How To Handle Yourself If People Constantly Gossip About Your Relationship
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How To Handle Yourself If People Are Constantly Gossiping About Your Relationship

Imagine how Kimye feels?

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How To Handle Yourself If People Are Constantly Gossiping About Your Relationship

People adore love and breathe for gossip, drama, entertainment, so it's only predictable—maybe even natural—that your friends and others will rumor about your intimate relationship. As admirers of celebrities, we always poke at the romances of recently confirmed Channing Tatum and Jessie J or shocking Scott Disick and Sofia Richie or idealized John Legend and Chrissy Teigen.

Yet, this isn't fair.

Imagine how Kimye feels? They're just an ordinary couple who yearns for privacy. Well, Kimye thrives on attention, so bad example, but you get the point: you and your relationship deserve freedom from interference of friendly, yet pestering, and possibly jealous commentators.

"Gossip is like a 'forest fire.'" (Donny Thomas Kurien)

Your friends tend to insert themselves into your love life all the time, especially when you're constantly sharing posts on social media. Yet, there are so many components to a romantic relationship that aren't shared, aren't known by the public, and are quite frankly, none of anyone else's beeswax. But, people still gossip.

No matter the fact that drama and the spread of rumors ruin friendships. My ex-suitemate moved out last year and, yes, you guessed it—the arguments all started from relationship whispers. Quarrels over the relationship being stupid, petty, baseless, etc. She couldn't take it anymore and our friend group blew up. After a sequence of depleting occurrences, people chose sides, secrets were disclosed, false accusations were made, and trust was betrayed. And to think it all started with a pair of friends tittle-tattling about the artificial aura of someone else's relationship.

However, it's important to remain sensible when others impede on your privacy. Freaking out on your friends, creating a scene, throwing food, tables, and chairs won't solve the issue.

Remember that you are in control.

"Your friends have absolutely no place" barging in on your love life and taking the wheel, and all it takes is a respectful conversation. Communication will forever be the go-to solver of quarrels and life-challenges. Therefore, have a talk with your friends and explain how disrespected you feel when your relationship becomes the talk of the town. True friends will understand and apologize. Nevertheless, stand your ground and declare the fact that you don't appreciate people wriggling into your intimate relationship.

Of course, not every circumstance can be handled with a "talk over a cup of coffee." In this case, your best, most mature course of action is to ignore the juvenile behavior of gossip. It's just jealous spectators entertaining themselves with ideas of your relationship.

Again, remember that you are in control. Ergo, you and your partner are the only ones concerned with the happenings of your connections. Act as a wall and let the drama bounce back rather than knock you guys down.

Tell them to stick to gossiping about "Gossip Girl's" Blair Waldorf and Chuck Bass.

Anyhow, sometimes your friends and family just want to protect you from the hidden signs of domestic abuse. Let them step in! Even if they're wrong, it's better to be safe than sorry. Red flags are warnings, so take everything into consideration.

Question your friends, the potential danger signs, and the ins and outs of your relationship. Be aware of the possibilities, but most importantly find peace, comfort, and happiness within your passionate connections.

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