If You Don’t Do These 25 Petty Things To 'Test' Your Boyfriend, Are You Even Dating?

If You Don’t Do These 25 Petty Things To 'Test' Your Boyfriend, Are You Even Dating?

I'm only slightly ashamed to admit that I've done most of these things.

Briana Le
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In the world of love, dating, and relationships, open communication is key. You should be talking about your feelings and emotions, what you like and don't like, and freely speaking your mind. However, I think I speak for a lot of people when I say that sometimes girls do certain things just to test their significant other.

Maybe you're wondering if he truly loves you.

Maybe you're wondering if they're mad at you.

Maybe you just want to see how your significant other will react.

And while I hate to say it, I'm sure some of you do it just because you're jealous (we've all been there).

Below I've amassed a list of things that I have done as well as what others have told me they've done. While you might not do everything on this list, I guarantee that you've done at least one of them.

1. Say you're "fine" when you're not fine.

Maybe you guys get into an argument and you tell him "it's fine" or "you're fine" but in reality... it's not fine. The question is... Does he fall for it? For his sake, I hope not.

2. Pretend you're mad at him to see how he'll react.

Will he flip out? Will he try to talk it out with you? Will he catch your fib? The possibilities are endless.

3. Say you don't know where you want to eat out but you actually do.

... I might chalk this one up as girls being girls. In my defense though, sometimes I don't want to suggest a place to eat in case he's not in the mood for it.

4. Telling him you're not hungry when he's eating to see if he'll offer to share.

I do this and the majority of the time I'll ask when I'm actually not even hungry just to see if he shares. Remember, sharing is caring.

5. Telling him you're cold to see if he offers to warm you up.

Maybe he'll offer to cuddle. Maybe he'll get you a blanket. Maybe he'll give you his hoodie. Or maybe, he'll do nothing.

6. Offer to pay for dinner to see if he'll offer instead.

I would like to state that I am a firm believer that the boyfriend should not have to pay for everything. I am all for splitting bills or taking turns!

It's just... another test I guess.

7. Question them about random facts to see if they "know" you.

Do you "know" me or "know me know me?"

8. Say you crave [insert food] and see if he offers to get it for you.

I am guilty of doing this and then when he offers, I will adamantly turn him down. But trust me, I'm not (that) difficult.

9. Turn away from him during cuddles to see if he pulls you back.

Sometimes it's just nice to see some affection.

10.  Let go of his hand when hand holding to see if he'll pick it back up.

Once again, all about affection.

11.  Ask him if he thinks another girl is pretty.

I'll admit that I do this but only because I appreciate and admire other girls! I genuinely do it because I think other girls are pretty! Unfortunately, I know that girls do this because they are jealous.

12. Turn down sex to see how he reacts.

If he really loves you, he won't get mad.

13.  Ask him if an outfit looks good on you to see what he says.

Sometimes there's a fine line between telling the truth and complimenting your girlfriend.

14.  "Do I look fat in this?"

Enough said.

15.  Do little things here and there to see if he says thank you.

Sometimes we want to see that they appreciate us.

16.  Cook for him and waits to see if he'll thank you or compliment the food.

Once again, appreciation. Also, if my boyfriend tells me my cooking sucks, he can bet his ass I'm never cooking for him ever again.

17.  Criticize yourself to see if he'll stand up for you.

Maybe you'll say your arms look fat in a picture. His response should be "No, you look beautiful."

To be honest, this isn't always done as a test, sometimes we say what we feel about ourselves and I think it's important to boost your girlfriend up.

18.  Wait to see if he does certain things the exact way that you like it.

Fun fact about me: I am very adamant about having the toilet seat down when flushing. Sometimes I'll watch him flush to see if he puts the lid down and if not, you better believe all hell breaks loose.

19.  When you tell him you "can't hang out" to see if he keeps asking you to hang out.

I am proud to admit I don't do this but I know certain girls do.

20.  Steal his hoodie and see if he asks for it back.

Trust me, all girls want their boyfriend's clothes. Yes, I might have 40 hoodies but I want yours.

21.  Sit on the opposite side of the couch to see if he'll scoot towards you.

Again, affection. It's the little things.

22.  Testing him on the conversation you just had to see if he was actually paying attention.

We want to know that you care. And that you're paying attention to us.

23.  Not reminding him of important dates/details to see if he remembers.

Again, pay attention to us.

24.  Asking for their phone to see if they give it to you.

I'm not someone to snoop but I think it's just a sign of good faith if they aren't super protective over their phone. You might not even want to go through it but it's more of a "test."

