If You Don’t Do These 25 Petty Things To 'Test' Your Boyfriend, Are You Even Dating?

If You Don’t Do These 25 Petty Things To 'Test' Your Boyfriend, Are You Even Dating?

I'm only slightly ashamed to admit that I've done most of these things.

Briana Le
Briana Le
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In the world of love, dating, and relationships, open communication is key. You should be talking about your feelings and emotions, what you like and don't like, and freely speaking your mind. However, I think I speak for a lot of people when I say that sometimes girls do certain things just to test their significant other.

Maybe you're wondering if he truly loves you.

Maybe you're wondering if they're mad at you.

Maybe you just want to see how your significant other will react.

And while I hate to say it, I'm sure some of you do it just because you're jealous (we've all been there).

Below I've amassed a list of things that I have done as well as what others have told me they've done. While you might not do everything on this list, I guarantee that you've done at least one of them.

1. Say you're "fine" when you're not fine.

Maybe you guys get into an argument and you tell him "it's fine" or "you're fine" but in reality... it's not fine. The question is... Does he fall for it? For his sake, I hope not.

2. Pretend you're mad at him to see how he'll react.

Will he flip out? Will he try to talk it out with you? Will he catch your fib? The possibilities are endless.

3. Say you don't know where you want to eat out but you actually do.

... I might chalk this one up as girls being girls. In my defense though, sometimes I don't want to suggest a place to eat in case he's not in the mood for it.

4. Telling him you're not hungry when he's eating to see if he'll offer to share.

I do this and the majority of the time I'll ask when I'm actually not even hungry just to see if he shares. Remember, sharing is caring.

5. Telling him you're cold to see if he offers to warm you up.

Maybe he'll offer to cuddle. Maybe he'll get you a blanket. Maybe he'll give you his hoodie. Or maybe, he'll do nothing.

6. Offer to pay for dinner to see if he'll offer instead.

I would like to state that I am a firm believer that the boyfriend should not have to pay for everything. I am all for splitting bills or taking turns!

It's just... another test I guess.

7. Question them about random facts to see if they "know" you.

Do you "know" me or "know me know me?"

8. Say you crave [insert food] and see if he offers to get it for you.

I am guilty of doing this and then when he offers, I will adamantly turn him down. But trust me, I'm not (that) difficult.

9. Turn away from him during cuddles to see if he pulls you back.

Sometimes it's just nice to see some affection.

10.  Let go of his hand when hand holding to see if he'll pick it back up.

Once again, all about affection.

11.  Ask him if he thinks another girl is pretty.

I'll admit that I do this but only because I appreciate and admire other girls! I genuinely do it because I think other girls are pretty! Unfortunately, I know that girls do this because they are jealous.

12. Turn down sex to see how he reacts.

If he really loves you, he won't get mad.

13.  Ask him if an outfit looks good on you to see what he says.

Sometimes there's a fine line between telling the truth and complimenting your girlfriend.

14.  "Do I look fat in this?"

Enough said.

15.  Do little things here and there to see if he says thank you.

Sometimes we want to see that they appreciate us.

16.  Cook for him and waits to see if he'll thank you or compliment the food.

Once again, appreciation. Also, if my boyfriend tells me my cooking sucks, he can bet his ass I'm never cooking for him ever again.

17.  Criticize yourself to see if he'll stand up for you.

Maybe you'll say your arms look fat in a picture. His response should be "No, you look beautiful."

To be honest, this isn't always done as a test, sometimes we say what we feel about ourselves and I think it's important to boost your girlfriend up.

18.  Wait to see if he does certain things the exact way that you like it.

Fun fact about me: I am very adamant about having the toilet seat down when flushing. Sometimes I'll watch him flush to see if he puts the lid down and if not, you better believe all hell breaks loose.

19.  When you tell him you "can't hang out" to see if he keeps asking you to hang out.

I am proud to admit I don't do this but I know certain girls do.

