Making ‘Thiccc’ Bodies Trendy Is Really Just An Opportunity To Fat Shame

Making ‘Thiccc’ Bodies Trendy Is Really Just An Opportunity To Fat Shame

“Thicker than a bowl of oatmeal” girls are the new wave and so many are just riding along not seeing the tsunami up ahead.
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Thick girls are in! Great, right? WRONG.

As with everything else, we have screwed this up royally while trying to be advocates and knights in shining armor for the underrepresented. Even when it seems like we’re doing something right, we’re still wrong.

That’s because we’re not addressing the real problem at hand, just pretending to.

There has not been a day where I don’t scroll through Instagram and see a perfectly normal looking (for lack of a better word) woman labeled as plus sized by her company.

Even worse than that, these girls are used as the face of every “plus sized” product. Just like the idea of the token black girl in TV shows, this girl is the modeling industry’s token thick girl.

Thicker than a bowl of oatmeal” girls are the new wave and so many are just riding along not seeing the tsunami up ahead.

The most obvious thing wrong with this is that people have changed the face of thick and with that, its definition. The word has taken on a more positive meaning. Normally, it was a covert way of calling someone fat (other examples of this include big-boned, full-figured, chubby, and curvy). Everybody wants in, and that’s completely fine. Work for the body you want and see the results.

What’s not cool is that while everyone is out getting that coveted “thicc bod,” the ones who’ve always had it are still getting fat-shamed.

In this process of making “thick” OK, the image of it has changed because if we’re being honest with ourselves, we still believe fat is synonymous with ugly.

So we invented a new image.

Thick girls whose thighs jiggle just enough, flat tummies or just a little "pudge," bubble butts, and, more importantly, thick girls who are constantly working to lose that weight but now with the more noble purpose of being active for themselves, not for the image.

Before I go any further, I want it to be clear that there is nothing wrong with people wanting to be healthier or wanting to improve their lifestyles.

What is wrong is forcing people into these lifestyles because you've made them believe that they are not beautiful.

America's favorite pastime lately is pretending to care about fat people. Fat people are constantly attacked on social media by people who hide behind the excuse, "It's for your health." Shaming people is not helping.

I'll say it again: shaming is not helping.

Just as they led us to believe that being a size zero was the only way to go, they are now saying that being "thick" is the only way to be desirable. We must stop letting others define our beauty.

We are not all the same, so we should not all be held to one standard of beauty, especially not one formulated by men. Each and every woman is different and her uniqueness should be valued, not compared to that of other women.

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I Am A Hopeless Romantic Living In A World Where One-Night Stands Are The Norm

It's the little things.

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In today's society, it can certainly start to feel like no one takes love seriously anymore.

Whether it's that one couple who has broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count, the two friends-with-benefits no one can figure out, your local womanizer, or just hookups in general, love and lust are a huge part of specifically college life and culture.

As a hopeless romantic, being part of a generation that "just wants to have fun" can be really frustrating, especially when you just want to find something real. It is so easy for people to put on a fake act just to get what they want and sometimes this can be extremely hard to see through. I'm sure we've all had some kind of incident with someone who played nice but had ulterior motives and the sad truth is that it can be impossible to recognize a person's artificiality.

I am a hopeless romantic.

I have always classified myself as such, and it has remained true. Sure, I can make the most of the freedoms I have as a single college woman, but deep down I just want to find my person.

I've had my fair share of letdowns, and I think we all have, but being a hopeless romantic makes it that much more difficult to get past the "what ifs" and fantasies that come along with starting something with someone new. We may already have our hearts set on a person when they decide they've gotten what they wanted and leave.

For me, I find myself caught up in the little things that someone does. I have always been someone who picks up on small details in situations, and sometimes this works against me.

I pick up on the small facial expressions that he may not even realize he is making; the ones that tell you when their guard has been let down, even just for a split second.

I pick up on the way he sits our two cellphones side by side on the nightstand, taking care to line them up perfectly as if that's just their spot.

I pick up on the short moments of laughter where he actually lets himself laugh and forgets about the act.

I pick up on things, and sometimes I end up hurting because of it.

When it comes down to it, though, I wouldn't change the way that I am. I wouldn't change the fact that I find myself in the search for more in a society that mostly only offers me less.

The trait that tends to hurt me most is also the one that I value most. Even if noticing all the little things is something that contributes to my own heartache, I love those moments. There is something beautiful about those tiny things shared by two people, even if the connection ends there.

Sure, it can be hard. But so can everything.

It's just a matter of finding the beauty.

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Dedicate Your Summer To Bettering Yourself For Yourself, Not Your Ex

Why waste energy on an ex who doesn't care about you anymore?

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I'm single for the summer (yet again, no shock there) but this summer there's something in the air that just feels different. It's the feeling of true acceptance of my single status.

Last summer I was single when I really didn't want to be. My heart with still holding out for a guy who wasn't interested in anything more than my friendship. It took me from late March all the way until Halloween to get over those feelings. However, while working through those tough feelings that summer, I came to enjoy my time on my own and not talking to anyone except my best friends. I didn't have to worry about when I'd get a text back, or if I'd be left on read, or who he'd be out with since I wasn't around. The only thing I needed to worry about was my paychecks and tan lines.

Sometimes after breaking things off with someone who you put so much effort into, whether it was a boyfriend, an almost relationship, or even a friend with benefits, it's easy to want to show off on social media and make them regret ever hurting you or ending things. Why? It's a nice little ego boost, sure, but after those few seconds of glee from the fact that you know they've seen and maybe even liked your picture or your tweet, or saw your story on Snapchat, do you still feel happy? No, you go right back to feeling like crap, whether you want to admit it or not. Stop making yourself all about them when that ship has sailed and start being all about you.

Your ex is off doing their own thing, maybe thinking about you, but obviously not enough to want you back in their life the way you used to be. They are probably out there finding a new person to take your spot because they don't have you at their beck and call anymore. If they're also showing off to show you how much better they are without you or to make you jealous...why are you still following them or still participating in this sick little game for attention? Grow up and block them so you don't have to keep seeing their posts, or be adult enough to stop if you're doing the same as well. If it's only you posting, chances are you just look stupid, so stop before you really embarrass yourself. I was that person, and I know first hand how embarrassed I am for acting the way I did.

Summer is synonymous for doing whatever the hell you want. Wear what you want, say what you want, and be the best version of yourself that only a high dose of Vitamin D can bring out. Your ex is an ex for many reasons. You have to set aside the summer for you and what benefits you only. Don't concern yourself with an ex who doesn't care in the least about you anymore. Coming from someone who posted thirst traps aimed at a specific person along with countless shady AF stories on Snap and Insta in the hopes that this one person and their friends would see it, just stop and save yourself the energy as well as regret.

We're all adults, it's time to stop the petty posts and photos. Post your thirst trap for yourself because you're a sexy queen who doesn't need anyone but herself. Once you start focusing on yourself this summer, instead of your ex, you'll realize just have great it feels to truly be free.

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