16 Places To Meet Your S.O. That Are NOT Tinder Or Bumble

16 Places To Meet Your S.O. That Are NOT Tinder Or Bumble

Target. I think I've said enough.
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We've all done it.

We've downloaded the dating apps, almost as a rite of passage into the millennial dating culture. After seeing stories with headlines like, “We Met On Tinder And Have Been Dating For Two Years," there's a part of us that can't help but take that leap of faith.

We hold onto that small chance we could meet the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with on an app. As we've all learned, this isn't always the case. After a while, you lose hope and abandon those apps. I don't blame you, there's nothing better than making an authentic, in-person connection. Don't lose hope though, here are some unexpected places to meet that special someone.

1. The gym

I know, I know, probably not the place you come to looking very glamorous, but that doesn't mean you won't run into someone with relationship potential. If anything, you'll find someone to show you how to use that machine you've been wanting to try but haven't yet in fear of looking like a complete idiot.

2. Waiting in line at Starbucks

How many times have you stood in line somewhere absolutely paying no attention whatsoever to what's going on around you because you're so occupied with your phone? No shame, I'll have to raise my hand for this one. But, guess what? You shouldn't be doing that! Your soulmate could be standing right in front of you and you wouldn't even know it because you were checking your ex's Snapchat story.

Just get off your phone, OK?

3. A music festival

While it may seem impossible to meet someone at a place where there's literally thousands of people, you've got to admit, it'd be pretty special if you ran into someone while Kygo was playing “Kids In Love."

4. The grocery store

Yeah, you could meet in Aisle 5 as you're both reaching for the same bottle of coffee creamer. Imagine that. I know, not as exciting, but I'm just trying to be realistic here.

5. A sporting event

Bonus points if he ends up being the guy who explains the entire game to you because you admitted that you actually didn't know anything about the sport when he asked.

6. The DMV

Apparently, this is one of the worst places on Earth, but misery loves company, so why not bond over it together?

7. Target

I think I've said enough.

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8. The airport

If I had my way, I'd meet him at the gate my flight is boarding at and as we're boarding the plane, we'd discover that we're seated right next to each other.

9. The doctor's office waiting room

I'm telling you, any time you find yourself stuck in a room with strangers, take advantage of it. But only if they're cute, ya feel?

10. At a protest

At least this way you know you're both passionate about the same cause.

11. In an Uber

Make sure the Uber driver is at the wedding.

12. In a different country

This one kinda goes along with the airport one, but making a cross-cultural connection is one you will never forget.

13. A laundromat

The only problem is they might see your underwear before the first date.

14. The park

If you're an animal lover, there's a better chance you'll meet someone who has unconditional love for their dog.

15. In an elevator

So awkward, right? But it doesn't have to be, strike up a conversation. You've seriously got nothing to lose, and if it goes downhill, you probably won't ever see this person ever again.

16. Your best friend's wedding

Weddings are a great place to meet someone because everyone is in the mood to celebrate. Yes, you're there to focus on your best friend, but that doesn't mean you can't have some fun of your own.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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