26 Signs You Have Been With Your Significant Other For A Long Time

26 Signs You Have Been With Your Significant Other For A Long Time

Weird--and not so weird--things that are part of being together for a while.


No relationship is perfect. Relationships are work that take time and trust to build. And if you've been with someone long enough, you'll have learned all of these things about them.

1. You know their middle names.

Along with what family member they were named after.

2. You know a fight is not the end of the relationship.

Sometimes you just need to take a step back and think about the issue, rather than immediately acting on it.

3. You have definitely farted or burped in front of them.

With pizza and drinks, this is bound to happen.

4. They have seen you when you are sick.

They will also forgive you for that one time you puked in their dorm their junior year (sorry).

5. You now have a weird mix of music on your phone from both of your tastes combining.

Going from Jason Aldean, to Drake, to Metallica makes for a wild ride.

6. You have tried new foods because they like them.

I tried sushi for him and actually liked it. I will never like mustard though.

7. An ideal date is just laying in bed all Saturday.

Netflix and BBC documentaries? Hell yes.

8. You have sometimes, in utter desperation, shared a toothbrush.

"Hey, you haven't been feeling sick in the last week right?".

9. They have a toothbrush at your place.

Hopefully not the same color.

10. You have "borrowed" their deodorant.

Hey, I like Old Spice!

11. You have a set list of restaurants that have been thrown into a rotation.

Chipotle, the local Chinese place, and the local Italian place are all good contenders.

12. They have seen you cry.

Over both puppies and internal struggles.

13. They know your favorite drinks.

Wether it is alcohol or soda, they know what they can order for you ahead of time.

14. You know each other's Starbucks order.

A Venti Iced Skinny Vanilla Latte with two extra shots of espresso.

15. You have picked up their prescriptions.

Thanks for picking up my birth control and anti-acids.

16. You have animals together.

Dogs, cats, rats, or guinea pigs, they are your fur babies.

17. You know their preference for toilet paper, paper towels, and soap.

They also do not mess with this delicate balance, knowing it will through you off.

18. You watch their movies, and they watch yours. Even though it might not be your cup of tea.

You may not like Star Wars, and they may not like horror movies. However, you both will watch them together as long as there is snacks.

19. They have met most of your friends.

Even that one that's not really your friend, but you kind of hang out with sometimes.

20. They have seen you when you're grumpy.

You maybe just woke up from a nap or had a hard day at work, but they know what to do.

21. It is always a challenge deciding what times and days you are going over to each other's family's houses for the holidays.

"So if we go over your dad's for Halloween, we have to go over my dad's for Thanksgiving, your mom's for Christmas Eve, and my mom's for Christmas. That'll work, right?"

22. You can spend time apart, but also enjoy loads of time together.

You don't panic waiting for them to get home from being out with their friends, but you can't wait to see them.

23. They know what your pet peeves are, even though they sometimes forget (leaving the toilet seat up).

Nobody is perfect, but how hard is it to leave the toilet seat down?

24. You have a collection of each other's clothes.

When they ask where their sweatshirt is, you have to dig it out of your closet.

25. You have had random adventures together.

Random beach trips or hiking for the day, and just forgetting about everything temporarily.

26. You have plans for the future together.

You have a few apartments marked off for one day.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin


Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.


The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.


Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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