standards are too high, but I refuse to lower them. I believe that God has someone out there for me who lives up to these standards and even exceeds them. I just have to be patient and trust His timing.

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The Friend You Like Romantically Doesn't Owe You Anything

The friend-zone can be escaped, but not in the way you might want
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We've all heard the story of the "friend-zone." Boy is in love with his best friend, she dates all the wrong guys and fails to notice how perfect he is, then eventually realizes how wrong she was and they live happily ever after.

I used to think that the friend-zone was a myth that lonely men created to feel better about themselves. But then I got friend-zoned myself.

Yes, it sucked, but the second I realized I had feelings for a friend (that I knew had no such feelings for me), I decided to suppress the feelings. When that wasn't enough, I cut them off for a bit, then, slowly, I felt OK. I could communicate with them without having unwanted romantic feelings pop up. I had escaped the friend-zone.

Having gone through that, I had more sympathy for someone I had to friend-zone a little while later. I had been friends with this guy for a few months. I didn't have many college friends yet and I was really lonely, so having his company really meant a lot at the time.

This caused me to not be able to see what should have been clear: he had a crush on me. When I finally made the realization, I immediately let him know that I didn't feel that way about him. He said it was OK, but I could tell it wasn't.

We didn't talk at all over the summer and when we came back for the fall semester, he would barely look at me. I had started dating his friend, which caused an even bigger rift between us.

Though I understand where he's coming from, I was also really mad at him for a long time.

It was as if he was only nice to me because he wanted romance in return. But people are not vending machines. You can't put in your "nice guy" coins and expect love, sex, or whatever the hell it is you want in return.

It hurt me to know that he only wanted romance and once that was off the table, he no longer wanted anything to do with me.

But then I thought back to the friend that had friend-zoned me. Unrequited affections really suck, especially when they're for someone that you spend a lot of time with. But the key is to work to escape it.

Yes, liking someone you're friends with and them not liking you back is a real thing, but people tend to treat the friend-zone like this mythic hell dimension that can never be escaped. But you can escape. Just maybe not in the way you'd like to.

Now there are three ways you can escape the friend-zone:

The first option is to confess your feelings and try to win them over. Now, this isn't completely unheard of. I've had friends that have dated people who had previously friend-zoned them, but it's extremely rare and risky. You have to risk your entire friendship in order to do this. If it doesn't work out, it could strain the friendship or sometimes break it beyond repair.

You can also do what my ex-friend did and completely cut the person off. If you're being a love-zombie and only doing nice things for the friend because you expect romance in return, leaving the situation might be the most healthy decision for you. I understand now that my friend might have stopped talking to me out of self-preservation. But it still hurts the people involved.

The third and final option is to just get over it. It's harsh, but it's real. Why try something you know is going to fail and cause pain to both sides? Yes, getting over crushes can be really difficult, but getting a normal friendship back rather than being stuck a love-zombie for them is worth the pain.

Whichever one you choose, just remember this: Your friends do not owe you any romantic affection. The work you put into making them happy should just come out of the goodness of your own heart. If you expect romance in return, you're not being a good friend to them. If you really care about them, don't put that kind of pressure on them. They don't want a mindless love-zombie that does their bidding for the hope that they'll get a tiny love kernel out of it. They just want a friend.

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