11 Reasons Why Long Distance Couples Have The Strongest Relationships

11 Reasons Why Long Distance Couples Have The Strongest Relationships

If you love something, let it go. If it returns, it's yours.
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Different cities, different countries, or even different sides of the globe. I’ve done all of those and let’s be clear there's no sugarcoating it: Long-distance relationships are tough. A phone call or Skype screen is never as good as the real deal. Whether you’re in the middle of it right now, or you will face it for a semester abroad next year, there’s no denying that long-distance relationships are challenging.

However, it can make the bond between you and your second half even stronger! I can tell you this from experience: living apart from each other can make you emotionally stronger, will bring out the strength in your relationship and could actually help in securing your relationship!

1. You learn how to be individuals

Of course you want to spend time with your partner, but even the healthiest relationship needs some breathing room. See the time apart as opportunity to secure your own identity rather than having your happiness dependent on your partner. Use the time you’re not together to find freedom in being independent and find a new hobby: learn to play basketball, take painting lessons, or sign up for a photography class!

2. You truly learn how to talk to one another

When you’re physically together, it’s much easier to just cuddle up in front of the TV instead of taking the effort and have that conversation you might otherwise put off. Since your relationship primarily consists of video and phone calls, you have plenty of practice expressing yourself and talking about things you’re excited about, but also about your fears and anxieties. Another plus: you also become good listeners!

3. You're always looking forward to something

While a regular relationship can become repetitive and monotonous, days of long-distance couples are often exciting and unpredictable. It’s hard to be apart, but this also means that you’re always looking forward to the next reunion and surprising each other with a handwritten letter, a card or a new idea for the future!

4. You know what’s really worth fighting about

If you have the possibility to be with each other every day, it gets super easy to get into little fights about trivial things. But being with someone who lives in a different city, country, or time zones, requires you to really think about what needs to be squabbled about. You learn to let go and forgive!

5. You appreciate the little moments

When you cannot be with your partner 24/7, you learn to appreciate the little things in a relationship just as much as the big ones. Nothing is healthier and better for a relationship than that. You start to take nothing for granted and be grateful for all the little moments you two have together.

6. You have the opportunity to travel

Obviously, the frequency of travel is always dependent on distance, work, and finances. However, by definition, long-distance relationships signify that you have to travel to see each other. Take this as chance to get excited about the places you meet, whether it is the place one of you is living in or whether it is a totally new place for both of you!

7. You truly appreciate each other

When you and your partner live apart, every memory you have of each other becomes so much more important. Everything that connects you becomes something special you hold on to and makes you learn to appreciate them even more.

8. You have a stronger sense of trust

No matter if long-distance or not, trust is an essential factor in any relationship. Still, when you are in a situation where you see your second half maybe once a month or less, a solid foundation of trust is indispensable. If this relationship is meant to be, you quickly learn how to have faith in each other and how to count on each other.

9. You are honest about your relationship

A regular relationship requires a lot of work. A long-distance relationship involves even more coordination, sacrifices and good will – saving money for flights, knowing each other’s schedules, asking for days off, coordinating the time for calls (which gets especially tricky when you are in different time zones, like me right now). So you can’t help but end up reflecting on your relationship and asking yourself if you see a future with this person. And if you are willing to fly hundreds of miles to be with each other for forty-eight hours, then you know how strong your relationship is.

10. You value priceless time

Those of you who have been in a long-distance relationship know: Those last twenty minutes before one of you has to get on the train or catch a flight are usually some of the most intense and special moments you’ll ever experience as a couple. As memorable as they are, they will make you value your partner’s return even more. Nothing makes you as happy and joyful as seeing him or her again. And when you do see them, it’s like the most precious moment you can imagine.

11. Your hearts grow fonder

While it’s true that being apart is rough, new research argues that absence might truly make the heart grow fonder. A study published in the “Journal of Communication” found that couples in long distance relationships were more likely to share deeper issues – such as love, trust and future plans – and have more meaningful interactions than those who see each other daily. The study by L. Crystal Jiang and Jeffrey T. Hancock discovered that due to fewer daily face-to-face interactions when living apart, those interactions were longer, more expressive and more meaningful.

So here is to long-distance relationships, as they teach us, make us aware and give us the possibility to be truly grateful for what we have. Yes, being apart from each other is tough, but let us transform this sadness into power and use it to strengthen the relationship we have!

