Sorry, But If You Propose On My Wedding Day, You're Getting Cut Off

Sorry, But If You Propose On My Wedding Day, You're Getting Cut Off

There are 365 days in the year and you had to pick THAT one?

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I know this may sound ridiculous to some people, but I've wanted to get married since I was a little kid. I loved everything that it represented. Although I could never fully picture or dream up what my wedding would specifically look like (besides various Pinterest board ideas), I wanted that lifetime love and commitment more than anything.

It goes without saying that all of my closest friends know how important marriage is for me. Knowing my perspective on marriage is a key aspect of understanding who I am as a person. I've changed in a number of ways over the years, but that one quality has been unyielding.

Recently, I've seen countless videos on Instagram and Twitter of people proposing on someone else's wedding day. And every time I see them, I think the same thing.

There are 365 days in the year and you had to pick THAT one?

Kudos to the brides and grooms who were nice enough to allow that, but that kind of thing is not going to fly at my wedding.

All of the love and attention from friends and family should be directed towards the happy couple.

If you decide to propose on my wedding day, you: 1) never paid attention during the deep and personal conversations that we had, 2) don't know me well enough to know why it would hurt me so much, or 3) are just plain selfish. Regardless of the reason, it's an unforgivable offense.

Yes, the simple act of a proposal would ruin my wedding.

I'm only going to get married once. I only get one day for that. A day that I've been anticipating for over a decade and a half. A day that I'm going to spend thousands of dollars planning. A day that I've been hoping and praying would be perfect because I'm going to remember it for the rest of my life.

That's a pretty big deal, right?

I know that there could be meaning behind a proposal on a wedding day. The whole "wedding process" started with an engagement. The wedding is the grand finale. So by proposing on someone's wedding day, you're kind of rekindling the wedding process again. A circle of life — circle of love, so to speak.

But I don't think that's cute, ESPECIALLY if it goes against a bride's wishes. I would even call that tacky and thoughtless.

To put it simply, receiving a wedding invitation should feel like an honor. The bride and groom are allowing you to come to their ceremony. And by RSVPing, you're acknowledging that you'll show your full support and be on your best behavior.

So please show me enough respect to wait at least a day before getting on one knee.

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I Married My High School Sweetheart, And In Hindsight, It Really Was The Best Decision

From graduation gown to wedding bands.

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I married my high school sweetheart when I was nineteen, going on twenty.

We had been out of high school for a year. And you probably think that's crazy, or as most people believe, we were too young to get married. While most of my friends from high school were getting alcohol poisoning from doing kegstands at a college frat party or picking out dorm room furniture, I was a newlywed. Everyone goes their different ways after high school, and so did I, mine was just different than most. I had decided to marry the guy who stole my heart throughout my last years of high school.

I met my husband when I was sixteen working my first job.

We went to homecoming, football games, and prom together. We walked across the same stage, the same day on graduation. And instead of going into adulthood alone, I got to give it a go with my best friend.

Many of my friends and family didn't understand us getting married so early.

They thought we were crazy, and maybe we were, but we had found something many people spend so much time looking for, and that was true love, as corny as it sounds. But as many people my age spend this time searching for someone to spend their life with, we had already achieved that part of our lives, and now planning a future together.

We've heard it all, the whole "you'll regret getting married young" speech, that I'm too young to know what love is or that I didn't give myself enough time outside of high school to meet other people. I'm a firm believer that if something or someone makes you happy, you seize that feeling. And I had found someone incredibly special who made me feel just as special.

Don't get me wrong, we've struggled, especially with a husband being active duty military.

You don't get married at twenty and not struggle learning the ways of becoming an adult. But every problem we have faced, we faced together as a team. We have got to witness each other do amazing things so far in life like promotions at jobs or ace projects in college, as well as watching each other grow as individuals and as a couple. As a young couple, we still chase our own dreams, we just support one another along the way.

I am now twenty-three, and I have been married to my best friend for three years.

We have a beautiful daughter who is eighteen months old. We are achieving so much more than we could imagine for ourselves and there is no one else I would rather be doing it with.

With high school in the past, and being married with our own little family forming, I don't regret one thing. If anything I wish I was still as gutsy as teenage me. It's been worth every up and down along our journey and I can't wait to see what the next fifty years hold.

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If I Get Married, I Don't Need An Offical Wedding

You can't run from the altar if you weren't at one to begin with.

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Last week, my mom got remarried. I'm super happy for her, and I know she's with a great guy, and all of my friends that knew were so excited. The one question I got asked the most was: when's the wedding? To which I responded: I have no clue. My mom has already had one wedding, and for her, that was more than enough. So, they went and got the documents signed (or whatever needs to be done) at the courthouse when they went on a super cool vacation to California, instead of paying for some big ceremony and/or a reception.

Honestly, I kind of see the appeal of it. As I've gotten older, I've definitely become less feminine, and if you don't see me wearing pants, I'm either at a swim meet or had to dress nicely for a banquet or presentation. Therefore, down the road, if I ever decide to get married, I don't think I'd want any sort of wedding.

My first issue would be the dress, of course. People on shows such as Say Yes to the Dress are willing to spend thousands of dollars for a dress that they wear for one day of their lives. Personally, I'd rather spend that kind of money going on a really dope vacation, or putting it towards saving up for a house, car, or some other expensive purchase.

Next issue: wedding receptions. I've only been to a couple weddings before, but it seems like it would be so stressful to try and plan how many of your close family and friends would be allowed to come to watch you get married, and then pay for a massive party to celebrate it. I know I would want a small group of people but at the same time I know I'd want as many of my friends there as possible. Why deal with the stress of seating arrangements and picking meals and deciding whether or not to have an open bar when you can just avoid the problem altogether?

Last major issue: I'm not really religious. None of my immediate family has ever been the type to go to church or be super involved in any specific religion, and so I've grown up not really having a church I attend, or any particular desire to start going to church. Since most weddings are in churches, I don't think I'd ever really feel right to have an important ceremony like that in a place that doesn't really have any significance to me when I could just go to a courthouse and save the time.

That being said if whoever I did decide to marry wanted a more official ceremony or to do it in a church, I would be open to reconsidering. Marriage and relationships and general work based on compromise, and I would like to believe I'd be willing to do some of these things if it truly made my significant other happier.

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