You Don't Need To Be A Psych Major To Use These 10 Psychological Tactics On Your Crush
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If you've ever struggled on how to seal the deal with your crush, here are 10 psychological tactics to use to make it happen.

Just a disclaimer, obviously you can't force someone to like you, but we're doing, it's just encouraging. Try working some of your own magic with these 10 psychological tricks to make your crush like you back:

1. Say their name when speaking to them

OKAY, obviously do not overdo it but speaking someone's name is a quick and easy way to foster their attention. Our bodies are trained to look in the direction our name is spoken. Even if we're already in a conversation hearing our name stimulates a need to pay closer attention to you, this then snowballs into paying more attention to you in general, into a potential crush.

When used correctly, it can produce chills. Plus, people who do this are often described as charismatic!

Another way to use this is by raising your hand to agree with someone in class. Try waiting for a few hands and then when your crush has forgotten what they have even said raise your hand and say "I agree with what X said because ...," this move will perk their attention back to the lesson and back to you and they'll remember you thought highly of what they said.

2. Play a little copy cat

This trick is solely based on mirroring—or as psychologists like to call it, the "chameleon effect."

People are drawn to people like them, whether is be looking similar, liking the same things, or even acting similarly. If you laugh at the same things, they may take notice or even sitting in the same position. So copy their body language, gestures, and facial expressions. If they cross their legs, cross yours. If they drink some water, drink some water also. The effects may be astounding.

3. Try wearing red

The color red is easily associated with a strong sexuality, positive energy, and taking action. Studies have discovered people are more likely to be drawn to people wearing that color. Who knew our crushes could be solely based on the color of someone's shirts. It's really starting to make me re-think some of the deadbeats I 'liked' in high school.

4. Play easy, then hard to get

Playing "hard to get" is an art, and let's be honest can be the downfall of a lot of flirtationships.

The trick is to begin with showing interest, ask them about themselves, maintain eye contact, laugh at their jokes.

If you don't, you risk looking standoffish and cold.

Then once you've created a pleasant bond and interaction, begin showing interest less and less. When you see them just wave hi or smile, but don't go out of your way to have a conversation and if they speak to you make it short and sweet and then say you have somewhere to be.

People value and desire what is rare and difficult to obtain, so make yourself difficult to obtain.

5. Tell a funny story

But make sure it's actually funny first. Comedians are just memorable, it's a fact and you'll be more likely remembered if you make them laugh. Humor eases negative thoughts and makes others feel more comfortable so try telling a funny story, maybe with a hint of vulnerability and you will increase their interest for sure.

6. Take it from the chick flicks, clumsiness works

It's true and you've probably seen it often depicted in movies…when a girl suddenly drops an armful of books and a handsome boy appears out of the blue to aid her.

We tend to offer aid when another person is observed alone under hardship. Try dropping a book or two, or even stumbling up some stairs close enough they can help you, smile, make eye contact, and thank them. This trick reveals that you aren't perfect makes you seem more relatable and vulnerable to others.

And makes for a perfect way to start up a conversation later by re-thanking them for all their help.

7. Adrenaline boost and chill?

When you participate in adrenaline-boosting activities, like riding roller coasters, with another person your bodies release endorphins that create a natural high. This natural high makes you feel all sorts of good things, all sorts of good things you displace on the person sitting next to you. So next time your crush gets on a roller coaster, make sure the person sitting next to them is you.

8. Be confident, or fake it till you make it

Having confidence is the key to attracting people and I know it's harder than it looks. My first tip, compliment yourself every morning, smile often, and compliment your friends and family every morning. It's simple, self-love, endorphins, and tribe love, just try it.

Having confidence makes you stand out. Now I am not saying self-conscious people are unworthy, their not. I'm plenty self-conscious but I have dug deep to find that I am most confident when I'm hype-ing up my best friends, when I am talking about animals, and when I am talking about travel. So, whenever I feel myself getting self-conscious I find a way to work my confidence boosters into when I am doing whether it be complimenting a friend or working animals or travel into the conversation.

Find your confidence boosters and pursue them and then people will naturally want to pursue you!

9. Compliment them!

This seems pretty basic, right? That's cause it is! Something even cooler though, people associate the adjectives you use to describe other people with your own personality! What?!

So if you describe someone as sweet and caring, they will associate you with these qualities as well. So if you describe them as these qualities they will not only be flattered but also like damn, you're sweet and caring too. What a win-win.

10. Coffee dates > Ice Cream Dates

Ok, so they've agreed to go on a date with you? Now, where to? It's weird but people may associate the temperature with the person they're spending time with.

Often, people that are cold, or holding cold things are more likely to perceive the people around them to have cold personalities and the experience to be just meh whereas people in relatively warm temperature and holding warmer drinks will perceive the personality of the person they're with to be warm and kind.

So, ditch the ice cream cones and go for a toasty date instead.


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5 Questions To Ask Yourself When You're On The Fence With A Guy

Is he worth it?

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Whether you're contemplating if you want to continue your fling with a guy or contemplating breaking up with your boyfriend, there are always questions we're asking ourselves. Ranging from "is this right of me?" to "is this what will make me happy?" But if you are really sitting on the fence and don't know what to do next, check out these five questions you need to ask yourself if you're torn on what to do.