20.  Steal his hoodie and see if he asks for it back.

Trust me, all girls want their boyfriend's clothes. Yes, I might have 40 hoodies but I want yours.

21.  Sit on the opposite side of the couch to see if he'll scoot towards you.

Again, affection. It's the little things.

22.  Testing him on the conversation you just had to see if he was actually paying attention.

We want to know that you care. And that you're paying attention to us.

23.  Not reminding him of important dates/details to see if he remembers.

Again, pay attention to us.

24.  Asking for their phone to see if they give it to you.

I'm not someone to snoop but I think it's just a sign of good faith if they aren't super protective over their phone. You might not even want to go through it but it's more of a "test."

25.  Telling him you're hanging out with a boy to see if he gets jealous.

Your boyfriend should trust you no matter what.

It's important to note that not everything up there is a test. Sometimes girls do things just because that's how they are. It's not always a test, believe it or not.

On a side note, I want to thank my boyfriend (as I'm sure most girls will after reading this) for putting up with me through my constant crazy moods and behaviors! You're a trooper.

Briana Le
Briana Le

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Literally, so hot RN

10 Things My Significant Other MUST Do In Order To Earn The Privilege Of Meeting My Mom

I say "Hakuna Matata" on the daily, but you really need to say it when you prepare to meet my mom.

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Besides getting married, meeting the parents can be the most stressful time in any relationship. Your boyfriend could be freaking out because he doesn't want to sound like a loon in front of your dad or your mom may be chopping the vegetables a little too loudly making your girlfriend seem uncomfortable in the presence of a knife. Stressing for days (maybe even weeks) up until the day arrives is apart of being in love because you want your parents to love your significant other just as much as you do and when the dinner is finally over, you can breathe again. My family is a little different and my boyfriend has to do these things to be able to meet my mom and my brother (may as well add my cousins into the mix, too because they're my older siblings).

1. Pass the "Best Friends Test"

I have 6 best friends and each one of them has a unique personality. There's the momma friend, the crazy friend, the questionable friend, the laid back friend, the turnt friend, and the friend who just wants me to be happy. If they don't like you, I'll talk to them to figure out why they don't like you. Either way, if you hurt me, they'll hurt you.

2. Prove that stability is your main priority five years from now, even if I'm not in your plan

Things happen and we can't predict everything. We can be together now, break up in a year, and then get back together. It's part of being a teenager/young adult. We deal with a lot, I mean, we're in college, but the older we get, the more stressful life gets, so I want you to show me that you can handle whatever stresses come your way. I want you to be stable on your own before adding a girlfriend into the mix.

3. Deal with my "Hunger Fits"

Let's face it, I can be a brat, but I'm only a brat on three occasions.

1. I'm sleepy.

2. You didn't let me get my way.

3. I'm hungry.

If you eat without me or go get food without me, I might cry and pout like a two-year-old, so you have to be able to handle it. Pro-tip, have snacks with you whenever we go somewhere.

4. Be okay with getting roasted

My cousins are the funniest people you'll ever meet, but they aren't afraid to talk about you while you sit in front of them, so I need to know that you're okay with being roasted. They're not doing it to be mean (trust me, they aren't), but they're doing it because they're my family and they care about me as if I were their little sister.

5. Be able to hold an intelligent conversation for more than 5 minutes

Good conversation is an essential part of a relationship and I love talking about things that are happening in the world today and because my mom is super knowledgeable on a lot of things, you have to be able to talk for more than 5 minutes about something that's engaging.

6. Remain calm in the face of a difficult conversation

I know when it came to certain topics, I used to go off like a volcano, but I've had to grow out of exploding on people just because they don't agree with me. It takes months, maybe even years to master that type of patience and self-restraint, but I grew up fast, so I needed to learn in less than a year how to hold my tongue. I need to know that if you and I (or someone in my family) were to be in a serious conversation, you'd remain calm. I won't blow up on you, so please don't blow up on me (or my family) because then it might not end so well.

