11 Reasons Why Long Distance Couples Have The Strongest Relationships

11 Reasons Why Long Distance Couples Have The Strongest Relationships

If you love something, let it go. If it returns, it's yours.

Different cities, different countries, or even different sides of the globe. I’ve done all of those and let’s be clear there's no sugarcoating it: Long-distance relationships are tough. A phone call or Skype screen is never as good as the real deal. Whether you’re in the middle of it right now, or you will face it for a semester abroad next year, there’s no denying that long-distance relationships are challenging.

However, it can make the bond between you and your second half even stronger! I can tell you this from experience: living apart from each other can make you emotionally stronger, will bring out the strength in your relationship and could actually help in securing your relationship!

1. You learn how to be individuals

Of course you want to spend time with your partner, but even the healthiest relationship needs some breathing room. See the time apart as opportunity to secure your own identity rather than having your happiness dependent on your partner. Use the time you’re not together to find freedom in being independent and find a new hobby: learn to play basketball, take painting lessons, or sign up for a photography class!

2. You truly learn how to talk to one another

When you’re physically together, it’s much easier to just cuddle up in front of the TV instead of taking the effort and have that conversation you might otherwise put off. Since your relationship primarily consists of video and phone calls, you have plenty of practice expressing yourself and talking about things you’re excited about, but also about your fears and anxieties. Another plus: you also become good listeners!

3. You're always looking forward to something

While a regular relationship can become repetitive and monotonous, days of long-distance couples are often exciting and unpredictable. It’s hard to be apart, but this also means that you’re always looking forward to the next reunion and surprising each other with a handwritten letter, a card or a new idea for the future!

4. You know what’s really worth fighting about

If you have the possibility to be with each other every day, it gets super easy to get into little fights about trivial things. But being with someone who lives in a different city, country, or time zones, requires you to really think about what needs to be squabbled about. You learn to let go and forgive!

5. You appreciate the little moments

When you cannot be with your partner 24/7, you learn to appreciate the little things in a relationship just as much as the big ones. Nothing is healthier and better for a relationship than that. You start to take nothing for granted and be grateful for all the little moments you two have together.

6. You have the opportunity to travel

Obviously, the frequency of travel is always dependent on distance, work, and finances. However, by definition, long-distance relationships signify that you have to travel to see each other. Take this as chance to get excited about the places you meet, whether it is the place one of you is living in or whether it is a totally new place for both of you!

7. You truly appreciate each other

When you and your partner live apart, every memory you have of each other becomes so much more important. Everything that connects you becomes something special you hold on to and makes you learn to appreciate them even more.

8. You have a stronger sense of trust

No matter if long-distance or not, trust is an essential factor in any relationship. Still, when you are in a situation where you see your second half maybe once a month or less, a solid foundation of trust is indispensable. If this relationship is meant to be, you quickly learn how to have faith in each other and how to count on each other.

9. You are honest about your relationship

A regular relationship requires a lot of work. A long-distance relationship involves even more coordination, sacrifices and good will – saving money for flights, knowing each other’s schedules, asking for days off, coordinating the time for calls (which gets especially tricky when you are in different time zones, like me right now). So you can’t help but end up reflecting on your relationship and asking yourself if you see a future with this person. And if you are willing to fly hundreds of miles to be with each other for forty-eight hours, then you know how strong your relationship is.

10. You value priceless time

Those of you who have been in a long-distance relationship know: Those last twenty minutes before one of you has to get on the train or catch a flight are usually some of the most intense and special moments you’ll ever experience as a couple. As memorable as they are, they will make you value your partner’s return even more. Nothing makes you as happy and joyful as seeing him or her again. And when you do see them, it’s like the most precious moment you can imagine.

11. Your hearts grow fonder

While it’s true that being apart is rough, new research argues that absence might truly make the heart grow fonder. A study published in the “Journal of Communication” found that couples in long distance relationships were more likely to share deeper issues – such as love, trust and future plans – and have more meaningful interactions than those who see each other daily. The study by L. Crystal Jiang and Jeffrey T. Hancock discovered that due to fewer daily face-to-face interactions when living apart, those interactions were longer, more expressive and more meaningful.

So here is to long-distance relationships, as they teach us, make us aware and give us the possibility to be truly grateful for what we have. Yes, being apart from each other is tough, but let us transform this sadness into power and use it to strengthen the relationship we have!

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin


Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.


The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.


Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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