1. Do I want long term or short term?

This is a huge question to ask. If you're looking to settle down for a while, your guy may not want that. And it could always be the other way around as well. Make sure to decipher this with him so you both know what you want and no one gets a broken heart.

2. Can I see myself marrying this person?

I know this is a bold question to ask, especially if you're not dating. But really thinking about if you can see yourself with them for a long time can make it or break it. But say you're dating and you're on the fence of deciding you want to break up with them or not, think about if you can see yourself saying "I do" to them, and if you can't, let him go.

3. Can I see myself living with them/how do they live?

I've seen many people get engaged and move in together and later call it quits due to the way their partner lived. If you've been getting to know your guy for a while now and notices he lives like a pig, you may have to wonder if you'd be cleaning up those messes in the future.

4. How do they make me feel?

This question in a no brainer. If they make you feel bad, why even question continuing into the relationship.

5. Are they worth it?

Is he worth it? I know I have had some experiences when I was on the fence with a couple of guys and I've had to ask myself the same question. And when I'd question if he was worth it or not, my gut feeling always came out right. If you're looking to keep him around, always ask yourself if he's worth it.

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Girls, You NEED To Understand That Fuckboy Texting You ‘wyd’ 24/7 Will Never Give You A 24 Karat Ring

I finally managed to crack the code as to why your casual hookup will never try to make you his wife.

Elle Hong
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There are five unofficial steps of hookup culture: Find a guy. Get to know him a little bit, but not too much (because you have to keep "boundaries," remember?) Make a pact to keep things "casual" and promise to still be "friends" with each other. Then, hookup with him. And keep hooking up with him without any emotional attachment — just over and over again and never expect anything more.

From a birds eye view, hookup culture seems so harmless. I mean, what's more convenient than having a booty call at your doorstep with the swipe of a screen? When you want to hook up, all you have to do is shoot that 2 a.m. "U Up?" text.

Hell, I even wrote a whole article about the perfect FWB situation.

Yet suddenly—here I am, Elle Hong, resident "Uncuffed" writer on Swoon and self proclaimed fuckgirl who glorifies hookup culture above anything else, catching feelings and falling for the wrong guys just like any other girl out in the world.

Consider this blasphemy. Or maybe I'm just dying to make a confession.

A confession that I, too, have experienced the feeling of wondering why I was never enough for the guys I hooked up with. Why they never chose me over the girls they would eventually form serious relationships with and why to them I only was nothing more than a casual hookup.

So, I thought about it. I critically analyzed it. I "Aristotle-d" my way into trying to find an answer behind the impossible question of wondering why I was never considered to be anything more. Over the past few weeks, it essentially became my new research topic and now, I finally managed to crack the code as to why your casual hookup will never try to make you into wifey material. Here's why.

First and foremost: Guys usually (but not always) choose to hookup with girls who they don't see as anything more.

Now, keep in mind I'm not saying that guys will NEVER fall in love with the girls they hookup with because it can happen. It's life. Life is unpredictable. No doubt, people have fallen in love on Tinder and married a random match who just happened to become The One. But we all know what Tinder is really for. Generally speaking, guys will seek random hookups with the types of girls they think are "easy" and if they're desperate enough, it's definitely not going to be someone they view as their future wife.

If he thinks you're cute, you're within 10 miles radius and you can hold a conversation, it doesn't matter what your annual salary is or how many siblings you got—he wants one thing and it's to get you in bed. And until a guys find this girl who captures his heart and inevitably makes him want to settle, he's going to go around hooking up with random girls left and right. So in this case, it's not your fault. You're just with the wrong type of guy who only thinks of you as his sexual conquest.

See also: Guys want to settle with girls that don't go around hooking up with other people.

Ironic as hell because I just talked about why guys would never want to settle, period. But think about it—guys are humans with rational thoughts and animalistic desires. When they find their territory, they mark it. Once he finds a girl who is the one, he never wants to let her go. And he never wants to see that girl be with another guy or god forbid, go around hooking up with other guys. So here's the moral of the story to get my point across: I hate to break it to you, but bragging about how many other guys you're f*cking outside of your current FWB situationship isn't going to help develop the relationship any further.

Finally: A girl's "hoe phase" might seem empowering but for guys they see it as a threat.

Thanks to the wonderful millennial encyclopedia that we call Urban Dictionary, we have a definition behind this certain life style: A phase in life which occurs when a girl goes around social settings exploring herself, committing promiscuous acts and connecting with random people. For girls, it seems pretty damn empowering, doesn't it? For us it's a chance to let loose, to live a lil bit more and to run around as independent women. Nothing wrong with that of course.

But for guys to perceive this type of lifestyle, they see it as a threat which could arise if they form a relationship with you. It's simple logic here. A girl who's in her "hoe phase" is more likely to be unfaithful since they're always out and about with this person and that person. Put it this way: a guy doesn't care if you're a hoe—but he only wants you to be HIS hoe and not everyone else's. So you might think that it's a great way to express yourself and to enjoy your college years, but keep in mind that it could possibly be holding you back from taking the next step with your casual FWB.

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