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11 Things The Man You Love Should Do For You, No Questions Asked

Sometimes it's just the simple things in life that mean a lot.

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Every girl feels special when the guy she's dating does simple things for her that not everyone thinks about. Here's a list of 10 things that every girl genuinely appreciates.

1. Open/Hold the door

I feel like this one is really simple because everyone has to walk through doors. Chivalry isn't dead, let him open the door for you. He's not trying to prove that you can't do it for yourself, but he's trying to be polite and show you that he cares for you.

2. Give you really big hugs

Everyone has bad days, and sometimes you just need a really big hug. Whether it be a bear hug or the hug where he picks you up and spins you around, it will make you feel better in the long run.

3. Buy you really small gifts

One of the best things my boyfriend has ever done for me is simply bringing me a Dr. Pepper when he knows I'm tired from a long hard day full of exams or work. Sonic slushes will also make my day in a heartbeat.

4. Text/Call you just to tell you he loves you

This is pretty simple. It takes less than 10 seconds to text, and only a few minutes to call. Sometimes you get these texts right at the perfect moment, and it makes you feel so much better.

5. Come see you when you're sick

Everyone hates being sick. But seeing your friends and family while you're sick can make you feel so much better. Having your boyfriend come to see you and possibly even take care of you just makes being sick that much easier.

6. Respect your decisions

You're not married yet, so your decisions are up to you! He should respect the decisions you make and support you, even if it's not what he thinks is the best decision. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else!

7. Give you a shoulder to cry on

We all have bad days, and sometimes you just can't stop the tears from coming. Even if he's not good with crying, he should give you hugs and love to help you get through it.

8. Compliment you

Even if you look horrible and know so, hopefully, he'll still tell you that you look good. Even if the clothes you're wearing aren't his style, he should still tell you that they look good on you and that you are beautiful each and every day.

9. Call you when you're away or he's away

If you're like me, I miss my boyfriend after being away for about three hours, so when we're apart for more than a couple days, I love getting random calls from him when he knows I'm not busy. It's definitely better than a text.

10. Deal with all your annoying quirks

So if you're anything like me, you enjoy screaming music as loudly and horribly as you can in the car and making a complete fool of yourself, but he should love you for that anyway. I also love to take really stupid pictures, and he should put up with that too. He shouldn't be annoyed by your quirks, he should love them and laugh along with you.

11. Love you no matter what

I honestly feel like this goes without saying, but I put it on here so that the girls who don't feel like they're being loved no matter what can realize. He should want to work out problems with you instead of calling it quits and holding a grudge. He should want you to be happy and support you in every decision you make in life. When he loves you unconditionally, he will do all of the above things and more.

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If You View Being In A Relationship As 'Losing Your Freedom,' You’re In The Wrong Relationship

Someone had to say it.

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Relationships are about being the best possible version of yourself separate and together. They're about growing with and doing life alongside your partner. They're fun, loving, and granted, they can sometimes be challenging.

Some challenges that frequently come up in relationships are disagreements (which are for sure gonna happen, because you're two individual people!), dealing with stress, and depending on where you're at in life, it could also be financial struggles. Of course, all relationships are going to have problems and everything won't always be “rainbows and butterflies" as Maroon 5 like to put it.

That being said though, one challenge that shouldn't ever be an issue in a relationship is the loss of freedom. Where did this idea come from?

I see it all the time, people talking about not wanting to get into a relationship because they don't want to "lose their freedom".

If you are in a relationship which causes you to lose your freedom, you are 100% in the wrong relationship.

Being in a relationship is not synonymous with not being able to be yourself or be able to do what you want. In a good relationship, you will be able to still have your alone time, be your own person, hang out with your friends, the list goes on and on. All of these things are so important. Relationships should never consume your life, they should complement it.

Why is this even a conversation we need to be having? Seriously.

Now obviously if you're referring to losing the option of getting with other people or dating around, then yes, you're right, you absolutely shouldn't get into a relationship... but that doesn't mean relationships mean losing your freedom.

If you are in a relationship with someone you love and respect, getting with other people isn't even going to be on your radar. It truly is that simple.

The trend of hating on relationships, for this reason, has gotten so out of hand in recent years, especially on social media. It's so frustrating, though, because it could not be any more inaccurate.

You should absolutely still have freedom in relationships. You can have it. I for one absolutely have it and do not view my relationship as the loss of freedom, at all. If you don't, maybe evaluate that relationship and realize it's not the best one to be in.

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