7. State your opinion, no matter how mad I might get

Following up with number six, this is a must! I'm a writer, so I deal with a lot of written opinions on the daily. I'm also involved in a lot of organizations where open dialogue is encouraged, so I deal with a lot of verbal opinions, too. People are going to say what they want to say no matter what and I want you to be able to tell me what's on your mind no matter how severe it may be. I'm here for you and I want you to know that you can trust me with your opinions. I might not agree with them, but I can deal with them.

8. Be able to sit and talk about sports and video games with my brother

You'll for sure meet my older brother before you meet my mom only because he acts just like my late grandfather; calm and laid back. He goes with the flow and doesn't get upset unless I get upset, so you don't have to worry about the big bad overprotective brother (but he is very big and very overprotective). He'd much rather sit and talk about "fork-knife" or a basketball game than grill you. It's just how he is. Also, don't be offended if he engages in conversation with you for like ten minutes before he loses interest in talking to you and goes back to playing his game.

9. Be okay and open to the possibility of a long distance relationship

I don't plan on staying down South for long. I actually won't stay here after I graduate from college. Long distance relationships don't work for 40% of all couples, but I want us to not be a statistic. I believe that we could make it, so I would need to know that you'd be okay with me being a thousand miles away; and of course, if you were halfway across the country, I would learn to be okay with it, too.

10. Love your family as much as you love me

Family is a big deal for me. It's always been me, my older brother, and my mom. You may come from a household where it's you and both of your parents, you and one parent, or you, your parent(s), and your siblings. I love my mom and brother with all of my heart and would drop anything (and I have dropped things) to be with them. I want to see that you love your family with the same amount of love that you give me. A man who loves the family he is born into will love the family he marries into.

My family's triangle has never been broken before, so this is new territory for all of us. Don't feel like an outsider, though! These may seem extensive and extra, but it's the things that matter to me. Aside from the apparent trustworthiness, loyalty, wanting three pets, having a sense of humor, and education that I look for in a guy, you have to do these ten things to meet my mom.

If you pass all of these, then you get to meet her. Don't stress about it though because if she doesn't like you at the first meeting, she'll come around by the next because she loves me and she'll see that I love you.

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To The Parents Who Raised The Man Of My Dreams, It Paid Off

You did a phenomenal job.

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As a parent, you always wonder if you're doing it right. Parenting doesn't come with instructions. You're not told how to punish your children in every situation or what to do whenever they accomplish something. You're not completely prepared for it. However, for someone without instructions, you did a phenomenal job.

You raised the man of my dreams.

I've dated throughout my teens and every guy seemed to be the same, but with your son everything was different. Your son is everything I've ever wanted. He is perfect. He is such a gentleman. I want you to know everything you taught him like holding the door and paying for dates, it worked.

I want you to know he doesn't show anger towards me. I'm sure I aggravate him and make him angry, but I want you to know I'll never know when I've done so because he doesn't show it. He gets mad with football games and after he gets done yelling, he apologizes.

He makes me feel beautiful. He has seen me at my absolute worse. He has seen me right when I wake up in the morning with no makeup and my hair is a mess and he tells me I'm beautiful. Whenever so get dressed up, he notices. He makes sure to let me know I look beautiful. He pays attention to detail like that my hair is curled or I have a new nose ring in and he adds them in with the compliments.

He is always supportive. Whenever I started back to school, he was so proud of me. When I started writing for The Odyssey, he shared my articles. He will tell me how proud he is of me. When I make good grades on assignments, he tells me good job.

He is so loving. He comforts me whenever I'm sick. When I had the stomach bug, he got my medicine, trashcans, and played with my hair to comfort me. He brushes and straightens my hair for me whenever I don't feel like it because he wants it to look good.

Thanks to you I have found someone who treats me wonderful. If it wasn't for you, he wouldn't know how to treat a lady. It is because of you that he turned out to be nice and respectful man he is today. I want you to know you did an amazing job raising him. He's everything I've ever wanted. Thank you for raising him to be such a gentleman. Thank you for raising him to be everything I've ever dreamed of.

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