25.  Telling him you're hanging out with a boy to see if he gets jealous.

Your boyfriend should trust you no matter what.

It's important to note that not everything up there is a test. Sometimes girls do things just because that's how they are. It's not always a test, believe it or not.

On a side note, I want to thank my boyfriend (as I'm sure most girls will after reading this) for putting up with me through my constant crazy moods and behaviors! You're a trooper.

Briana Le
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My Boyfriend Is Deaf, But He's Still A Great Listener

This is what dating my deaf boyfriend has taught me.

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I have heard countless complaints over the years resembling the statement, "My boyfriend is a terrible listener."

Women say this simply to describe how irritating it is when their boyfriends zone out as they are talking about their day or when they simply stare off into space as they try and ask whether they wanna order pizza or Chinese. They may use phrases such as "selective hearing" or compare the likeness of talking to their boyfriend to "talking to a wall."

I must say that I can relate to these women but in a much different way.

My boyfriend is deaf.

I have to say that my boyfriend's deafness has never once been a roadblock for me. If anything, it made me more interested in him. I had zero experience when it came to his deafness. I had many misconceptions of his hearing ability in the beginning. But, overall, it was something that just increased my interest in this kind-hearted, goofy guy. As I started to date this person that sometimes can't help but not listen to me, I realized that his deafness had zero effect on how much I cared for him and how well we worked together.

Unlike some other members of the deaf community, my boyfriend has two cochlear implants. Fun fact: cochlear implants are actually frowned upon throughout the deaf community a lot of times. They are said to remove the individuality that comes with the deaf community and its members. However, and I will admit I am biased, I do not agree and neither does my boyfriend. Cochlear implants assist him in living his life, but that does not mean that every deaf person needs or wants them to live theirs—which is OK. They benefit this person that is very important to me, and that is all that matters in my mind.

While all cases of deafness and implant-users are unique to the individual, my boyfriend had his first implant surgery when he was just 2-years-old. Then, his second when he was 10. I knew cochlear implants existed before I met him, but I had no idea how they worked, which was soon very apparent to myself and him.

Gabby Sheets

So, basically in the simplest terms possible, there are two magnetic receivers implanted in his skull. Then, there is the outer part that holds a circular magnet, a transmitter, and a microphone that magnetizes through his skull and to his actual implant. This, somehow, gives him the ability to hear, and to be fully honest I do not understand how they work. I probably never will. All I know is that he can hear me, which I did not know would necessarily be the case when we first met...

Gabby Sheets

When we first started going out with each other, I definitely had many misconceptions about my boyfriend's hearing, misconceptions that he will tease me about to this day. For example, I thought that I had to look directly at him whenever I spoke. My mistaken logic was that he would have to read my lips in order to understand me. False. Wrong. His implants allow him to hear exactly what I am saying the majority of the time, depending on if he actually is paying attention and how loud I am talking. He can, however, read lips though, which he has to do any time he is not wearing his implants, or like when I knock them out of his head on accident... Woops.

I also, at first, had this hilarious belief that he wouldn't be able to talk to me on the phone. I thought this even after I knew he could hear me in person with practically zero difficulties. It wasn't until he was over at my place visiting me, and I came out of my room to see that he was talking to his mom. On the phone. Because he can, perfectly well. To this day, I cannot explain why I thought he wouldn't be able to speak on the phone. It was my stupid, stupid mistake, and my boyfriend still finds my naivete when it came to his hearing oh so amusing.

All of this comes to show that I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I have confessed to my boyfriend that I was self-conscious at times, simply because I didn't understand. I was terrified to ask the wrong questions and upset him, but then I came to find out that he makes deaf jokes that make me cringe, not him. I was afraid of yanking one of his implants out of his head on accident. I have multiple times now, and it has never once been a big deal. I was self-conscious about hitting a nerve, about something that not only impairs his hearing but his life as a whole.

There was one night, at the beginning of our relationship, where we just sat asking each other questions as new couples commonly do. The question was, "What is your biggest insecurity?"

His answer was his hearing. My answer was my body.

I discovered that there are always times where he will feel insecure because he isn't able to hear like everyone else. However, I love the fact that he isn't like everyone else. I sincerely hope that he realizes that.

But no, I will never be able to truly understand what it is like to be deaf, to have this life-changing impairment, and that's OK.

What I do know is that by dating my boyfriend I have learned this—everybody is insecure about something. Some are insecure about something as superficial as their looks like I am. Then some are insecure about something that affects their entire life, such as my boyfriend with his hearing. It has occurred to me that if my boyfriend can overcome something as life-altering as his deafness then I can overcome body insecurity and many other obstacles in my life now, thanks to him.

I have never met a guy as willing to listen to me and my minuscule problems as my boyfriend. I have never experienced problems in my life as severe as his deafness, but he always makes my problems, thoughts, insecurities, etc. feel validated. He is understanding and considerate. He is reassuring and has a heart of gold, and I continue to be amazed by him each day that we spend together.

So, yes, my boyfriend is deaf, but he most definitely is not a terrible listener. Not at all.

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The 7 Best Restaurants For Valentine's Day Dates In Springfield, Missouri

No matter what you and your date are feeling, the Queen City has something for you.

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Love may be in the air, but so are the smells of some delicious restaurants. Springfield, Missouri is a place I have been lucky to call home for the past three years. And it's full of restaurants of all varieties, perfect for any Valentine—even the pickiest of eaters.

From casual dining to the finer side, Springfield has what you're looking for. By knowing some options besides Olive Garden, you can add a little variety to your dining experience and ensure a happy and romantic evening.

Take a look, build your appetite, and make your reservations early (if you can) so you can treat your date to the evening they deserve.

1. Aviary Cafe & Creperie

The Aviary Cafe is a Springfield favorite. This restaurant is open late, has a full bar, and serves sweet and savory crepes along with other traditional bistro items. The Aviary allows you to make reservations for Valentine's Day and even has a unique menu specifically for the holiday, which includes a pan-seared pork chop, pommes frites, and New York cheesecake made fresh in the bakery.

2. Flame Steakhouse

Flame is a great place to go for a more upscale and expensive Valentine's Day dinner if you're in the mood to wine and dine your date. Rated three dollar signs our of four on Yelp, this steakhouse and wine bar has everything from Alaskan King Crab legs to fresh flash-fried calamari to a dry aged 24 oz Porterhouse steak. This restaurant will no doubt be packed on Valentine's Day, so be sure to make your reservation as soon as possible.

3. Bambinos Italian Cafe

Bambinos Italian Cafe has some of the best Italian food in the Springfield area. Rated "Best Date-Night Dinner" by Missouri State University's newspaper The Standard in 2017 and Best Italian Dining in 2018 by 417 Magazine, this cafe proves it can back up that claim, too. This quaint Italian restaurant has some of the best food the city has to offer from crab cakes and pasta to tiramisu to some house pastas that are to die for. With vegan options, Bambinos is the place for everyone.

4. Druff's

If you're looking for more casual of a dining experience, look no further. Druff's is known for it's incredibly tasty and different sandwiches and soups. For Valentine's Day, though, things are getting a little spiced up at this downtown hot spot. For just $45, you and your Valentine can experience the magic of Druff's with an appetizer, some sandwiches, soups, and a dessert. Make your reservation now, because it's going to be a busy night on Valentine's Day!

5. Metropolitan Grill

On the more expensive side, Metropolitan Grill is sure to make this Valentine's Day a romantic one. If you and your date come here for your evening, be sure to dress the part that this upscale restaurant expects. From pasta to steak to surf and turf, there's plenty of food to choose from. This fine dining experience is a great way to show your Valentine just how much they mean to you.

6. Nakato Japanese Restaurant

Nakato is a Japanese steakhouse and sushi bar that will leave you and your date wanting to come back again and again. With a full bar and a hibachi grill experience like no other, you can have a great evening with food cooked just the way both you and your Valentine like it. Whether you're a sushi fanatic or experiencing it for the first time, Nakato is sure to provide a fun and interactive Valentine's Day experience.

7. Black Sheep Burgers & Shakes

Who says Valentine's Day needs to be steak and wine? Known for their fun alcoholic shakes and crazy burgers, Black Sheep is also filled with some yummy food. If fine dining isn't your style, relax this Valentine's Day with a nice decadent burger and a shake or beer. You don't have to go all out for Valentine's Day to make it a great one, and Black Sheep's burgers won't disappoint.

From burgers to steaks to grilled cheese, Springfield is known for all kinds of foods. With seemingly unending options for your Valentine's Day date, it's fair to say this list is not at all the only restaurants to consider.

The most important thing to remember is that no matter where you and your Valentine go out to eat, make your date special. With the right person, it doesn't even matter if you're eating at Steak 'N Shake or Applebee's. There's a lot of pressure to make Valentine's Day special and perfect, but as long as you think the person you're with is both of those things, you're set.

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